What to do if a child does not want to go to kindergarten - Yulia Vasilkina. Is it necessary to send a child to kindergarten: all the pros and cons - the opinion of psychologists Preparing a child for kindergarten Komarovsky

The period of adaptation of a child to kindergarten raises a lot of questions among parents. What awaits the baby away from his mother? How can I help him adapt to the new environment? The process of addiction is accompanied by certain characteristics and changes in the baby’s behavior. There are physical and psychological techniques, helping parents ensure quick and painless adaptation for children of different ages.

What is the adaptation period

Adaptation is the process of adapting the body to changing factors, in particular to the environment, nutrition, and daily routine. For a child, attending kindergarten is a kind of stress. Strangers, a new children's team, separation from beloved parents. The baby needs time to get used to all this.

Important! Parents can help their child get through a difficult period painlessly and quickly. Remember that adaptation is not only a psychological process, but also a physical one.

Dr. Komarovsky about adaptation to kindergarten (video)

Degrees of adaptation

All children adjust to kindergarten differently. For some, it is enough to spend just a day in a new environment in order to cheerfully tell their mother in the evening about their adventures and the joys of communicating with new friends. However, most children get used to it gradually. In most cases, the adaptation period is accompanied by tears and the child’s reluctance to go to kindergarten. Parents' worries intensify if the baby begins to get sick often.

There are three degrees of adaptation of the baby to kindergarten:

1. Easy adaptation. In this case, the child gets used to the new place in 3–4 weeks. The period is not accompanied by health difficulties or changes in the baby’s behavior. An easily adaptable child:
   • quickly finds contact with the teacher;
   • lets mother go without tears or whims;
   • not afraid to join a group;
   • is in a stable emotional state;
   • tells parents about what happened that day;
   • communicates easily with other children;
   • interested in toys in the group.
2. Moderate adaptation. The period of addiction is characterized by frequent manifestations of diseases against the background of a stable emotional state. The child does not experience strong psychological discomfort from being in a new team, but often catches a cold. This is due to the entry into the body of new bacteria and viruses that other children “bring with them.” For children who regularly attend kindergarten, these viruses are not dangerous. In a newly arrived child, bacteria unfamiliar to his body can cause illness. This adaptation lasts approximately one and a half months and is distinguished by the following characteristics:
   • the child does not always make contact with the teacher;
   • cries for a short time after parting with parents, quickly switches to active play activities;
   • tension before play or communication lasts several minutes, after which the child begins to actively interact with adults and peers;
   • responds adequately to comments or requests;
   • only occasionally violates the norms and rules of behavior, gets used to finding common language with peers and adults.
3. Difficult adaptation. Accompanied by physical ailments and negative emotional manifestations. It is difficult for a child to control emotions. He often cries and categorically refuses to leave his mother and go to kindergarten. Signs of severe adaptation:
   • the child does not make contact with adults and peers. Minimal communication is possible only in the presence of parents;
   • in the morning the baby cries for a long time and does not switch to the toys offered to him;
   • during the day he constantly thinks about family members who will take him away from the group;
   • withdraws, refuses to contact others, take toys and participate in games;
   • When the teacher notices or encourages him, he gets scared and seeks support from his mother.

A pediatrician will help you survive the difficult adaptation. child psychologist and neurologist. The positive attitude of adults is important.

A positive attitude from parents helps the child adapt faster

Possible problems

There are certain difficulties that parents face when sending their children to kindergarten:

• whims. Children who initially enjoyed visiting the kindergarten may suddenly refuse to go there again. They express their disagreement with tears and hysterics. This is due to the fact that the child initially perceived going to kindergarten as a temporary phenomenon. Having played enough and realizing that his mother will leave him in a new place every day, the baby stages a “protest.” In this case, you should not be led by children's emotions. Calmly explain that you need to go to work; he will spend the day in an interesting place with friends;
• refusal to eat. Unusual food in kindergarten often causes negative emotions in newly arrived children. There are little picky people who refuse to eat all day. Gradually, the child will begin to try the food offered. Parents who are faced with this problem should feed their baby tightly in the morning;
• negative emotions: screams, tears, hysterics. Negative manifestations will end when the baby understands that you will definitely come for him in the evening. Many children are initially afraid that their mother has left and will not return. This fear, which seems funny to adults, can be seriously disturbing. small child. Reassure the baby, promise to come in the evening. Remain calm yourself, children feel everything perfectly well.

Full adaptation occurs no earlier than 1–2 months after the start of attending kindergarten. Throughout this period, it is important for parents to provide all possible support to the child. After all, it is from the mother that the baby expects approval and consolation when any difficulties arise. How can parents help?

Tip: buy clothes and shoes with buttons or Velcro. This will allow the child to cope with dressing quickly and without outside help.

Features depending on age

Children start going to kindergarten in at different ages, this must be taken into account.

1. Children 2–4 years old will be helped to quickly adapt to the conditions of kindergarten:
   • possession of basic self-care skills;
   • willingness to communicate with adults;
   • positive emotional mood.
2. At an older age (4–6 years), relationships with peers come to the fore. Easy addiction will be ensured by:
   • the ability to communicate with peers, avoiding negativity and conflict situations;
   • the ability to listen to the comments of adults;
   • the ability to organize a game and have fun with others.

The best helper will be attention and love for the baby. Don’t be shy to hug your baby more often and say that you miss him. Seeing the calm and good mood Moms, a child of any age will quickly get used to the new environment.

What not to do during this period

Parents' opinions

We went to kindergarten at 2 years old. Before this, there had been talk for a couple of months that everyone in the family had their own job. Dad, mom go to their work, older sister- to school, and Sonechka will go to the garden. This is also an important activity. But the hardest part was yet to come. Our youngest grew up without grandparents, practically alone. Therefore, the first days in the garden were difficult, first of all, for me. She cried so much that I was ready to spit on everything and take her home. But I understood perfectly well that this period had to be endured. While picking up my daughter from kindergarten, I talked to her about the children in the group, what they were doing today, and encouraged her that tomorrow would be more interesting than today. On the way home they discussed who was friends with whom, what they fed, what they played. In short, anything, as long as she talks with pleasure. After about a month there were no more problems. And many thanks to the teachers who treated our kids very tenderly and touchingly.

Samarochka

Many children have a negative reaction to the garden. The first time is the most difficult both psychologically (adaptation) and physically (children often get sick). I can only wish you patience and calm, don’t panic. Leave for 1-2 hours. If you need to go to work, ask someone to pick you up early. Egor has been going to kindergarten for the second year now, but he has a special ritual: every morning he has to cry, this is goodbye to his dad. As soon as he crosses the threshold of the group, he plays, eats, sleeps, walks, exercises, dances, does everything he needs, and feels great. I pick him up in the evening, he is happy, contented, joyful, he tells me everything, shows new movements. Here’s another thing, a friend used this method: she waved her hand to her son out the window, and he waved at her. This was a compromise, because before this the child was hysterical. And then it helped the first time: he waved and calmly went to play in the group.

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It will take some time before your baby runs happily into the garden. Following the recommendations and advice will help make the period of adaptation to a new place quick and painless. Be especially attentive to your child. Be patient and stay positive.

Problem kindergarten- whether it is good or bad, whether to give a child away or not - sooner or later arises in every family. The urgency of the problem almost does not depend on the level of family well-being and on the employment of parents, each of whom has their own own experience and your personal opinion about the advantages and disadvantages - this is how all sorts of different ones are officially called nursery And kindergartens.
Without a doubt, parental decision making is largely determined by the above personal experience. However, while visiting kindergarten there are some very definite pros and cons - defined not from the point of view of specific dads and moms, but from the point of view of science, or rather sciences - pedagogy, medicine, psychology, sociology.
Let us immediately note that from the point of view of science as a whole, Kindergarten is clearly seen as a positive factor, absolutely necessary for a full education. And one cannot but agree with this - man has been a collective animal since time immemorial. The art of communication with other members of the community largely determines the entire human life- starting from meeting people of the opposite sex with the subsequent creation of a family and ending with industrial relations (employment, career, contacts with superiors, etc.). The art of communication is undoubtedly worth learning from childhood - no family, no nannies-governesses, no unemployed grandmothers can replace kindergarten.
Pedagogical and psychological aspects visits preschool institutions It’s difficult to even list. Adaptation of the child, contacts with other children and educators, learning skills, games, activities, routine, preparation for holidays - this is just a cursory list of possible topics for discussion. We will limit the range of issues under consideration to medical problems: something, but this is perhaps the most exciting topic.
So, the main disadvantage of visiting kindergarten - the child gets sick more often. No one can argue with this; both parents and medical workers, and this fact is completely obvious. Most diseases are acute infections, most often respiratory (that is, affecting the respiratory tract). The likelihood of contracting an infectious disease is closely related to your social circle - the wider it is, the easier it is to get sick. It is clear that a “home” child communicates less with other people.
Evident the fact of an increase in the frequency of diseases is not at all absolutely negative, as it might seem at first glance. Let's start with the fact that a number of infectious diseases that occur extremely easily in childhood(chickenpox, rubella) pose a real threat to the health and even life of an adult. And these diseases in mandatory you should get sick in a timely manner. "Find" rubella or chickenpox outside children's group very difficult. As for colds and acute respiratory infections, the frequency of diseases is not of decisive importance. The fact is that the number of circulating viruses, and 99% of respiratory infections are associated with viruses, is not infinite. Each acute respiratory infection experienced ends with the formation of antiviral immunity, reducing the likelihood of the next disease. Epidemics, for example, influenza and the likelihood of getting sick with the very concept " kindergarten" are not very related - if we don't catch the disease from children, dad will "bring" the flu from work. Viral infections that the child will not get sick with kindergarten, will definitely make themselves known at school. It's hard to argue with not going to school for a week kindergarten It's not the same as missing a week of school.
What is fundamentally different is not the frequency with which a child suffers from viral infections, but how they occur. If the course of acute respiratory infections is constantly accompanied by complications, then kindergarten This has absolutely nothing to do with it. The immunity of the child himself, living conditions, treatment tactics are important, but the likelihood of whether pneumonia will or will not occur against the background of a cold is absolutely not related to whether the child attends kindergarten or not.
Summarizing the topic of “increased kindergarten morbidity,” we note the following. Many parents tend to associate their own children’s illnesses with the fact that kindergarten the “most important” rules for caring for children are violated - they dressed the wrong way, the child was sitting on a cold floor, there was a draft in the room, etc. From this point of view, kindergarten is a very convenient thing - you can always blame it on your own failure as a teacher. Creating warm conditions for a child is the norm, supported by numerous instructions on how to properly dress, bathe, feed and walk. The result is a draft, walking barefoot, cold water, lack of a hat, etc. - "unacceptable phenomena". But did you, parents, really hope that your child would never encounter all this in his life? The conclusions are obvious - firstly, “there’s no point in blaming the mirror...”, and what follows from firstly, secondly: prepare your child for kindergarten follows in advance - adequate upbringing from the moment of birth.
The very fact that the child will go to kindergarten, makes it mandatory to carry out the entire complex of necessary preventive vaccinations - without this baby in kindergarten They just won't take it. In the future, control over the timing of vaccinations is carried out by a nurse kindergarten, children are regularly examined by specialist doctors, which is undoubtedly a positive phenomenon, because parents, with rare exceptions, do not tend to go to a children's clinic before the child gets sick.
Age , in which the child will go to kindergarten for the first time , is a special question. Let's leave the debate on when it is better to do this (at 1 year or at 3) to teachers. In such a situation, the doctor is more concerned about the question - where will the mother be when the child goes to kindergarten? Absolutely typical next situation: On September 1st the child goes to school for the first time kindergarten and on the same day mom goes to work after maternity leave. A week later, which is quite natural, the baby “earns” his first kindergarten ARI, and the mother receives her first leave to care for a sick child. As a result, my mother has troubles at work, since she is not a good employee.
It is very important to understand the following: no matter how wonderful kindergarten, no matter how excellent the child’s health, he will still get sick more often at first. It is very difficult to clarify this concept of “at first” - maybe 3-4 months, or maybe even a year. And it is very desirable that, when sending a child to kindergarten, my mother stayed at home. It is very important to be able to leave the child at home at the slightest discomfort (slight runny nose, cough), without waiting for the disease to progress and without exposing other children to the risk of infection. And how nice it is not to think about sick leave and upcoming conversations with your superiors.
A very important point - time of year when is it supposed to start visit to kindergarten. Obviously, it is better not to do this from October to April - the active circulation of respiratory viruses significantly increases the risk of disease and, accordingly, lengthens the adaptation time.
A whole series medical issues has direct contact with employees of preschool institutions. Teachers have their own views on how children should be fed, dressed and hardened. These views, for the most part, correspond to the ideas of our society that it is good for children to be fed at any cost and, most importantly, not allowed to freeze. We must not forget that the remuneration of kindergarten employees does not promote much enthusiasm and makes conflicts with parents due to differences in views on the principles of nutrition and dressing absolutely undesirable. If you, parents, are aware that your child cannot be forced to eat, if you understand that overheating and sweating are more likely to lead to a cold than hypothermia, take the trouble to bring this to the attention of the teacher. It is very important that Maria Ivanovna does not feel guilty about the fact that Petya refused to eat soup.
No one is immune from injuries and sudden illnesses. Taking this into account, workers kindergarten They must have information about what diseases the child has suffered from and about all cases of drug and food allergies. It is highly desirable to have the ability to communicate with parents in an emergency.
The building in which it is located kindergarten, the quality and timeliness of repair work, the bedroom and dining room, a place to walk, the number of children in the group, the professionalism and conscientiousness of the employees - all this is very important and greatly affects the incidence of illness. The influence of parents on these factors is directly related to the possibility of choice, which is determined material well-being and the place of residence of the family - the doctor’s advice is unlikely to help here. We can only hope that you and your children are lucky with both your place of residence and your material well-being.

I don’t know what to do anymore. The child is 3 years old, refuses to go to kindergarten, tears and hysterics, cannot tear himself away from his mother, is very attached to me. No matter what I’ve done, the child just doesn’t want to go to kindergarten. I myself am already worried that he screams and cries there when I leave and leave him there. My heart breaks, I send her to kindergarten, and I myself go with tears in my eyes. Maybe it's too early for him?

Victoria Vinnikova, teacher, answers:

Hello, Lena. We understand you. On the one hand, I want to feel sorry for the baby, and at the same time it is necessary that he attend kindergarten.

Parents go to great lengths to “persuade” their child to go to kindergarten. Someone equips the baby with a whole backpack of toys. Others have long conversations like: “You will go to kindergarten, and mom will go to work.”

And it also happens that the older child happily ran to kindergarten, but the younger one does not want to go to kindergarten. Why does this happen, what determines the desire or unwillingness to go to kindergarten? From a child, kindergarten, teacher or something else?

If a child does not want to go to kindergarten, the forum for young mothers is often the first place parents go for advice. But the fact is that children are different, so there is no guarantee that what works for other moms will work for you. At first it seemed to work, but then time passes, and you still drag him in your arms to kindergarten, and he kicks and cries and doesn’t want to go.

Let's figure out why a child doesn't want to go to kindergarten, with the help of System-Vector Psychology by Yuri Burlan.

So, why doesn’t a child want to go to kindergarten?

The adaptation process depends on many factors, including the innate characteristics of the baby’s psyche (vectors). When a child does not want to go to kindergarten, there are general obvious reasons and private ones related to the individual characteristics of the child’s psyche.

Let's look at everything in order.

Reason #1. Adaptation and daily routine

It is important to understand that when a child does not want to go to kindergarten, adaptation to the new stage of his life should occur gradually. The habit does not appear immediately; in any case, kindergarten is always stressful for such a “little one,” because he is separated from his mother for a long time.

All children go through this period, but the owners of different vectors have their own characteristics. For example, children with an anal vector get used to changing conditions more difficult than others. But if they have adapted, then, on the contrary, it is difficult to take them home; they get carried away and become attached to the children and the teacher.

Children with the skin vector adapt more easily than others. They easily and happily join new groups and switch from a home atmosphere to a play environment in a children's group.

But children with a visual vector have a hard time experiencing any separation from their mother, crying pitifully or throwing tantrums.

Read more about individual characteristics look .

In any case, parents must accustom their child to the kindergarten regime at least a month before visiting it. If the butuz has not had enough sleep, then, naturally, he will be capricious when he gets ready for kindergarten. There are some children who are simply brought to the garden while sleeping. Of course, blaming the little one for being capricious is at least unreasonable.

Reason #2. Skills and abilities

Around 2-3 years old little man He is already learning to help his mother: he eats himself, puts things on himself, puts away toys, and so on. But often mothers, in order not to waste time - quickly, quickly - dress the slow baby themselves. Thus, they interfere with the formation of independence skills. And so, in kindergarten he stands out among other children for his inability, which also upsets him.
So, first of all, check your baby’s skills and praise him for his first steps towards independence.

In addition, if a child participates in getting ready for kindergarten, that is, he makes his own efforts - ties his shoelaces, chooses what clothes he should wear today, helps his mother open the door to kindergarten - then he no longer perceives kindergarten as hard labor: he is not forced, he he himself is involved in this.

IMPORTANT! Reason #3. Food

A child in kindergarten is under bondage and may be forced to eat. Sometimes to the point of vomiting. He will not be able to tell you about this, but he will feel violence and enormous psychological discomfort. The child may not even remember that today he had to choke on the hated porridge, but this experience greatly affects his attitude towards kindergarten.

Needless to say, a child cannot be forced to eat at home either - this is a huge psychological trauma that affects the child’s entire future life. Therefore, be sure to warn your loved ones and the teacher so that your child is not force-fed.

Reason #4. Teacher

The child does not want to go to kindergarten - talk to the teacher.

By the way, when a child does not want to go to kindergarten, Komarovsky focuses on the fact that the main thing is what kind of teacher is in the kindergarten, and we completely agree with him on this.

But how do you understand how good a teacher is?

This can be understood from your observations and from a conversation with your baby. Of course, you shouldn’t take everything at face value, but you need to listen carefully to the child. Try to understand what emotions he experiences when communicating with the teacher. At the same time, carefully ask questions and, through a positive approach, find out from the child what they did in kindergarten.

You can also invite your child to play in kindergarten: he will be the teacher, and the bears and dolls will be the children. How the child behaves during this game and how he relates to toys gives the most complete picture of the conditions in which the child grows up in the garden.

Be sure to ask the teacher how your child behaves in kindergarten. How he communicates with other children, how he eats.

Certainly, the best teacher for a child, this is a developed visual woman: soft, adoring children. It is she, thanks to her sensuality, who teaches children to create emotional connections. After all, children are still too young to understand anything consciously. It is the emotional, kind teacher who, through fairy tales and her own example, awakens children’s interest in understanding the world and helps to correctly build the first connections in the children’s team.

In fact, when choosing a kindergarten, look for a kind and gentle teacher who will show the children “what is good and what is bad.” With the knowledge gained during the training, you can easily determine which teacher works at the call of her heart, and which one is mistakenly in her place and has a negative impact on children.

In general, a child in kindergarten is a whole complex of issues, but there is the most important one.

Reason #5. Mother's internal state

The main thing is the mother’s internal state.

One of the discoveries of system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan is the disclosure of the mechanism of complete dependence of the child’s condition on the mother’s condition. In terms of system-vector psychology this is called.

When a child does not want to go to kindergarten, in fact it is not a so-and-so child. He is still too young to make any conscious decisions. His entire state comes from feelings and sensations that he literally reads from his mother. The mother is nervous or anxious - the child reacts to this according to his vectors. This does not mean that he will also be nervous or anxious. He will manifest it in his own way.

The visual “dreamer” will throw tantrums, the baby with the anal vector will sulk and be stubborn, and the one with the skin vector, a sort of “fidget”, will spin in all directions and show hyperactivity. In fact, the baby simply picks up the wave of the mother’s state and reacts through its innate properties.

Also pay your attention to a weekday morning: what mood the household members are in, how they are getting ready for kindergarten. Don't they look like a commotion? If the mother is nervous, in a hurry, or worried about possible lateness, then the child may develop a negative attitude towards kindergarten for a long time.

As soon as the mother begins to understand congenital psychological characteristics baby, it’s easy for her to choose her own way. The child becomes calm, and, as a result, he adapts to new conditions faster. In general, against the backdrop of a feeling of security and safety, the child develops very well.

Thousands of results from our listeners confirm the effectiveness of system-vector psychology, because it is practical knowledge.

Modern children are polymorphic, that is, they have from 2 to 5 vectors in their set (there are eight vectors in total). Understand all the intricacies of your baby’s psyche, and not look for some magic spell To make your child want to go to kindergarten, you can already attend Yuri Burlan’s free online training.

Hello, dear readers! I haven’t written anything for a long time, although I had a lot of thoughts and ideas. Of course, I’m lazy and just can’t pull myself together and sit down at my “typewriter,” but this time I was very distracted by problems related to my daughter’s health.

We went to the garden

As I wrote earlier, in September we went to kindergarten. Don’t think, I don’t want to dissuade anyone from kindergarten or scare anyone - I just want parents to imagine what it might mean for a child to “adapt” to a new environment - kindergarten. I thought I knew and was ready for the fact that a child who just starts kindergarten begins to get sick more often in almost 100% of cases. Also, I thought and hoped that my child’s immunity was strong and it wasn’t that scary for us.

Why did you think that? Because I believed that:

• healthy lifestyle; breast-feeding up to one and a half years of age;
• walks every day and in any weather;
• A lot of time spent in the country near the forest and lake, nutrition and much more should have a positive effect on the baby’s immunity.

Getting used to kindergarten

But it turned out that we are not so strong. I will describe step by step how we got used psychologically to the new environment:

1. Great interest. At first (the first week) I couldn’t pick up my daughter from kindergarten.
2. Loss of interest. At this stage, the child peacefully expressed his non-special desire to attend kindergarten.
3. “I want to go to my mom!!!” The baby really didn’t want to go to the garden - while she was there she constantly cried and was capricious. We got out of this situation like this: we started taking our daughter for only a few hours a day, as if agreeing with her when they would pick her up. Over the course of the week, she became calmer, and after about two weeks she began to attend kindergarten with pleasure and behave adequately: play, have fun, eat, sleep, etc...
4. Habituation, interest and desire to visit kindergarten.

Diseases from kindergarten

The period of adaptation also affected the child’s health. Here's what we've already been through in these 2.5 months:

1. Food poisoning(5 days of treatment);

2. Sore throat (treated for about 2 weeks);

3. Wet cough (cured without a doctor in a few days);

4. Acute respiratory infection with a temperature below 39.5, accompanied by a wet cough (treated for 10 days);

5. And now again - it’s not clear what - very high temperature 39.7 There are no more symptoms, we are taking antibiotics, and test results will be available on Monday.

I had a runny nose 2 more times, but I don’t count it anymore. Moreover, to be fair, I will say that I don’t think that the child caught all these illnesses in the garden, but for some reason we used to get sick once every six months or even a year...

I'm just shocked. I’ve heard more than once from parents whose children just started kindergarten: “We spend a week getting treatment, we go to kindergarten for a week...”

Doctors say that the child must develop immunity to various viruses and microbes. Adaptation takes from 3 to 6 months, sometimes more. This is a little reassuring, but you need to have courage and patience for this entire period. You need to get over childhood illnesses in childhood - and adapt.

All children are different and adapt differently.

How did your children get used to the kindergarten environment? What difficulties did you encounter during this period? Let's share our experience!

Doctor Komarovsky: adaptation period in kindergarten

Socialization – important process personality formation. For children, it begins in the family and continues among peers, first in kindergarten and then at school. Therefore, sooner or later, every parent faces the question: when to send their child to kindergarten. It should be said that there is no clear opinion on this matter. However, there are a number of well-established principles that have been tested for decades, as well as advice on this matter from experienced pediatricians and teachers.

Rules for admission to kindergarten

Children should be able to play with their peers

For young parents, especially if they have their first child, the issue of entering kindergarten causes a lot of conversation and controversy. Starting from the optimal age for the first acquaintance with children's preschool and ending with the necessary set of clothes for walking and sleeping.

The law on the admission of children to kindergartens stipulates that the baby can be sent to nursery group from nine months of age. The child is not required to have any skills or abilities. This rule has not changed since Soviet times, when the period of maternity leave was much shorter than it is now. Therefore, now not many parents decide to send such babies to a nursery group. And the nursery begins accepting children from two years of age. In this case, the child should already be able to ask to use the potty.

To children who enter junior group kindergarten, the following requirements are met:

• ability to eat independently with a spoon;
• fold a pyramid to reduce the volume of the rings;
• collect elementary figures from cubes;
• distinguish colors (desirable, but not mandatory).

To be admitted to a kindergarten (nursery), parents must write an application, submit a certificate of the child’s health and collect the necessary set of things for the baby, a list of which can be found at the selected institution.

Readiness criteria

A child in kindergarten must have basic skills

Psychologists and teachers agree that in order to ensure that starting school in kindergarten is not stressful for a child, you need to carefully consider the criteria that determine the child’s readiness to enter a preschool institution.

1. The main recommendation for parents is to choose optimal age. It's better if it happens before the crisis three years or after it. However, as you know, the crisis manifests itself in all children individually: for some at 2.5 years, and for others closer to 4. Therefore, if possible, it is better to enroll in kindergarten from the age of 4. By this time, on the one hand, the baby will learn to be without his mother, and on the other, the important period of initial world knowledge, which occurs through close contact between mother and child, will end.
2. The baby must be able to speak and use his vocabulary to formulate thoughts or requests.
3. In order for adaptation to a group of peers to be successful, the child must strive for contacts with other children.
4. The child has developed basic household skills: he can dress himself with minimal assistance, eats with a spoon and uses the potty without problems.

How to make adaptation easy and painless

A positive image of kindergarten is the basis for successful adaptation

If you think that your child is ready for kindergarten, then it is important to consider some factors that will help you easily and quickly go through the adaptation period:

• An important aspect of choosing the time to enter kindergarten remains the season. The best period is considered to be from July to August. At this time of year, children’s immunity is strengthened by the summer sun and vitamins, which means that many infections and viruses are not scary. In addition, all educational classes begin in September, therefore, the child will have time to adapt to the new place, get used to it, which will only interfere with studies.
• The child needs to form a positive image of the preschool institution. To do this, show him more often pictures of children in kindergarten, talk with your child about how to have a good time with his peers, how many new friends he will have.
• Adjust your child’s daily routine to the kindergarten routine. This way you will make it much easier for your child to get used to the daily routine and discipline him.
• Try to make the topic of kindergarten come up more often in your communication with neighbors and relatives - children react very sensitively to conversations of adults.
• Teach your child to get ready for kindergarten in the evening, just as you do for the next working day. Help your child prepare clothes, choose a toy with which he will go to kindergarten. Place everything in a bag or bag. This habit will be useful in the subsequent school period.
• Talk to the parents of those kids who like your baby. By doing this, you will help strengthen their friendships.
• Pay close attention to how your child perceives the teacher and teachers in kindergarten. If someone is frankly unlikable to your child, it is better to change the group. Do not try to force your child to love someone - he is not obliged to do this.

A.S. Makarenko said: “The teacher must behave in such a way that every movement educates him, and must always know what he wants at the moment and what he does not want. If a teacher doesn’t know this, who can he educate?”