If the husband fell out of love
There is a lot of prejudice in matters of marriage, and they are surprisingly tenacious. Some women believe that if she did not have a relationship with this man, then everything will be different with another.
Or they think that a short relationship can kill a marriage, and arguments poison the love in the family. Everything is very individual, and women's delusions are not only wrong, but also quite dangerous for the family.
Reasons for marital fragility
A survey of women conducted by researchers revealed the reasons for the fragility of family relationships, and they are as follows:
- Adultery.
- Alcoholism.
- Use of force on a spouse.
- Character incompatibility.
- Lack of common interests.
How to save a family
After a few years, life together often turns into a routine. Mutual accusations can only lead to a real quarrel. Think about your love that bound you for several years, think about the children, how they will survive your breakup, and try to find a solution.
To be respected, you need to be able to listen and support your partner. And don't forget to say nice words to each other.
After all, a kind word is not only pleasant for a cat! But the person who shares life with you needs kind words and praise.
Get to the heart of the problem
Discuss with your loved one why he became dissatisfied with you. Why did he like your short skirts before, and now he methodically destroys them? Try to write down all his claims in a notebook, and after a short time a list of all your "jambs" will be formed.
Analyze his remarks, perhaps he reproaches you for the case? He forbids yelling at children, gossip for hours on the phone - there is a rational grain in his words. Therefore, you need to understand your weaknesses and shortcomings. 
Or maybe he grumbles at you, but he means himself, finds fault with your appearance, and at the same time is dissatisfied with himself. Help him - your task is to find out the true cause of your discord.
Joint leisure
Spending time together holds the family together, and when parents and children go to the forest together, go sledding or skiing, they will never be bored together. Because they have one view of life and joint leisure.
Try to share the views of your half on a joint vacation, and gradually you will get used to it. And if his point of view on recreation is useful for children, whether it's cycling, puzzles, dancing, songs, books, the more fun you will have and feel like a real family - friendly and strong.
Even fishing, everyone can find something useful for themselves: the husband fishes, and the mother and child walk along the bank or in the forest. You can show the baby plants, flowers, cones, tell where they grow, what shape and color.
Compare different leaves, explain to your child how they differ, why they are green and not a different color, what happens to them in autumn. This is very informative and interesting for the baby. That's fishing for you!
General entertainment
Discuss with your husband what you would like to do separately and what you would like to do together. No one should feel disadvantaged by involuntarily submitting to the interests of a partner. Strengthen ties with friends, organize gatherings with mutual friends. You have common interests, but you need to draw a circle and what you will do alone. 
Determine the scope of people who can be your joint friends, and those who will be "recorded" as friends by one of you. Friends may well be both individual and general. You will visit someone together, and some - one at a time. It's ok if it's your general solution.
Flirt by text
Every man has his own erotic fantasies, but your main task is to find out and help to realize them in order to keep your husband from cheating. Are you embarrassed or hesitant to talk about them out loud? Then write each other notes or SMS. 
You can try to move from words to deeds over time, when you decide exactly what turns your partner on more. Perhaps the correspondence will do its job: the discussion itself will already give a feeling of light flirting and the realization of a dream.
Pleasant surprises
Do not miss the moment when the husband's interest begins to wane, take timely measures to prevent this. Arrange for him a romantic candlelit dinner, while being in a revealing outfit.
Give your loved one a relaxing massage, watch an adult movie before going to bed. The husband asked you to bake pancakes on the weekend, do not consider this a whim, give him gastronomic pleasure.
It is in your power to make a pleasant surprise for your loved one, especially since you already know his addictions and weaknesses.
Variety of intimate life
A big mistake for women is to think that a man should do everything in bed. In fact, he simply dreams not of asking, but of receiving. Try to find out what he likes, listen to him and watch what forms of caresses give pleasure. 
The second option is to explain what you like. Do not hush up unpleasant moments, if you do not react, then the man thinks that everything is in order. To revive the intensity of the relationship, change the environment. A night in an unusual place, for example, in the hayloft, will help revive passionate feelings!
mutual help
The wife makes the house cozy: she bakes pies, runs the household, goes to work. After a while, she notices that she has driven herself into a corner, burdening herself with all domestic problems. For a husband, the situation, when all the worries lie with the woman, is apparently familiar and comfortable. Therefore, there is no reaction from his side, and there will not be.
This is where a smart person should stop, because the time has come for her to learn how to save time, energy and herself. For housework there are household services, semi-finished products, modern household appliances.
Yes, it requires financial costs, but the situation is such that soon the wife can become an evil fury. If the spouse allows himself to make claims about extra expenses, well! Calmly invite him to take an equal part in household chores.
Rest from each other
There are families where the spouses go separately to rest, each has its own company, and she goes to the theater, cinema or museum with a friend, and he goes with a friend, and so on. They go to the store together, raise children and solve various household issues, but they spend their holidays separately, so they are both comfortable. 
And this is acceptable when one of them loves loneliness, and the second is very active. Each spouse should have personal space, there is no need to panic because of the partner’s desire to take a break from you for fear that the husband fell in love with another.
It will do everyone good to change their environment for a while, or to be alone for a little while. Well, a person has a need to be alone, respect it. Agree that once every one or two years you have the right to go on vacation alone, and once a week or a month - to arrange a "bachelor party" or "hen party" without a second half.
Change of priorities
In family life, it often happens that one of the spouses achieves more in career growth and begins to earn more. If a woman becomes this more successful person, it can be difficult for her companion to come to terms with this. His male pride suffers, he feels less important in the family than his wife, and offended.
The wife should not show her importance, especially when they are together in the company of friends or relatives.
A woman is obliged to reconsider her views on her husband and family, how much she likes this change of priorities. If she wants to save her family, without giving up her earnings, she can help her husband learn how to earn more.
How to save yourself from divorce
If family relationships are cracking at the seams, then it's time to find the cause of the problems and eliminate it. If it lies in the shortcomings of one of the partners, it may be necessary not to fight them, but to accept them.
Before you file for divorce, think it over carefully, the crisis in the relationship can pass, and the relationship will improve again.
The advice of a family psychologist helps many couples get out of divorce. A specialist will help you find a problem in a relationship and restore peace and harmony.
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If the husband fell out of love
Will she be able to continue to live a family life, knowing that her husband only tolerates her? If she wants to return her old feelings, and she has the strength to fight for love, then this is her right, but will she be able to save her family if her husband has stopped loving? You can make attempts: try to find the causes of cooling, change your image, appearance, character.
You can go on vacation with him to an interesting country or place where you will have an exciting time and, perhaps, this will bring you together again.
But all this can be done if the man agrees to all these actions. Otherwise, he will make the decision about your life.
After cheating husband
The betrayal of a loved one is a difficult test for a woman. But it is possible to get out of such a situation with dignity and competently. If she loves her husband and wants to save her family, she needs to let go of resentment, anger, anxiety, fear.
After cheating wife
A woman, having confessed to infidelity, feels better, as if a mountain has fallen from her shoulders. She thinks that her husband will understand that she needs someone other than him, and will be afraid to lose her.
But she does not take into account that this confession hurts her husband's pride, and generally endangers the existence of marriage.
Therefore, it is better to keep your betrayals to yourself. Only if there is a danger that the husband may learn about it from others, you need to find a convenient moment and open up.
After the birth of a child
Prepare the man in advance for the fact that with the advent of the baby, less attention will be paid to him. And in moments of intimacy, do not skimp on affection and flattery, thereby encouraging your partner to have sex and proving with your tenderness that no one will ever replace him for you.
Make sure that the child does not obscure the whole world, because such behavior of a young mother can lead to betrayal and divorce.
Remember that there is another contender for a place in your heart - a husband. And the preservation of the family is necessary for both you and the child, so that he does not grow up in the future without a father.
If the husband drinks
Wives whose husbands are addicted to alcohol should definitely contact a narcologist with him. Only the treatment that he accepts of his own free will will help such a person. If he wakes up with a desire to live normally, then he should be observed by a psychologist. 
In the fight against alcohol, work with a psychologist, a cozy and friendly atmosphere in the house, and a hobby that has appeared will help. Women's tantrums and scandals, talk about divorce, will not help. If a wife wants to get her husband out of "this hole", she must take the initiative in her own hands and help her husband stop drinking.
If the wife does not love her husband
The feelings are gone, but why? It is worth trying to understand the reason and understand whether it is worth destroying family life. It may be necessary to take a break from communication and thereby test your feelings, because in separation you understand whether your companion is dear or not.
Of course, if you are absolutely sure that your husband is cheating on you, you have constant scandals and quarrels in your family, then you should probably let each other go. But if you feel respect for him, tenderness, gratitude, and he is attached to you, it is better to talk calmly.
Love can hide in the depths of the soul, powdered with petty quarrels, everyday life, fatigue. And if you talk together about your feelings, then decide if everything can be fixed.
It makes sense to keep a good, friendly family with children and appreciate what is always there. But, if the wife loves another man, and the husband found out about it, it is possible that he simply does not want to live without love, and he himself will part with her.
Rules for keeping the peace
The ability to shut your mouth in a timely manner and avoid scandal is an excellent recipe for maintaining harmony in the family. When a woman starts screaming, she sometimes does not understand what she is talking about, and a man is a very touchy creature.
The ladies will cry, turn around and go to cook borscht, but for the male representatives, everything is not so simple. They stack their grudges like ironed linen and then give them away!
Therefore, the wife must have the ability to shut up in time. A smart woman learns not to respond to a man with a scandal, but skillfully avoids an impending quarrel. 
The Art of Arguing
A wise woman must know the secrets of a successful dispute and skillfully use them. For example, do not persist when the husband's arguments are obvious, but also disagree if they are not proven, although they seem to be true.
Do not interrupt your loved one, trying to convey your idea to him, but listen carefully to him. Sometimes a man, without noticing it, gives a woman an argument in her hands that proves her thought.
You can just let your husband win the argument if his topic is not so important to you. But in your heart you will know that you acted wisely, and believe me, it's nice!
After 20 years of marriage
Romance in the relationship of a married couple is preserved only in the first unforgettable time after they met. Then light love turns into a stronger feeling and passion. The danger comes when there is no more romance in the marriage, and the spouses begin to look for it on the side.
The willingness to "go left" increases over the years, especially when a midlife crisis occurs in men. First, he begins to follow the eyes of young girls, leaf through magazines with images of naked beauties, or watch porn films with interest.
This is a signal that you should take a closer look at yourself and consider whether you are attractive enough for your partner.
And if there has been a cooling, then it's time to seriously get down to business. They love you, of course, for your excellent and unsurpassed soul. But also for a fragrant clean body, covered with sexy rags, skillfully emphasizing your advantages and hiding your flaws.
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Sex for 20 years has become dull and monotonous, so you need to spice it up and spice it up. Learn to push your partner to the game, diversify lovemaking, cute love nicknames will cause a surge of feelings.
The time has come for the operation “Reset of feelings”, and you should become its initiator, and not some extraneous woman who can get a husband brought up by you for 20 years “on a silver platter”.
What to do if your husband wants a divorce
Even if you don’t want to part with your loved one, you don’t need to make a scandal to your husband, it’s better to give vent to tears. Your tears will at least make him feel guilty, instead of having him finally strengthened in the correctness of parting by seeing you angry and screaming.
Try not to consider yourself a victim, but think about the benefits that marriage has given you. Probably, you have achieved something in life, acquired something, you just don’t need to feel used. 
Let go of him and this whole situation, parting with loved ones is not easy, but you can ease the pain and meet new happiness. Parting means one thing: the ex-partner does not love you now, but this does not mean at all that you will live without love or are generally unworthy of it.
Young family
After the wedding, you find that the sweetheart has very unpleasant habits and that your patience will soon run out. How to combine love for a man with antipathy for his individual habits?
You should not give vent to your anger too often, this path can lead to a break. It is better to find time for a heart-to-heart talk and explain to him why you do not like this or that manner of his behavior.
But let him know that misunderstandings cannot affect your feelings for him. The spouse will see in you a person who can solve any problems calmly.
If he continues to persist, learn to treat it with humor - because of trifles, you should not spoil the relationship. 
Honesty in marriage is, of course, important, but it should not become an end in itself, but, on the contrary, help both. If we are talking about the betrayal of one of the spouses, it is better to forget about it, trying not to repeat this mistake again. By reconnecting, you can discover the joy that comes from the power of forgiveness to change you.
Separate rest is not a tragedy, but the inability to understand and hear each other makes family life impossible. Remember the strengths of your man more often and admire him.
Ladies, you should always remember that the stronger sex is terribly annoyed by your bad habits and careless appearance. However, women have the same feeling regarding the sloppiness of men.
Do not let your husband see you in a repulsive way, such as with unshaven armpits or worn household items. If your husband has the same "sin", tell him how he looks in torn shorts or stretched t-shirts.
Should a marriage be saved?
It seems that between the spouses all feelings have long faded away, and the family is perceived as something ordinary. But if there is a child in the family, then first of all it is worth considering what kind of trauma your divorce will cause him.
Try to get out of the house more with the whole family: to the zoo, cinema, circus, just skiing. The diversity of life will allow you to return to your old feelings, revive past memories, and you will be able to restore a happy family! 
Try to remember everything that happened in your family life, what did you like about your future husband, why did you love him? Try to spend time with him in your favorite place where you used to feel good together. Perhaps you will understand that love has survived, you just stopped supporting this fire with your feelings.
When You Shouldn't Resist Divorce
When a woman realizes that she is not able to come to terms with her husband's infidelity, then you can file for divorce. But you need to do this consciously and calmly, without losing faith either in yourself or in your happy future.
Many women discover only after a few years that they are married to a man who never understood them. And the conclusion “They didn’t fit in character” is one of the reasons that leads spouses to divorce.
It is difficult to cure a husband of alcoholism, and if the fight against addiction has not brought results for several years, leave him. Because the result of life with an alcoholic can be a terrible depression, isolation, self-hatred and sexual fatigue. And then you yourself will have to be treated by a psychologist. 
If the one you call your husband often drinks, comes home only in the morning, cheats on you, raises his hand against you - don’t even think about saving the family. You have one option - take the children and leave, or solve the housing problem. Such a person will not bring more happiness to you or your children.