How to make a son's lapel from a girl. Son's dependence on a girl

Good afternoon

You can make sure that my son’s girlfriend goes to her home and they break up (without harm to both). Now she lives with us, and her son is in the army. Just by looking at her and getting to know her better, we understand perfectly well that when my son returns from the army, he will not go to school. Before the army, when he worked with his father, she constantly approached him with questions, when will you come home, why is it taking so long, why are you working on Sunday? When the conversation turned to education, he said that you can work without education. She herself is in 9th grade and is a very illiterate person.

Hello, Tatyana!

Young people in at a young age often do not think about the need for education. Whereas you, parents, who have lived your life and have certain life experiences, understand that you can’t get anywhere without education now. And if in your case it is not so much the son’s reluctance to study, but the interference of his girlfriend, then you can be understood in your desire to make this couple break up. A woman, on the contrary, must encourage her man to grow professionally, get a profession, and then provide for her family. And if your potential daughter-in-law doesn't understand this, then most likely they shouldn't be together.

Tatyana, you can perform a very effective ritual that will help separate your son from his girlfriend without harm to both.

Conspiracy “How to separate a son from a girl”

To perform the ceremony you will need:

• a joint photo of his son and his girlfriend;
• wax candle.

At midnight, be sure to place a photograph on the table on the waning moon, light a candle and walk around the table with the chair on which you will sit seven times. This will create a protective circle with the powerful element of fire.

Then sit at the table, place a candle next to the photo and look at the photo, imagining how these people are at odds with each other. Under no circumstances wish the girl anything bad, just imagine her leaving, packing her things, while both she and your son are happy that their union is complete.

After 15-20 minutes of meditation, pronounce a spell that will consolidate the action:

“Just as the sun and the moon never meet,

So you won’t be together, you won’t live and you won’t love each other.

To be separate to you not only in feelings and thoughts,

But also in life's destinies.

May opportunities for new relationships open up,

About marriage and new decisions. So be it."

Read the plot three times. After that, tear the photo so that your son is on one half, and his girlfriend is on the other half. Put them in different envelopes. Leave the envelope with your son's photo at home, and bury the envelope with the girl's photo somewhere away from home.

This ritual will help direct the necessary magical forces to break up your son with his girlfriend, who would hinder his professional growth and development.

My single son is dating an older woman. She has two children, and she constantly extracts money from him. Demands that he earn more! She begged us for money with his help... He doesn’t communicate with us under the pretext that we don’t want this!

Answer

Greetings, Valentina!

I perfectly understand your feelings, because mothers always have a heartache for their children! If you sent me a photo of your son, I could say with certainty what caused the young man’s attachment to an older woman. Without a picture, I can only guess what the problem might be.

So, in approximately half of the cases, such relationships begin with a love spell. Women who feel that they are the most best years are already behind us and every year they become less beautiful and desirable, they often seek help from magicians. Often, desperate to find a passion on their own, they order anyone who, in their opinion, deserves to be next to them. If your son has become a victim of a love spell, the problem can be solved quite simply. It is necessary to carry out. Once your son's astral connection with this woman is severed, their relationship will be as soon as possible will disappear on their own. In addition, I recommend installing magical protection against repeated love spells, because after a breakup, a desperate woman can go to the magician again.

It's a completely different matter if your Son really has feelings for this woman. Here a peculiar moral and ethical dilemma arises: to destroy his relationship, believing that this will be better for him, or to change it in such a way that everyone is happy? The fact is that I can do it without any problems, and your son will very soon forget to even think about the woman whom he may have loved just yesterday! However, this will not necessarily bring him happiness, and will doom the unhappy woman with a child to loneliness. You need to think very hard about what will really be good for your son. You should not cut in haste, because your dislike for your son’s sweetheart may be caused by maternal instinct and the desire to protect him from pain and disappointment.

If you still decide not to break off your son’s connection with this woman, there are several options that can help improve the not-so-favorable situation in your relationship with her. Firstly, if I understand everything correctly, the stumbling block in this whole story is money, which your son and his beloved lack. I can perform a ritual that will attract young man prosperity. Achieving success and improving your financial situation with the help of magic is difficult, but quite doable! In addition, it is worth conducting a ceremony to harmonize relations between all parties to the conflict. This ritual synchronizes the energy flows pulsating between people and helps them find mutual understanding that has never existed between them.

This is how it happens: you raise children, you give everything to them, and at one fine moment the precious children are taken over by “bad boys and girls.” And all the work, as they say, is in vain! This is what many mothers think when their grown-up child suddenly falls in love with a person who, in the opinion of the parents, is not at all a match for their daughter or son. Some mothers try by hook or by crook to keep their treasures away from slutty girls and unlucky guys. But will this lead to the desired result?

“I’m afraid my son will hate me”

“There is a problem in my family - my son Kolya has found a girl who is not a match for him at all,” writes reader Olga. - She is 5 years older than him (her son is 19, and she is 24), she already has a child - she gave birth to a girl right after school. All my son’s chosen one grew up with her grandmother, because her parents were drunkards. This girl has not studied anywhere, works as a salesperson in a convenience store, drinks, smokes, walks... There is so much around good girls from decent families, but for some reason he chose this particular beast!
I raised my son alone. His dad died when Kolya was 4 years old. I loved my husband very much and always knew that no other man could replace him for me. Therefore, I decided to devote my whole life to a child who is so similar to his father. My parents were always there and helped us. Together we raised a good, kind boy with whom we never had any problems. And it had to happen that he fell in love with this minx who twists them as she wants.

There are constant scandals in our house because of this girl. I had already tried all the ways: I cried, and I stood on my knees in front of him - I begged him to leave this girl, and forbade him to meet with her, and calmly tried to talk, but all in vain.

Recently my son told me that if he once again hears any insult from my lips against his beloved, he will abandon me and leave home.

Tell me how to behave, I'm desperate. I can’t calmly watch my son make a fatal mistake. How can I protect my child, how can I convince him that this sly fox will it ruin his whole life? Kolya doesn’t hear me, he takes all my words with hostility, he’s angry with me because I don’t accept his girlfriend into our family. I'm afraid that he will soon hate me. And all because of some slut..."

The right to choose

Readers of our portal were more unanimous than ever in their opinions:

Murmuletka: Don’t turn your son against you, be patient, he and this girl will run away on their own. If you say something against their relationship, you will harm yourself. Don't forget - the forbidden fruit is sweet.

Akuta: The phrase “There are so many good girls around, but he chose the worst one” is as old as the world. The girl may just be trying to survive, which is why she works in a convenience store, helps her grandmother and raises a child. Well, there’s not enough for all the good girls who graduated from the conservatory and have a diploma with honors.

Pepper: Your son is no longer a child, he is 19 years old. And you won’t let him go from your skirt. If you love him, you must let him go, otherwise he will remain near you (you probably won’t please), and you will have neither grandchildren nor daughter-in-law. And in general, find yourself a man and be happy.

Guest: Judging by the text of the letter, the mother thinks like this: “I raised my son alone, now he is my thing.” Even a girl from the conservatory will be bad for such mothers. My mother-in-law is the same, I know what I'm talking about. Therefore, my advice is this: leave your son alone, let him get a few bumps on himself, and if the girl is a prostitute, then he won’t be able to wear horns for a long time.

Pheromone: Every person has the right to choose and the right to be happy, to love and to be loved. You don’t have to like the girl, the main thing is that your son likes her. And you must take his choice for granted. Live your life, children are not property.

Valentina: This is normal maternal jealousy. Understand, Olga, your son is a product of your upbringing. And it’s too late to educate him further. The age difference is not a constructive argument. In my memory there are many happy couples with much greater differences. Bad habits of a girl - it seems to me that this is your far-fetched exaggeration. You simply don’t trust your son’s choice, you’re used to doing everything yourself, choosing for him, and this is a terrible mistake.

From the editor

Dear mothers, imagine a scale in front of you, on one side of which is the desire to prove that you are right, on the other - your relationship with your own son or daughter. Which bowl will win? We are sure that 99% of mothers will choose the second one. In this case, do not forbid children to build their own personal lives, even if their choice, in your opinion, is no good. It will be better if you try to find common language with the other halves of your children. Children should feel that their mothers can be trusted, that their mother will support them in any situation. This way they will quickly look at their choice with a more sober look. If people are not suitable for each other, then sooner or later they will separate, and you risk losing your son or daughter, losing their trust. Is a “bad” bride or a “bad” groom worth it?

Dear readers! This week we invite you to discuss new topic: “Daughter-in-law cuckolds her son
with your boss." This is what our reader Tatyana writes to us: “My son’s fiancee goes on long business trips with her boss, an impressive man. Every time my Petechka accompanies Yulia to the train, she waves a handkerchief at him from the carriage, wiping away her tears, but I assume that during these two weeks my son will grow branchy antlers. After all, the boss and Yulechka live in the same hotel, perhaps even in the same room... I told my son about this several times, but he had one answer: “The boss is a serious man, a family man, he has children.” That's all his motivation. Judge us, people, can a 26-year-old girl and a 37-year-old man not flirt, being with each other for two weeks almost everywhere?

And I did renovations in the apartment without his help because I think that I can decide my own affairs myself. My martyr has a friend, he has a wife and a child. A friend’s family lives in Europe and he is in Moscow, and here he has a mistress. A friend and his lover have been dating for 6 months. In December, a friend went to Europe to visit his family and his mistress remained in his apartment in Moscow. In the house in which a friend of my martyr lives with his mistress, another friend of my martyr lives, he is a programmer and has not been interested in women at all for 10 years, he has had problems, I am writing this for a reason... When the friend left, his mistress began to call and write to whatsapp to my martyr. Mistress, she is 27 years old, a doctor arrives, in an expensive car, silicone breasts, she talks a lot, just incessantly and constantly praises herself, from childhood to the present time. She presents herself so that she has a lot of suitors, they constantly call her and invite her to restaurants, my martyr told me this. He began to admire her, she says how much she earns and how many clients she has, when I was there, and I saw her 3 times, she can say for no apparent reason that a tow truck took the car for 10 thousand and it’s like, who cares, 10 thousand is kopeks. Or she may also blurt out out of the blue that she is going to buy a house on the Sea and so on. She paid for her friend in restaurants and cinema, although he himself earns well. My martyr went to visit a programmer friend just in December and this mistress constantly came to them, this is my martyr’s story. She complained to my husband that men only wanted sex from her! My boyfriend began to talk about her often, praising that she has a profession, that she is kind, a person, and so on... While she and her friends were hanging out without me, she sang to them about what she was like. She called my husband all the holidays and wanted to celebrate the three of us with me and him, but she couldn’t do it, I was there, and of course she told her husband, why the hell we need her, and he refused her. Then Christmas and other days she invited the three of us to go for a walk and so on, I stood by my type of who she is, since she has so many suitors, she should come to them and not interfere in other people’s relationships. In general, what should I do with her? When I was in her company, I felt somehow insecure, she attracts all the attention to herself, sticks out her chest, spins, spins, talks incessantly, praises herself constantly, and it is clear that she is confident in herself. And I’m like a damn mouse, I don’t have a car yet, I have my own breasts) but I can’t behave like that, as she throws money around, like she has a lot of these pieces of paper that show how rich she is. In short, I don’t work in my profession and I don’t feel confident. And mine admires her, like she earns everything herself and so on... I don’t know what to do. I see that she can throw money around better than me, and people love people who have money... I come from an ordinary family, I try everything myself; I don’t have extra money. Help me how to behave with this? She writes and calls my boyfriend, I say that I don’t like it, but mine says we’re friends. What should I do? She’s cunning and always says hello to me, she calls me a bunny, that’s what my martyr tells me, she cunningly wants to jump out for my Muscovite with an apartment, so it seems to me. In her company, I feel that I have no achievements, no profession, no car, no self-confidence. Help!

QUESTION FOR PSYCHOLOGISTS

Asked by: Tatyana (2009-06-05 16:59:50)

My son (27 years old) got a girlfriend (22 years old) a year ago. He has a higher education, works, has an apartment, a car, he is kind, no bad habits. And the girl lives with her mother, does not work, studies part-time. The girl’s mother has one desire - to marry her daughter to a rich man. And as the son tells me, the mother hates him and instills this in the girl. Although they use their son to the fullest - he takes them to the car, digs the garden, does everything. And now and got into debt, several loans from banks. He pleases them as best he can; his salary is small. And they want big gifts.
I am very worried about my son. It seems to me that he fell into the “net” and the mother is making material gain through her daughter. And another girl came to see us once, how we were living, and took pictures of everything. We have a good financial situation, a cottage, cars. And They don’t give a damn about my son, what happens to him. He doesn’t listen to me. He even stopped answering calls. (I live in
another city). How to help my son? Maybe it’s some kind of slander or they gave him something to drink!
I'm afraid for him and don't know what to do?
Please write. Maybe some kind of hypnosis will help? He has changed a lot.

ANSWERS FROM PSYCHOLOGISTS

The slander most likely has nothing to do with it. The point is different. Very often, girls (perhaps together with their mother) are quite good at figuring out the complexes of a young man (for example, perhaps your son did not feel relaxed enough in an intimate sense or was not confident enough in himself as a man simply in communication, etc.), and these complexes are just beginning to be intensively “developed” by the interested party. The technique is simple, but effective. You won’t please just like that - there are certain mechanisms, probably based on these complexes. The young man is latently instilled (and more and more firmly) that he can’t do anything on his own and doesn’t represent himself (as a man), but with her, with her (so one of a kind, capable of adapting to his weaknesses and shortcomings...) No hypnosis or influence is really possible without a person’s desire. The influence of this girl also passed not without his desire. Think wisely. If he were truly confident in himself as a man, he would have been married a long time ago, and possibly divorced (which in itself would be natural at his age - to make mistakes, fall in love, try to build a personal life). Your story sounds like there was nothing particularly serious in his life before her. And given that he is 27 years old, the conclusion can be drawn that he has almost 100% lack of self-confidence as a man. Which in itself is not a problem, if not for its blatant use. What can be done. You are also a woman, and not a stupid woman. Plant in your son's soul the idea that he can choose. That he has a choice. That he can choose any woman he wants. But this must be done without referring to how positive he is (work, no bad habits), but on what kind of man he is. Pay his attention to his appearance, the way he carries himself, the admiring glances girls give him on the street (and even if you lie, it will still be a step for the better). Let him see not himself as a man, but himself as a man, a man who is interesting to women. To other women. Women in general. Perhaps you yourself, unwittingly, raised him to be a “positive modesty”, and young girls want a guy to have such a slight “devilishness”, a touch of hooliganism. By turning him a little in this direction, you may give him confidence and he will “shake himself up” from the obsession. And it’s useless to admonish him that they don’t think about him; it’s better to work on awakening his self-confidence. To do this, you just need to stop expressing concern to him and try to get him at least somehow for personal communication. And then act on this strategy. And you will get results, even if not immediately, but there is a chance.

Tatyana, hello. From your letter, I understood that the material for you prevails over the spiritual (as you describe your son - education, apartment, car and not a word about his personal qualities), therefore you perceive the conservative desire of your son’s girlfriend for a man to provide for the family as an encroachment on you and your husband property (memory is selective and shows us exactly what we want to see; perhaps the girl photographed the interior as an example of beauty, not prosperity). Your son is 27 years old, he is an adult and lives only his own life, your concern for him is understandable, find an opportunity to talk to him and show him your love and that he has the right to make mistakes and you accept his choice out of respect for him. But a slander will not work if the person himself does not want what the slanderer wants, Vanga wrote that it is impossible to jinx someone who does not believe in it. Good luck.