How to communicate on social networks: Odnoklassniki and VKontakte. What to talk about with a girl on VK
Communication on VKontakte between a guy and a young lady often develops into virtual friendship, telephone dialogue, and then it’s not far to a real date. However, to achieve such progress, it is important.
If you don’t know what to talk about with a girl or what topics to choose for conversation, follow the following tips from experienced network users.
If you have no idea what to talk about with a girl, first remember what you know about this interlocutor.
Let’s say you already know each other (you have mutual friends, just a casual acquaintance, you’ve been corresponding for quite some time), in this case it will be much easier to conduct a dialogue on VK.
You just need to ask the right questions that relate to changes that have occurred since the previous communication.
If you just want to communicate with a woman online, carefully study her page - photos, list of communities, downloaded audio and video files. Such an “audit” will tell you the hobbies of a potential interlocutor and will help you choose really interesting topics for conversation with a girl.
If you notice something that unites you - acquaintances, studies, hobbies - offer to talk about this particular topic. As a starter, you can post a “piece” of your biography, telling some interesting incident from your life.
There is no need to immediately talk about personal topics, since adherence to principles, characteristic of young people, can reduce communication to nothing.
Don't know what to talk about with a girl? Be guided by the situation and once again carefully review all her photographs in contact. Probably, something in a girl’s appearance will give a clue and help maintain the conversation that has begun. For example, in the photo, a young lady is hugging a cat (find out his name), sitting on the bank of a river (ask if she knows how to swim when the photo was taken). Finding questions is not that difficult, the main thing is to be attentive to the details.
Topics for conversation with girls
Your task is to correspond on VK with the young lady in such a way that it is interesting for both of you. To do this, you need to find suitable topics for communicating with the girl. A representative of the fairer sex is unlikely to be pleased by a long conversation about cars or football news.
You need to be careful when choosing questions that you don’t particularly understand, so as not to appear stupid in girls’ eyes. It is also not permissible to argue while discussing such topics; this can make your interlocutor laugh.
What questions should we discuss? The simplest and most reasonable solution is to choose so-called eternal topics for dialogues. It is worth dwelling on them in more detail.
- Relationship. Ask what kind of men your interlocutor likes, what she expects from a relationship, and what behavior she will not tolerate from a guy. Naturally, one should not insist on discussing this topic if the girl is not ready for excessive frankness. Don't ask vulgar questions either.
- Cinematography and music. You can chat with a girl online about such current topics as new movies, music, television series or television shows. From the correspondence you can find out what the young lady’s favorite actor, film, or musician is. Then these questions should be smoothly translated into the possibility of going to the cinema together.
- Hobbies. Another “eternal” topic that will interest both a guy and a young lady is hobbies and sports. Ask what your interlocutor’s hobbies are, how she spends her free time, and whether she plays any sports.
- Reading. Nowadays it’s not so easy to find a girl in contact, or even in real life, who would be passionate about literature. If your interlocutor is an avid bibliomaniac, discuss what literary genres are close to her, and what books by writers she has read over the past week. You can show your erudition by including quotes and aphorisms from classical works into your conversation.
- Memorable or favorite places. You can also chat on VKontakte about the sights of the city in which you both live. Discuss the girl’s favorite city places, find out which cafes she prefers to sit at and have a cup of coffee. This information can then be used when asking you out on a date.
- Travel or vacation. You can also chat with your interlocutor on VK about planning a weekend getaway, traveling during the holidays or vacation. A guy and a girl can be united by a common love of travel, active recreation, or a vacation spent in the same place.
- Study or work. Questions about educational or work issues also belong to the “classic” topics of communication in VKontakte and other social networks. You can ask your interlocutor how her day was, so she can feel cared for by the guy.
- Animals. Representatives of the fairer sex usually love to talk about their pets and will be interested in a guy who also shares this interest. Find out if the girl is a cat lover or a dog lover; perhaps she keeps parrots at home. Most likely, you will see these very favorites in the photos on VK.
Naturally, you don’t need to correspond on all these topics at once; choose for dialogue only those questions that are interesting to your interlocutor and you. In this case, communication in contact will not seem like an interrogation to the girl, but will look like a casual conversation.
To keep the conversation going, insert stories about your hobbies and skills as you write, but in a way that doesn't seem like bragging.
For example, if your interlocutor is interested in riding, offer to keep her company or teach her bicycle tricks.
If the conversation turns to literature that has been read, offer to read some new book or a continuation of a series that the young lady is interested in. The guy’s task in such a situation is to show his imagination and offer his help.
If you have had a good chat on VKontakte, it’s time to chat on your mobile phone. And then the guy faces the following questions: what to talk about with a girl on the phone, where to find the courage to call and how to carry on a conversation while hearing her voice.
Having taken the girl's phone number, be brave and make a call. At the very beginning of the conversation, make a smooth transition from communication in contact to the moment when you decide to call her. Continue the conversation from the point where you left off during the correspondence. For example, find out how she got home yesterday.
There are no special topics when communicating on the phone between a guy and a girl. You can chat on the above examples of topics, discuss something new that happened while you weren't talking. Perhaps the interlocutor herself will ask questions - serious and not so serious, and you can switch to a new problem of discussion.
Try to listen to the young lady carefully, inserting your emotional comments during the conversation. Be sure to tell her how much you enjoyed talking to her and how pleasant and sexy her voice is. Vulgar hints at this stage are not entirely appropriate.
Rules of communication
Let's say you now know the main topics for communicating with a girl on VK or by phone. However, in order for communication to proceed in a positive way and bring you and your interlocutor only positive emotions, adhere to the following rules of communication in contact:
- Don’t deceive your interlocutor by inventing non-existent wealth or a successful career for yourself, or by displaying other people’s photographs. If you want to chat not only on VK, but also in real life, the deception will quickly be revealed, and the girl, most likely, will no longer want to correspond with you.
- Don’t pull the “blanket” of the conversation onto yourself by actively advertising yourself. A guy who starts talking or describing for hours how cool he is will be 100% likely to be considered by his interlocutor as a narcissist and a narrow-minded egoist.
- If you communicate with your interlocutor as a girl, and not as a friend or pen pal, do not discuss other representatives of the fairer sex with her. The only exception is if you want to compare your interlocutor with some actress (naturally, the young lady will at least be in no way inferior to the celebrity).
- Do not discuss her previous relationship with the young lady, unless she, on her own initiative, wants to discuss her former lover with you. In general, having a conversation with a girl you barely know on the topic of ended love affairs is considered bad form.
- Not all representatives of the fairer sex like vulgar jokes! This is a reinforced concrete rule that applies to every guy, which should be remembered once and for all. Perhaps after some time you will move to another level of relationship, and vulgar anecdotes and jokes will be perceived by the young lady with understanding and even pleasure.
- During the conversation, try to ask so-called open questions that will require detailed answers from the interlocutor. For example, instead of “worked today?” ask the girl “how was your work day today?” This way you can significantly prolong and diversify the conversation.
And a few more simple recommendations for a guy who doesn’t know how to communicate with pretty girls on VK. There is no need to behave intrusively and defiantly when speaking. Nice young ladies like interlocutors who arouse interest, and not the desire to quickly end the conversation. In addition, it is important to find topics that both of you will like, because both people should enjoy communication in contact and on the phone.
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Nowadays we all spend a lot of time on social networks. The most popular resource among the Russian-speaking audience is “In Contact,” which provides many opportunities to make useful acquaintances or maintain relationships. Nevertheless, it can be difficult to find topics for communication with the girl you like. In this article we will look at what you can talk about with a girl on VK.
Find common interests
Social networks provide many opportunities for productive communication. From a girl's profile you can learn a lot about her and find common topics for conversation. If you want to win over your interlocutor, start the conversation with topics that are interesting to her: you can talk about hobbies and vacation spots, or you can discuss her comments or posts.
Before starting communication, carefully study the girl’s profile. There you may find the following information useful:
- List of favorite musical groups, films and books. These are very easy topics to discuss: you don't have to like the same thing, but if you just watched the movie or read the story, it can spark an interesting conversation.
- The column about activities and interests in the questionnaire can also be useful if it is filled out correctly. If there is practically no information there, you will have to rely on other sources.
- The list of communities and publics can also tell you a lot about a person. If this list is not hidden, you will find out what the girl is interested in, what media she reads and where she likes to go on weekends - all this information can provide a lot of topics for an unobtrusive conversation.
- The photos and posts that the girl posts can also be useful for you to start a dialogue. Look at the photos to find out what places the girl goes and how she spends her free time. If she writes detailed posts, they are worth reading - such attention will always be pleasant.
If you are not interested in the same thing as the girl, you should not pretend that you understand the topic - the deception will still be revealed sooner or later. Instead, try to be genuinely interested in what she is interested in and ask more questions.
Talk about neutral topics
Topics that concern the girl personally and are of interest to her will always be more advantageous than talking about nothing. However, if you have run out of meaningful ideas for conversation, you can also maintain contact using neutral topics. These include:
- events in your city
- food preferences
- relationships with friends and relatives
- pets
- sport
- trips
If you choose neutral topics, try to use fewer general phrases in your communication. Try to express your personality and look at the subject from an unusual angle. At the same time, do not be too categorical and do not try to argue with the girl directly. Also avoid sensitive topics, which may include politics, religion, sex and financial issues.
Share personal stories
If you want to establish a closer relationship with a girl, in addition to common interests and neutral topics, you can discuss views on life and stories from personal experience. Don’t expect that the girl will be ready to share her thoughts and experiences with you from the very first messages - for such topics it’s worth getting to know each other better.
Chat on VK even after meeting in person
Social networks are now used not only for dating, but also for maintaining existing contacts. If you are dating a girl, but you do not have the opportunity to see each other as often as you would like, communicating on VK can help you maintain contact every day. However, not all topics are suitable for online communication. The following conversation topics will be most successful:
- events that happen to you during the day
- plans for the evening, weekend or vacation
- everyday issues
- jokes, compliments and casual communication
It is better to leave the showdown, the topic of sex and any serious conversations for personal communication. In correspondence, it is best to have pleasant and not too meaningful conversations or solve minor everyday issues.
Communication in VK cannot replace personal communication, however, in correspondence it is quite possible to make interesting acquaintances and maintain communication. Keep in mind that correspondence does not convey intonation and non-verbal signals, so it is better to postpone sensitive topics until a personal meeting. At the same time, in online communication it is quite possible to interest the interlocutor, find common interests and understand whether you want to continue communication in person.
Today, more and more dating with girls is moving from real life to the Internet. More specifically, in VK. However, when it comes to communication, many guys do not understand at all how to communicate with a girl correctly and what you can talk to her about. Actually, I already wrote an article about how to meet people on VK. But direct acquaintance and further communication are different. When you meet someone, you simply use a few templates and quickly take a number. It is not always possible to meet in real life right away, or the girl does not want to leave her number yet. This is where internet communication skills come in handy.
Once upon a time, in the first years of the founding of the VKontakte website, meeting girls on this social network was much easier. People were just registering and were not yet completely comfortable with their relationship to these sites. Yes, and they approached the ladies quite rarely.
But, nevertheless, even today, with the right approach, you can meet and communicate with girls on VK. Below you will find several rules of communication, as well as specific examples.
How to communicate with a girl on VK - basic rules
#1 Don't be intrusive. Nobody likes clingy behavior and you should be tactful towards the girl. If you don’t see enthusiasm from her answers, then it’s better to say that you’ll write to her later. The reasons may be different: she is in a bad mood, got a bad grade at university, the hamster died, etc. If you don’t feel these moments, you can seriously push the girl away.
#2 Be original and not boring. Forget such phrases as “how are you”, “what are you doing” and the like. I don't want to answer them. Try to find a common theme and develop it, adding your wonderful sense of humor and a dose of intelligence. This is much better than spending short or long correspondence about nothing.
#3 Don’t bombard the girl with questions. If you ask an interesting question, try to develop a conversation or discussion out of it. If you throw questions one after another, it greatly stresses a person out.
#4 Don’t always be online. If you are constantly hanging out on VK, then this means that you are an uninteresting person who has nothing to do except sit in front of the computer. And if a girl notices this, it will greatly blur the impression of you.
#5 Use your sense of humor. To make your friend begin to experience emotions when communicating with you, use a sense of humor. After all, without this component, the conversation will turn out to be serious and boring.
What to talk about with a girl on VK - the best topics for conversation
There are several topics of conversation that can always be interesting to talk about with a girl. For example:
Hobbies
You can find out what a girl is like, what she does, her hobbies and how she spends her free time. And also make a conclusion for yourself whether this person is interesting to you at all.
Weather
A traditional theme, especially among the British. In some situations it's nice to talk about the weather.
Trips
Sport
Perhaps the girl is involved in some kind of sport. Then this will be a good topic for conversation. Provided that you also like the sport.
Relationship
Here you can learn about the girl’s views on life. How she sees her relationships with the opposite sex.
Pets
Many people have a dog, cat, hamster, etc. at home. A relaxed and fun topic.
Sex
It’s impossible without him :) Of course, you shouldn’t talk about sex from the very beginning of dating. But in the future, this is a very good topic for learning about a girl’s sexual preferences. Show that you are not embarrassed to talk about it. Also, such conversations have a positive effect on quick seduction.
An example of communicating with a girl on VK for the purpose of seduction (excerpt):
Tatyana: That's for sure. Therefore, you need to clearly express your thoughts and desires
Mark: I liked you, I want to make love to you
Tatyana: Even so right away
Tatyana: Very unexpected
Tatyana: Did you like me the day before yesterday?))
Mark: no, not at all
Tatyana: I liked you too
Mark: that's good
Mark: and I clearly expressed my desire)
Tatyana: Right now, yes.
Tatyana: Let's make love.
Mark: Saturday
Tatiana: In the evening
Tatyana: I never planned such activities
Tatyana: And you?
Mark: I think so too
Tatyana: There’s a first time for everything
Tatyana: But it will be fair. So?
Mark: Exactly. No misunderstandings
Tatyana: And everything is like adults
Tatyana: And just like in the movies)
Mark: exactly)
Tatyana: But there will still be embarrassment. Isn't it?
Mark: slight embarrassment is appropriate)
Tatyana: But only light)))
Tatyana: Do you like to kiss?
Mark: yes, very much. And you?
Tatyana: And I am very
Mark: Cool
Tatyana: Yeah
Tatyana: We have already found one common interest
Mark: good interest))
Tatyana: Excellent)
Tatyana: I think we’ll find more)
Mark: I have no doubt)
Tatyana: Mutual confidence)
Tatyana: I just forgot how old you are
Tatiana: 26?
Tatyana: And when 25
Tatyana: Do you remember how old I am?
Mark: in July
Mark: 29 I think
Mark: right?
Tatyana: Not anymore
Tatyana: Somehow I’m much older than you(
Tatiana: 30
Mark: ok, 5 years difference
Tatyana: Okay) if so
Tatyana: It's time to sleep
Mark: Sweet dreams
Tatyana: Thank you. And you too. See you tomorrow
A simple example of a conversation on VK:
Mark: Oh, hi)
Alena: Hello) why such a surprise?
Mark: somehow our previous conversation was interrupted)
How do you feel?
Alena: I’m in a great mood, the session is over! I'll go home soon
How are you doing?
Mark: I’m doing great too, I recently returned from the lake, swam in the dark)
and where to go home?
Alena: ********* **********
a bit far
Mark: when are you going?
Alena: 5th
Mark: I’m going to Poland tomorrow, I’ll be back in the evening, we could see each other)
Alena: I wouldn’t mind, otherwise it’s so boring in the dorm
Mark: do you live on Pushkinskaya?
Alena: Moscow
dorm near the technical university
Mark: ah, got it
write your number, I’ll call you when I arrive tomorrow
Alena: uhhh.. well, you’re fast))) if you go online, I’ll wait for you here
where are you from? Tell me about yourself?
Mark: let’s better meet when we meet, it will be more interesting to talk)
Alena: well, tell me something, otherwise I don’t know you at all
Mark: is it scary to date?) I’m a decent young man, I do boxing and love to travel)
Alena: wow, this is already interesting
boxing, travel
How long have you been boxing?
Mark: 6 years
Alena: How long have you been traveling?
Mark: I’ll go to Germany at the end of July, and from there to Turkey)
Alena: cool)
wait for me tomorrow VK)
Alena: ok, what time approximately?
I just need to pack my things tomorrow
Mark: oh, I don’t know, it’s hard to say, that’s why I asked for the number, so that it would be easier to contact
Alena: well approximately
otherwise I’ll have to stay in contact all day
Mark: I think it should be by 7
Alena: ok
Now you know how to communicate correctly and what you can talk about with a girl on VK. Good luck!
The social network VK has long replaced other social networks for users. Here you can not only communicate or relax, but also find your love. But how to start communicating with a girl on VKontakte without her blacklisting you? After all, here it is impossible to look into her eyes and show emotions. It all depends on the first messages. Therefore they must be flawless.
What is the best way to start communicating with a VK girl?
You need to start with reconnaissance. This network has many useful features that allow people to come closer together. So you should watch it:
- Notes on the wall;
- Status;
- Marital status;
- Interests;
- Photos;
- Comments, etc.
It is better to start communicating with girls who match your interests. This way there will be a lot of topics to talk about and the chances of success will double. The same applies to ladies with similar preferences.
At the same time, you should not contact those whose marital status says “in love” or “everything is complicated.” Communicate with those who are “actively searching.” But this, of course, is not a panacea. It all depends on your goal.
You can start communication with a good comment on an avatar, a like or a gift. Such an offering will definitely add a couple of advantages to you, and you will be able to win the lady’s heart.
What to write when starting a VKontakte conversation?
Phrases like “Hi, how are you” seem banal to many. But there is no better way to start a good dialogue. Although, you shouldn't be completely boring. After all, you can use a little creativity and write in the first message:
- Something about her beauty;
- About common interests;
- Request to meet;
- Question about her hobbies;
- An unobtrusive joke and so on.
But you shouldn’t overdo it when communicating on VKontakte. It's better to be extremely banal than to seem like an idiot. After all, then she definitely won’t answer you.
However, don't reinvent the wheel. Be yourself. A person’s openness is felt even during correspondence. And this attracts girls.
You can manifest and build a conversation easily. You can also consider serious topics and talk about her hobbies. It is necessary to clearly monitor her reaction. If she doesn’t react to you and doesn’t ask questions in response, then she’s not interested in you. Then you need to stop imposing.
Features of VK conversation
When talking, you can use emoticons, especially large ones. Many girls like this. But you shouldn’t write them in every message.
Don't swear at a lady if she ignores you, takes a long time to respond, or responds with one word. Write to her next time. If this happens all the time, you will have to accept it and move on.
Do not impose yourself on those who have refused you. Many are afraid of maniacs and scammers, so they flatly refuse to communicate with strangers online.
The best option is a girl with whom you have mutual friends, for example a lady from your educational institution. Then there will be more topics for conversation. And you will not be such strangers.
To start communicating with a girl on VKontakte without any problems, you need to be in a positive mood. Be prepared for rejection, and don't get hung up on one candidate. Then you will be able to find not only a cool melody online, but also the girl of your dreams.
Thematic material.
Did you like a guy on VK, but you don’t know what you can talk to him about? We will talk about how to quickly find a suitable topic for communication on the Internet that will be of interest to both. In addition, you will find a detailed list of universal communication topics and questions that can be used in correspondence with any guy. We will also talk about the most common mistakes when communicating with men on social media. networks and how to avoid them.
Here are some useful tips on how to find a topic for communication that will be interesting to both you and the young man.
Activities and interests
In VKontakte you can learn more about the guy’s hobbies, as well as what he does outside of work or study.
- General hobby- this is a great opportunity to start communication.
- Common interests. Among his activities there may be something you wanted to do, but did not know where to start or what you did in the past. Ask for recommendations.
- An unusual hobby. You might not have heard of this before. Let him tell you more. The guy will be pleased to stand out.
Favorite music, books, movies, TV shows
All this can be found out by looking at the detailed information about the user section or simply viewing the latest audio and video recordings.
Find artists, bands, films, actors and writers that you both like. Sometimes just one common song or book is enough to start communicating with a guy you like.
Or you can go the opposite way. Ask which song to start getting acquainted with the work of a group or musician unknown to you among his favorites, which film to choose and watch with the participation of his favorite actor. This will give a bonus in the form of a discussion of your impressions of what you watched and heard.
Groups and communities
Another place where you can find a topic of conversation that is interesting to both is groups, communities and interesting pages. Pay special attention to those that you are also subscribed to.
Trips
Find out where your interlocutor has been. The indicated places on the map on his wall and photographs will help with this. Take an interest in what was memorable and what was not impressive in the places where he was. Whether you have been there, are just planning, or would like to visit does not matter much.
The main thing is that you are interested in the chosen topic.
Universal topics for online communication that you can talk about with any guy
What to do if you are not friends with a guy and access to personal information is limited? There are a number of topics suitable for conversation with anyone:
- The latest music and cinema. The topic can be developed endlessly. From favorite genres, directors and trends in music, to movie bloopers, biographies and interesting facts on the topic.
- Sport. You can talk about the achievements of your favorite athletes. You shouldn’t limit yourself to just football. Even badminton or sledding can become a point of common interest. In addition, ask if he does any sports, and if so, what kind.
- Travel and recreation. The discussion can be reduced not only to places where one of you has already been, but also to fantasize about where you would go if you had unlimited possibilities.
- Books. Plots, characters, emotions from reading - a treasure trove for conversation. But the topic is good only if you are sure that the guy likes to read.
- Mutual acquaintances, friends. One of the easiest ways to start a conversation. But it’s better to use it only as a start and not stay on it for long.
What questions to ask to diversify communication
It’s better to avoid trivial questions about what’s new, how is life, what are you doing, or how’s your mood? Here are some examples of questions that can be used in correspondence.About tastes in food, music and more:
- Do you like Italian cinema?
- Have you ever tried sushi?
- I drink tea with lemon. Which one do you like?
- Have you seen the latest film with Milla Jovovich?
- I love jazz. What do you like to listen to?
About hobbies and interests:
- I have long dreamed of learning to ride a bicycle. Can you do it? It's complicated?
- How long have you been running?
- What do you like about basketball?
About favorite holidays, places and bright events in life:
- What is the most unusual gift you were given for your birthday?
- Have you ever been to Barcelona?
- What New Year do you remember most?
What you don’t know about, but the guy definitely understands:
- I have no idea which laptop to choose?
- I was completely confused by the instructions. How to connect this printer?
Remember, the question doesn't have to be very long or complicated. Try to ask questions that require detailed rather than monosyllabic answers. If you see that a guy doesn’t want to answer a question, don’t insist.
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Which topics are best to avoid?
Do you want the conversation to be enjoyable and not boring? There are a number of topics that it is better not to get involved with during the first communication.
Topics of a personal nature:
- family;
- former relationships;
- sexual experience;
- health;
- problems and troubles.
You are not a relative or close friend to immediately be told about your secrets or listen to you.
Topics of a social nature:
- policy;
- religion;
- nationality;
- material income.
You don’t yet know the worldview and views of your interlocutor. By touching on such topics, you can find yourself in an unpleasant situation.
Serious and heavy topics:
- death;
- violence;
- disasters;
- war and its consequences.
It is much more pleasant to correspond about something fun, life-affirming and optimistic than about something that can cause depression.
Also, do not touch on the topics of shopping, fashion, clothing and accessories, and makeup. Guys appreciate beauty, but most of them are not at all interested in how hard it was achieved.
Even after a conversation has begun, there may be a moment of pause. In such cases, you should keep in service:
- humor;
- unexpected offer.
Stock up on a couple of anecdotes or jokes. Humor always relieves tension and defuses the situation. Or invite your boyfriend to play an online game or watch the same movie together. Even if you receive a negative answer, you can move the conversation to another topic.
Useful video on the topic:
Common mistakes when corresponding with a man
In the end, I would like to give a number of the most common mistakes that are made in conversations. If you want the conversation with a guy to last as long as possible and captivate him, then here’s what you definitely shouldn’t do:
- Criticize. And not only the interlocutor himself or his opinion, but also his hobbies, interests, even his favorite performer. Even constructive criticism is harmful and dangerous. The only thing it will lead to is a negative attitude towards your person.
- Condemn. Definitely avoid direct condemnation of people and their actions in communication, especially in a rude manner. And it doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, acquaintance or stranger. It’s better to simply explain what you would do in someone else’s place in a given situation.
- Argue and impose your own opinion. The argument will lead the conversation to a dead end. Either each of you will remain with his own opinion, or the one who turns out to be wrong will have an unpleasant aftertaste. The result is a lack of desire to continue the dialogue.
- Lie. There is no need to lie, invent, exaggerate and in any other way try to appear better in the eyes of the person with whom you are corresponding. Sooner or later you will forget something, mix it up and this will most likely be the end of the conversation.
- Agree with everything. If you don't agree, write so. Don't be afraid to offend someone. Absolute agreement may raise suspicions that you are either not interested or have no opinion about anything. And such an interlocutor is boring.
- Talk exclusively about yourself or turn the conversation to yourself. No matter how wonderful you are, no one will participate in a monologue. At the beginning, you should interest the guy, and then he will provide the opportunity to talk about himself.
- Arrange an interrogation. Curiosity is a useful thing, but in moderation. Excessive curiosity will only push you away.
- Frankly flatter. All people love to be praised, but constant compliments and praises indicate insincerity. Admire only when it really is so.
The list is not final and more errors may be added. But these are the most common mistakes not only when corresponding on VK, but also in everyday live communication.
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Remember such important aspects when corresponding with a guy on VKontakte as:
- literacy;
- absence of profanity and ‘dirt’;
- a heap of a large number of all kinds of emoticons.