How to find out if a person is married. Marital status (types). What is the marital status?

Marital status is an item that interests employers and people around you. Even when registering on some sites, you need to indicate whether you are married. Often, when filling out a resume, you must disclose your marital status. The types of this item are different for representatives of the weak and strong half humanity. That's why many people get confused when writing a resume, because any mistake can cost them the desired position. For example, divorced men do not know what to write in the “Marital status” column: single or not married? Women can make stupid mistakes too. Let's look at all the nuances of the “marital status” status: types for men and women, documentary and moral subtleties of this item.

Types of marital status

On the legal side, there are several types of marital status. Let's look at each of them:

• Single means that a person has never been married and is not currently in a legal relationship.
• Divorced means that a person was previously married but is not currently married to anyone.
• Married - a person is in a legal relationship that is documented.
• I am in a civil marriage - not an officially legalized marriage, but it means that a man and a woman live together and run a common household. Recently, civil marriage has become especially popular, so this concept was introduced into jurisprudence.

This is the case with marital status, the types of which we discussed above.

What is the marital status of men?

Men have different marital statuses. For example, he may be married, which means that he is legally married. A man can also be unofficially married while in a civil marriage. Another type of marital status for a representative of the stronger half of humanity is single or not married. Many people believe that these two words have different meanings, but in fact, from a legal point of view, they are simply synonyms. They mean that the young man has never been married. There is also the term "widower" which is used to refer to the fact that a man was previously married, but his wife has passed away.

Now you know what the marital status of representatives of the stronger half of humanity is.

What is the woman's marital status?

Women have the same types of marital status as men. So, a representative of the fair half of humanity may be married or unmarried, and she may also be a widow. The meanings of these terms are clear based on the above explanations.

Is marital status important for an employer?

Of course, your marital status plays a role when applying for a job. Moreover, having a family can be both a plus and a minus. With young people who have barely turned twenty years old, everything is clear without words: at this time, most people are just graduating from universities and trying to get on their feet. At the same time, many employers are wary of candidates for a position who have not started a family by the age of thirty, because this fact may mean that they have problems in terms of communication. Implementation in the area of ​​relationships for some employers can be a decisive factor in choosing an employee.

However, the absence of a family means the absence of serious responsibilities and factors that would distract from work. Therefore, many managers prefer that the woman be divorced or single, and the man single. Such people will not be distracted by family responsibilities, which means they will be more effective in the office.

In general, it is impossible to guess whether your freedom from marriage will be an advantage or, on the contrary, this fact will undermine your reputation. In any case, it is best to write the truth on your resume, because sooner or later a lie will come true. Moreover, first of all, the employer will evaluate your skills and education and only then will begin to pay attention to secondary factors.

How to change your marital status in your passport?

If you want to legally legitimize your relationship with your significant other, first of all you need to submit an application to the registry office. After painting, you will be given a marriage certificate. It is worth remembering: in order to get a marriage stamp in your passport, you need to come with a document confirming this fact to the passport office. If your surname changes, a woman’s passport will have to be completely changed.

During the divorce process, after the official dissolution of the marriage, you need to do the same steps: come to the passport office with a divorce certificate and receive the coveted mark: “single” or “not married.”

It should be borne in mind that cohabitation in a civil marriage is not documented in any way, because this type of marital status is not considered official.

Marital status is not only legal status

As we have seen, in jurisprudence, marital status is important, the types of which you already know. But in fact, psychologists identify other types of marital status that do not depend on the stamp in the passport:

• An ideal marriage, as understood by relationship experts, is a marriage in which the spouses share both joys and sorrows equally. Responsibility for life together is not transferred to one of the partners, so coexistence becomes comfortable and enjoyable for both.
• Today, a type of marital situation often occurs in which one of the partners is dependent on the other. At the same time, psychologists note that now women are more inclined to take the reins of power into their own hands than representatives of the stronger half of humanity.
• A marriage where the spouses constantly “butt heads”, finding out who is boss in the house. On this basis, quarrels constantly arise that prevent partners from enjoying each other’s company.
• It is also common to find families where husband and wife try too hard to maintain each other's independence. Each of them can live their own interests, and partners are rarely interested in the affairs of their other half. As a result, such an alliance sooner or later collapses.

As we see, from a psychological point of view, marital status can also be different.

Conclusions

1. There are two types of official marital status: married or married, single or single. Civil marriage, which is so common today, is not an official type of marital status.
2. It is extremely important for employers to know whether their potential employee has a family. The “Marital status” column can tell you a lot about a person. However, when writing a resume, you should not lie, because sooner or later the truth will be revealed to the employer.
3. Being legally married does not mean being a happy person. Psychologists have identified some relationship patterns that show that spouses do not always get along well with each other.

Many men, for reasons known to all, hide their marital status from strangers, especially girls. This behavior gives a man the opportunity to feel independent and free, and also allows him to have a short affair with a charming lady who captivated him with her beauty. If you intend to build serious relationship and you don't want to fall into a trap married man, you should have information about the signs that will certainly allow you to draw a conclusion about the true marital status young man.

1. Wedding ring.

Of course, a man whose intention is to start a non-binding romance will certainly remove this accessory from his finger before meeting the girl he likes. However, the mark from the ring, which adorned the man’s hand for a long time, will not go away. Take a close look at the young man's ring finger - perhaps this is how you will be able to figure out if he has a wife.

2. Weekends and holidays.

Pay attention to how you spend the holidays with your loved one - together or separately? Probably, on the eve of every red day of the calendar, if a man is married, he has unexpected matters that require immediate resolution, or unscheduled business trips? New Year, March 8, Christmas – these holidays are usually celebrated with family and close friends, so if your loved one always mysteriously disappears on the eve of such dates, rest assured that he is spending time with his legal wife.

3. Passport. Many girls naively believe that they can find accurate information about a man’s marital status in his passport. Even if you somehow manage to get your hands on this important document, do not rush to rejoice when you see the absence of a marriage stamp - in our modern world The concept of civil marriage is widespread.

4. A night together. If he is married, he can find a thousand different reasons why he cannot stay overnight with his beloved girl. This behavior most likely means only one thing - he’s waiting at home loving wife with a hot dinner.

We continue to find out if our loved one is married

5. Invitation to visit. You have been dating for quite a long time, and the proposal romantic evening It still doesn’t work in his apartment. There may be two reasons for this: the young man lives with his parents or with his wife. If a man intends to build a serious relationship with you, he will certainly introduce you to his relatives. If this does not happen, it means that his intentions towards you are slightly different.

6. Spending time together in a crowded place. A man doesn’t invite you to cafes, theaters, or exhibitions? Surely there is an explanation for this. Most likely, he values ​​his reputation as an exemplary family man and does not want to appear in public with his mistress.

7. Directory in your phone. Try to find out what your loved one calls you on his phone. If, after dialing the treasured digits of your loved one’s phone number, on the screen of his smartphone you saw an incoming call from someone “Tolik Auto Service,” rest assured that he is afraid of being exposed by his wife.

How to understand what kind of person is standing in front of you? How can one determine by appearance whether a man is single or, conversely, an exemplary family man? We continue to publish lessons from a French lawyer, author of the book “How to Understand and Counter the Techniques of Deception and Manipulation” by John B. Domon.

Observation of clothes

Studying clothing allows us to establish a hierarchy of a person’s priorities in terms of image.

Long live the ladies!

Two simple examples.

If the lady did very bright makeup and is dressed provocatively, this may indicate, contrary to first impressions, that she is a rather fearful person. Her appearance, various techniques that require different time and lengthy preparation, help her calm down. She is usually more likely to like a man whose attention is not too intense, and in general she prefers men who are just mirrors of her, whose eyes sparkling with lust make her feel at ease. Often a woman of this type will find a way to complain about this, of course, remarking to everyone who will listen to her: “After all, I am not only my appearance” or something like that. Of course, my dear, this is very logical, since your shyness is too obvious to pay attention to anything other than an elaborate shell. A man who does not allow himself to be deceived by her appearance, but manages to discover this paradox, will immediately find himself in an advantageous position and will take the best position for further rapprochement. At the same time, outwardly one must show complete indifference. In some cases, it is even wise to portray elegant coldness. And thus cause a series of reactions: misunderstanding (“This person doesn’t like me, that’s unusual.”), then anger (“No doubt, this is a dark, pretentious idiot.”), then surprise (“Wait a minute, he’s looking at me.” , as if he sees right through it, does he really care about me, after all, who is he?”), and then follows the final phase that triggers everything that follows - curiosity.

Thus, apparent indifference to her appearance, accompanied by redoubled attention to her gaze, will, paradoxically, the best way arouse interest in women of this type.

On the contrary, if this is a woman without excessively complex makeup, but carefully combed, dressed so that her advantages do not catch the eye, then we can conclude that this is a more mature person who accepts herself for who she is. This is a more pragmatic type, it is more difficult to approach her. Such pragmatic people often fall in love, contrary to their rational mind, with people with marginal inclinations.

I have learned from experience that women are more likely than men to think that they have psychic abilities.

Woe to the men

The vast majority of men are much less interested in their appearance than women. In fact, a man's appearance often depends on whether he is single or married, as well as on his age and social status. (Recently, there has been a tendency for women to switch places with men: women aged 40 to 60 do not care about their age, physical condition or marital status and try to conquer young people of 30-40 years old, who are treated only as sexual partners).

Married man: wedding ring on his left little finger, ironed shirt, clean trousers with folds, well-groomed, good family, as they say. However, if a man wears a wedding ring, but his creases are poorly ironed and his shirt is wrinkled, then it can easily be assumed that his marriage is going through hard times. The point is not that his wife is obliged to do all the dirty work - often a person in disheveled feelings forgets about how he looks, which negatively affects his appearance, even if he has sufficient funds to entrust the care of his clothes to a hired worker. It is also possible that he is left alone and does household chores himself. A man who is not very lucky in love quickly loses his outer luster.

Married man without wedding ring, a trace of which remains on his hand: it is likely that he is deceiving his wife, or his family has recently broken up, or he is a widower. A simple glance at the finger with inexorable logic leads to three guesses about the marital status of such a man. This information should never be underestimated. If you compare it with other data, you will eventually establish your opinion about the object, without asking a single question.

Bachelor: He doesn't have a wedding ring, and generally his body language tells you that he's ready to look. All his clothes are subordinated to one goal - to win a woman. There are two subcategories of this type: the romantic and the serial lover.

The romantic reacts relatively poorly to his celibacy, he will talk about it often and become thoughtlessly amenable to any form of goodwill. He is more dangerous than he seems, and can fall deathly in love with the girlfriend of someone close to him and not feel any guilt. He is looking for passion, which we already talked about in the chapter on brainwashing, and if he falls for your lady, you will need all your courage.

A serial lover does not need anyone, he has a whole harem consisting of married and unmarried women, this is a wolf who is quite enough on his own. Sometimes this serial womanizer is also a member of official marriage, which is his only, but rather painful weak point. A serial lover is usually an excellent manipulator, able to sort out his entire life and force all his mistresses to accept this position. At the same time, he is absolutely sure that he has the situation under control and that his official girlfriend will never know that he is leading a double life. Thus, he will be at the mercy of any witness or rebellious mistress.

A serial lover cannot stand it when events do not develop according to his scenario.

These few examples are ultimately just typical models. They are perfectly described and explained in a textbook created by psychologists who were in the service of Markus Wolff, nicknamed "the man without a face" - the greatest Soviet spy of the Cold War, who invented the "Agent Romeo" - no matter whether it is a man or a woman - breaking the stable couples.

The basis of any success is regular training.
Before you start showing off your skills to a stranger, try to test them on your friends to improve your abilities.

Be very careful at first, asking questions about specific details to gauge your progress. Don't forget that in addition to the methods described in this book, there is also the Internet, which will provide you with valuable information about the people you want to influence.

You will achieve a much greater effect if you train little by little, but every day. One exercise a day in psychological processing, soft manipulation, rhetoric, and lie detection will allow you to very quickly approach the level demonstrated by the characters in the series.