How to teach your child order: advice to parents of little slobs. How to teach a child to sleep in his own crib? What could be hidden behind a child's laziness?

The period of carrying babies in their arms takes, on average, 1 year. As soon as a child begins to walk on his own, he no longer needs additional means of transportation in the form of mom and dad's hands. But what about up to a year? Take into account some characteristics of children of this age.

Why does a child ask to be held?

What interests the child most during this period? World. Even if limited for now by the walls of your own room. Agree, this is very convenient: ask to be held by your mother and point with your finger in which direction to move next to understand the surroundings. From time to time you can provide him with such an opportunity, because as soon as the baby learns to crawl, he will climb everywhere on his own, and even where he doesn’t need to.

The greatest difficulty is falling asleep. This is where the already exhausted parents lose their last bit of strength, forced to rock him to sleep at night. Of course, gentle rocking helps you fall asleep. An alternative is a bed with. A special fastening will help secure the bed after the child has fallen asleep.

It often happens that the baby needs to be rocked to sleep after feeding. And he does not very happily accept his mother’s desire to remove him from the breast. Then be close to him: lie down or, in extreme cases, stand, holding him in your arms, but do not walk, rocking him. Let the child get used to the fact that mom and rocking are not...

If the baby is already tame, then gradually replace carrying in your arms with being with him. After all, often the desire to be held is caused by the fear that the mother has left (and for a child in the first months of life, the mother being in the next room is an alarming signal. I don’t see the mother, which means the mother is gone: she has gone far away and it is not known when she will return). Read books to him, sing songs, or just do housework within your baby's field of vision.

Learn to understand a child without words

Currently, it is believed that a child becomes tame for a reason: it is extremely important for him to express himself. The reasons can be different: a premature baby, colic, or any ailment in general. Even hunger can be a reason. It seems to the mother that the baby is capricious, but he simply does not have enough milk, and it’s time to supplement with formula.

It is not surprising that few children want to lie quietly in bed alone. Thus, when caring for your baby, remember the golden mean. The mother's and father's heart will tell you when and for how long the baby should be held.

Accuracy is rarely an innate character trait; rather, it is an acquired quality. When you have active children who play a lot in the house, it can be difficult to keep things spotlessly clean. And at the same time, children need an orderly world. Many people take their idea of ​​order from their family, but even if parents put all their efforts into ensuring that their children are clean, there is no guarantee that they will necessarily become collected and pedantic. Temperament, character traits, and age-related crises play a role. Adults try to teach children to be attentive to appearance, order in the room and general organization. But it is equally important to approach the education of neatness so that the desire for cleanliness does not turn into an obsession and does not turn out to be a sore subject for both older and younger family members.

Explaining to a child why order is needed in affairs and things is not an easy task. Children don't like notation, and reasons that work for adults may not work for children. Therefore, in each individual case you need to feel what kind of motivation can work:

Order is convenient. When you don’t forget anything, and the necessary things are in their places. Tell your child that an important phone number will not be lost if it is written down not on a piece of paper, but rather in a notebook or telephone contact list. Buy a few folders with dividers in which you can store artwork, and during the next visit of your grandparents, let your child show them his drawings, and you will rejoice out loud: how convenient it is to show guests an album in which the drawings are neatly stored.

Order is necessary. In studies, accuracy comes in handy in the ability to write in copybooks, circle on the dotted line, check errors in dictation, and when performing many other tasks. Praise the child for not going beyond the outline when coloring the picture, and the schoolchild for not making any mistakes when copying an exercise from the textbook. Earning a good grade for doing a job neatly, or hearing a teacher praise them for their beautiful handwriting, children will learn the importance of being thorough.

Order is nice. A great motivator for children is having peer guests whom they enjoy inviting into their clean room. Keep your home open to friends, and then your children will have fun cleaning up before their visit.

A neat person makes those around him feel comfortable. It's nice to hang out with someone who is neatly dressed, remembers what time to arrive for a social gathering, and doesn't make a mess in the area they share with others (like a school desk or a summer camp common room). Maybe you remember how you recently had to miss the beginning of a cartoon at the cinema, and then, apologizing, make your way through half the row because for a long time at home they could not find the keys that were not hung on the usual hook, but for some reason ended up in a mitten . Or there is another similar story in your family experience. Sometimes children need to see the disadvantages of not paying attention to things, to time or to order, in order to be more careful in the future.

How to help your child get organized

Parents may be surprised that children have their own idea of ​​order that differs from the family's. A friend once admitted that her eight-year-old son, who has a talent for cluttering the space around him, put things back in place during a family trip and hotel stay. When asked why he doesn’t do the same at home, the child replied that he likes that the hotel has little unnecessary stuff, so he doesn’t want to clutter up a beautiful room with clutter. This revelation caused parents to think that perhaps there was too much stuff in the children's room at home. So the decision was made to get rid of the excess. If a similar problem exists in your home, you just need to start somewhere:

— Together with your child, divide the room into squares and clean one square a day. With this method, a large task, which at first seems impossible, is divided into small ones, and it is convenient to do them step by step. Help your child at the beginning of the journey: show him where to put the cars and where the soft toys are, sort several items together, and then leave the baby to finish the task;

- invite children to decorate the room to their liking: they will be more willing to keep the room tidy if they like how it looks. It is also important that children feel that this is their territory, even if we are not talking about a whole room, but about a play or creative corner in the apartment. Recognizing the responsibility for order in their corner, children can organize the storage of things to their liking, and not just as adults suggest;

- give up a lot of toys. The accumulation of cars, dolls and various small items is usually the main cause of chaos in the house. If it is not possible to reduce the total number of toys purchased, agree to keep only some of the toys in sight, and put the rest on the mezzanine or balcony, periodically changing their places;

- determine its place for each thing. So that the child has a guideline as to what to put where and where, parents can take a photo of the room with things correctly laid out and hang the photo on the wall;

— organize the space so that cleaning is simple and things can be easily found. Use containers with child-friendly labels or stickers, file folders for school papers, dividers for socks and underwear so they are folded separately and neatly, and construction tool boxes with transparent compartments that are convenient for storing small construction parts;

- introduce daily responsibilities that will become the child’s contribution to establishing order at home. Allow children to choose from the proposed responsibilities those that they think they can cope with better;

- use electronic devices and visual aids: marker boards, bright stickers, calendars, organizers on your computer or phone. Tell me that notifications in the telephone calendar will help you not to forget about the birthdays of friends and relatives, stickers are convenient to use as text reminder bookmarks in books, textbooks or a diary, and on the board you can write a daily routine or a list of to-dos and tasks that need to be done.

You can also gradually teach children some techniques that will make maintaining order less tiring:

- clean up along the way, put back what you took, close what you opened, pick up a dropped item from the floor, and hang a uniform taken off the hanger back after the school day;

— make it a tradition to do five minutes of light cleaning every night before bed, so that it’s pleasant to enter the room in the morning;

- before starting a new game, put away the one you just finished;

- start cleaning with what you like best. For example, first arrange the music CDs, and then sort out the clothes, etc.

Often the ability to organize one's life in a convenient way is passed on from parents. From childhood, it is imprinted in the child’s subconscious that you make the bed after getting up, and before going to bed, you remove the little things left on the surfaces of the furniture. Or children see that their parents take a shower every day, and perceive this habit as natural for them too.

And although a positive example is always the first step, it happens that children refuse to follow simple rules, simply because it is not interesting to them. In this case, fiction and play work with kids. Then brushing your teeth using a timer turns into a fight against germs, which a multi-colored brush drives out in two minutes, and cleaning toys becomes a competition: who gets the most points by accurately throwing soft hares and bears into the basket.

With older children, you can use the following strategies:

- maintain a relaxed attitude towards putting things in order. If children see that their parents sigh and take a long time to gather their strength before vacuuming the room, then they will perceive cleaning as a painful undertaking. Therefore, it is better to perceive maintaining order in the house as part of family life - as natural as buying groceries or traditionally going to the movies on weekends;

— Determine together what a “clean room” means for you and your children and ask them to adhere to this list. For example, it may consist of the following items: a made bed, neatly folded clothes, a clean desk;

- ask children not just to do something, but to help you - to collect water in a bucket for washing the floor or sort clothes by color for future washing. So, firstly, they learn from adults exactly how to put things in order, and secondly, they feel mutual involvement in a common cause.

How not to go too far

It’s hard when for one of the family members neatness is an obsession. In this case, cleaning hangs over the rest of the household like a sword of Damocles. Psychologists believe that one of the reasons for excessive attention to cleanliness and order is lack of self-confidence and the desire to protect oneself with physical order from any external influence. Such people are characterized by increased irritability due to an unclosed tube of toothpaste or a cup placed on the wrong shelf. When establishing the rules for a clean home, it is necessary to remember that order, although important, is still not the main component of family comfort and well-being. There should be free time and the joy of being able to relax in your home environment.

When parents take an authoritarian approach and make order the main goal, arranging weekly spring cleanings, controlling the smallest detail and sighingly intervening in what, in their opinion, the child is doing poorly, children begin to resist and defiantly refuse to clean. This is how they protest against strict control and pressure.

The best option is to stick to the golden mean. Do not be a dictator, checking with your finger the specks of dust on the bookcase, but also do not remain indifferent to childish neatness. You can be understanding that your child has had a difficult week at school, and not burden him with errands on the weekend. Or you can calmly remind him to put the dishes from the table in the sink, pack his school backpack from the evening, prepare clothes for the morning - everything is in the order of natural requests that you voice to children and to which you respond yourself.

Many children do not want to do cleaning because they prioritize a lot of other interesting things: a computer, friends, books, walks. In such cases, some parents use the consequences method. For example, they agree that until the desk is cleared of accumulated papers, one cannot play on the computer. On the one hand, it may seem that this is an ultimatum against which the child may rebel. But on the other hand, children are members of a family in which everyone, with their small contribution, ensures overall comfort. It is important that they realize this from an early age.

The choice - to be neat or not - is made by children themselves. Sometimes looking at the parents and taking an example from them (the mother forced the dishes to be wiped until they were shiny before the guests arrived; most likely, the daughter will also polish them before the visit of friends). Often children themselves grow to understand that order is synonymous with comfort. In some fortunate cases, neatness is simply a character trait. But while children are small, parents tell them how to strive for neatness, and this is the best they can do. There is a chance that children will still take these tips into account when in the future they themselves become the owners of their own home.

“You have a pigsty in your room!” - This is almost the most common exclamation from parents of teenagers. But how, how did a pig grow from a little angel? Alas, you raised it yourself, you and no one else! No, the genes of Uncle Petya and Baba Nyura have nothing to do with it, and he is not at all lazy and slobby, but simply a victim of your pedagogical mistake.

Your child is just starting kindergarten, but the makings of a seasoned pig are already hatching? Find out what you're doing wrong and how to do it right!

Little Pig of the Seven Nannies

No, such a child will not necessarily be left without an eye, but in a family where the only child is looked after by both parents and grandparents, or even a nanny, he has too few incentives for activity. If you hear all day long: “Don’t touch, I’ll take it away,” “Don’t take it, I’ll pick it up,” “Don’t, you’ll ruin it,” then you will inevitably fall into apathy and inaction. Well, that is, not completely inactivity, but watching cartoons while lying on the couch does not count.

What to do?

Leave your child a field of activity that you consider a little unsafe - something where he can “mess up”, but without tragic consequences. Well, yes, most likely he will spill, break, scatter, and perhaps hurt himself a couple of times. But he will act, and this is the main thing!

Advice: Of course, the child will not immediately believe that “everything is possible now.” But this does not mean that the initiative should always come from you! Do not command, but often offer him several alternative activities, for example: “Now we are going to clean, do you want to sweep the floor or wipe the dust?”, and soon he will begin to find useful activities for himself.

Choleric pig and phlegmatic pig

Often, parents accuse their children of being lazy simply because they cannot adapt to their natural temperaments. A “live” child who doesn’t sit still for a minute, gives up all useful undertakings halfway, and constantly hears that he’s lazy - he didn’t finish, didn’t clean, didn’t wash... What can we say about the little phlegmatic, trampling bear, whose every task drags on for an eternity - but he is not lazy, he simply lives at a “different speed.”

What to do?

Learn to live at the speed of a child. For a hyperactive person - break tasks into pieces that he can complete in 5-7-10 minutes, as long as he has the patience. Let him not clean the room, let him remove, say, the things scattered on the floor in the center of the room, and let the mess on the table wait another half hour. For the slow one... same thing! Set tasks so that the child can complete them in a reasonable amount of time. It’s nonsense that he will wipe one bookshelf as much as you wipe an entire closet. The longer he is busy, the slower it gets done, so let the tasks be broken up in parts and completed throughout the day.

Advice: make your child friends with a watch, this will help you tune in to the same wavelength. After all, five minutes is five minutes, even if you feel them as a mere trifle, and a child feels like an eternity (or vice versa).

Bored pig

The child does nothing because he is bored with the activities offered. Yes, yes, this is not such a rare case! Our everyday household chores are not so exciting as to cause a burst of enthusiasm in a child - and they don’t cause delight in you either, admit it honestly. So you shouldn’t blame your child for shirking all sorts of boring things, he just can do it, and you have nowhere to retreat!

What to do?

Turn cleaning into a game! Let her not clean the room, but scrub the deck on a pirate ship or be a good Cinderella before the ball. Singing, dancing, reciting poetry - recommended!

Advice: An unpleasant but conscientiously completed task should be followed by a reward - take five minutes to drink tea together! Yes, and tea should have jam!

Piglet is perplexed

Sometimes children simply do not understand the adults’ “rules of the game.” Why make your bed in the morning and unpack it again in the evening? Why collect the cubes after the game if you plan to build the city again in the morning? Why put your pants in the closet if you take them out again? Agree, this has its own logic!

What to do?

There is nothing to be done, you will have to formulate answers to all the “why” questions, and keep in mind, they must be convincing! Explain that an abandoned toy can cause you to trip and hurt yourself (not to mention the fact that this will not benefit the toy itself). And the flattened bed becomes dusty (for an experiment, you can avoid wiping dust from some polished surface for several days and clearly show how much dust accumulates on the pillow and sheet).

Advice: If you yourself are not completely convinced that things should be hung on hangers, and not thrown onto a chair, write fairy tales! For example, about the cheerful sheburshunki who come out for a walk at night and crawl under the covers to sleep during the day. And if the bed is not made, then they do not get enough sleep and cry bitterly!

Pig without a goal

A type of bewildered pig is a pig that does not understand routine as such. He will be happy to help you clean up before guests arrive, before a holiday, or grandma’s arrival, but if nothing like this is planned, then he becomes perplexed. Since there is no event to which we need to hurry, then why rush? Why not put off the unpleasant task for later and again for later?

What to do?

No deceptions: “Oh, Aunt Lyuba will come (who, of course, was not going to come to you), let’s get out of here!” We will have to cultivate an internal need for cleanliness. Constantly emphasize how pleasant it is for you to be in a tidy room, and try to support in your baby any positive emotions that may arise by chance.

Advice: if there is no internal need for cleanliness and is not foreseen, you will have to resort to cunning. Clean up “for the sun, which will peek into the room after lunch and be upset when it sees dust”, for “dolls who like to sit in a dollhouse”... Yes, even for a kitten or puppy, who otherwise “will get used to the mess and become hooligans.”

Kill your inner pig!

“Remember this every son, know that any child will grow up from a son to a pig, if the son is a pig.”, - the poet Vladimir Mayakovsky told the children and, of course, he was wrong. Before growing into a pig, a pig is raised in a family of pigs, this is the main reason for piggy. A child will never be more careful than you yourself, no matter how many correct words, instructive fairy tales, pedagogically correct motivators you invent, because it is not words that educate, it is actions that educate.

Therefore, before demanding impeccable order from your child, think - is it necessary? Motes of dust dance beautifully in the sun's rays, a doll, a bunny and a bear "get enough sleep" in bed during the day, and work on the construction of a Lego castle can easily last for a month, despite the protests of deceived toy shareholders... No, we do not urge you to live in a pigsty, just We remind you that no amount of cleanliness and order can replace the love, joy and happy hours spent with your child.

Don’t turn life with your child into a series of chores, try to enjoy cleanliness, cleaning, and moments of pleasant laziness too!

Due to physiological characteristics, potty training a child should not begin too early, but it should not be delayed either.

It is also necessary to remember about the individuality factor: one toddler can easily sit on a night vase, while the other, even by the age of three, is not always able to cope with self-care.

Based on the above, you need to find out when and how to potty train your baby. There are many ways to master this skill, but it is better to learn more about the most effective and most natural ones.

About your child’s readiness to use the potty

Probably, the question of when to potty train a child is the most common and pressing question among most modern mothers who want to quickly instill hygienic skills in their baby.

The answer lies in infant physiology. Scientists have proven that from the first days of life until about one year of age, a child does not control the processes of bowel and bladder emptying.

That is, such processes are unconditional and do not require the participation of the cerebral cortex. Consequently, the baby does not feel the filling of the rectal canal and bladder.

The main goal of teaching a child the skills of neatness, to put it simply, is to make an unconditional reaction conditional - that is, to make the processes of urination and defecation volitional and meaningful acts.

The success of transforming an unconditioned reflex into a meaningful action will be determined by three main factors:

These three conditions are interconnected and naturally complement each other. Analysis of these factors allows us to draw obvious and extremely important conclusions. Among them:

• The sooner parents start putting their child on the potty, the more time and effort it will take to teach this skill.
• The more developed the baby is physiologically, the faster he will begin to pee and poop in the night vase.

Can these factors and findings be ignored? Undoubtedly. However, in this case, potty training a child will be accompanied by various problems, which we will discuss below.

Difficulties of early training

On forums, you often come across comments from patient and active mothers who claim that their children at 10 months (and sometimes almost 5 months) can write after the treasured “pee-pee-pee” sounds and poop after the characteristic grunting “ah-ah” -A".

Such “successes” are explained quite simply. The characteristic sounds made by parents lead to the formation of a reflex in the child: a connection between the sounds “pee-pee-pee” and urination. There is no need to talk about the emergence of a volitional act.

It is not special sound signals that should encourage the baby to go to the potty, but a physiological process that is accompanied by an overflowing bladder or rectum.

Problems with seemingly developed skills can begin at two years of age or a little earlier. The baby, who has already learned to sit on a night vase at 9 or 10 months, suddenly refuses to pee and poop in the same way, actively protesting against being planted.

Experts associate such situations with the physiological maturation of the child. Natural control over the filling of internal organs begins to form, and parents with their “pee-pee-pee” force the baby to empty the still empty bladder.

Thus, parents’ ignorance of how and when to potty train their child often leads to the development of very superficial and unstable neatness skills.

It’s even worse when adults, upset by children’s failures in the form of puddles on the carpet, soiled panties or fear of the potty, begin to “force” the child: they force him to sit on a hygiene device, forbid him to get up early, etc. This cannot be done!

What time should a child be potty trained?

So, based on physiological norms, we can conclude that teaching babies the skills of neatness before 12 months is not justified by anything other than the parental desire to quickly get rid of boring diapers. Of course, this desire is understandable.

5 main stages:

1. First of all, show your baby the potty and explain why it is needed. Rubber toys with holes can help. They fill such a teddy bear and baby doll with water and release it into a night vase, telling them that the toy is peeing.
2. How to teach a child to go potty? At first, the baby is planted after waking up, before and after meals, before falling asleep and during the day and after it, before and after a walk, before going to bed for a night's sleep.
3. Now you should stop using diapers during the day. This way the child will be able to study his body, find out why the genitals and soft spots are needed. He will also establish the relationship between organs and urination and defecation.
4. Every time a child succeeds in asking to go to the potty and doing his “wet chores,” he should be praised. But rewards should not come in the form of toys or treats. Enough with the usual words of encouragement.
5. When a child begins to sit on the potty independently, without reference to the time of day, it means that the final stage of training has arrived. You need to consolidate the result obtained by monitoring the characteristic signs of readiness to go to the toilet - straining and redness of the face.

Small tricks

If you still have no idea how to potty train a one-year-old child, or if an older child has misfires, some small tricks will come to the rescue:

• The learning process will be simplified if the family has an older child who already knows how to use a potty. In this case, the firstborn will be able to show the younger how to use an unfamiliar device;
• We potty train your child carefully, without being too zealous. There is no need to keep your baby on the nightstand for more than 5 or 7 minutes. If you force him, he will begin to refuse to even come close to such an unpleasant object;
• It is necessary to dress the baby very easily and simply. That is why experts advise starting training in the summer, when children wear a minimum amount of clothing. And the things themselves should be without belts, buttons, ties and buckles;
• The night vase should be placed within the baby’s reach. Then he will be able to relieve himself, and mom will have a reason to celebrate, albeit a small, but victory. The potty can be installed in the nursery, not far from the play area;
• In order for the child to definitely like the hygiene device, you need to choose it together with the future owner. Go shopping or look for a potty in a chain store, focusing on the preferences of the baby (images of animals, favorite characters);
• When teaching neatness skills, you can use various books that reveal the meaning of the purpose of the night vase. For example, such works as “Fedya the Bear and the Potty” and “Max and the Potty” are very popular among mothers.

How long will the training take? Everything is purely individual. Some children, especially if they are physiologically ready for bladder and bowel control, can gain the skill in 2 to 3 weeks. Others cope in a few months.

If it seems to the mother that the process is taking too long, and the result is needed right now, you can resort to quick methods.

How to potty train a child in 7 days: basic steps

The “Voluntary Baby” system, which was developed by Gina Ford, has helped a considerable number of mothers who do not know how to quickly potty train their child.

• first day. After waking up, they get rid of the diaper, explaining to the baby that he has already grown up, so now he will wear panties. Then the child needs to be seated for about ten minutes so that he can pee and poop. If the attempt fails, repeat the process every quarter of an hour. You can sit down next to him and explain to the baby why the skill of neatness is necessary;
• second day. Now we need to carefully monitor children's behavior so as not to miss a single sign of readiness to go to the toilet. At each such sign, a pot should be offered to consolidate yesterday’s successes;
• third day. The behavior tactics remain the same, but in addition you need to get rid of diapers even during a walk, so as not to confuse the child. Before going out, you should do some “wet work,” and on the street, ask more often if the baby wants to pee. You can take a pot with you so as not to go into the bushes;
• fourth - seventh days. On the fourth day, both the child and you already approximately know at what intervals you should use the potty. And if the baby gets carried away with toys and forgets about the need, you remind him. The child should be praised for every success, because mother’s encouragement is a wonderful incentive for acquiring a skill.

In just a week, according to the author and parents, it is possible to instill hygiene skills in the baby. But even if after 7 days there are “misfires”, you should not despair or, especially, scold the baby. Everything will definitely get better very soon.

How to potty train a child in 3 days: conditions and rules

In the event that it is necessary to introduce the baby to the potty as quickly as possible (for example, the baby will soon go to kindergarten or go on a trip), parents will find it useful to use emergency methods for teaching children to use the hygienic device.

Of course, in such a short time, not a single child will be able to immediately move from diapers to a potty, but kids will develop a basis for mastering toilet etiquette.

Rules for carrying out the technique

The three-day method will only work if the child is older than one and a half years old, but younger than two years old. In addition, the baby is able to explain in an accessible way that he wants to pee or poop, and strives to quickly get rid of the spoiled diaper.

How to potty train a child in 3 days? First of all, after making sure that the baby is ready for the process, you need to introduce him to the upcoming changes. Such acquaintance begins in advance - about two weeks before active steps.

Preparation consists of several steps:

• buy a potty (if you don’t already have one), explain to your child every day why this device is needed. You can also give instructions to an adult toilet, telling them that the toilet is the same as a potty, but for adults;
• tell them 7 days before the event that you will soon have to get rid of diapers, and instead of them panties and a potty will appear. Buy children's underwear for “adult” children. Let the panties be with images of your favorite characters;
• the mother will need three days in a row to be with the baby all this time. Therefore, you should take Friday or Monday off so that the technique is not interrupted, and enlist the support of your spouse;
• Since you will have to constantly be with the baby for 3 days, you need to prepare entertainment for him and yourself in advance: cartoons, movies, games, books - everything that will allow you not to get bored and irritated.

As soon as you manage to prepare everything, you should proceed to active actions, carefully following all the recommendations of specialists.

First day

In the morning, as soon as the baby wakes up, the diaper is removed. It is permissible to put the child in shorts or leave him to walk around naked, if, of course, the temperature in the room and the season are conducive to this.

The night vase is placed in the children's room, closer to the baby. By the way, you can give him more liquid: water, milk or juice.

This is necessary so that the child wants to empty the bladder. Or simply place a sippy cup with your favorite drink next to your baby.

Parents carefully watch their child, tracking every sign that he wants to go to the toilet.

Ideally, the baby should notice a clear relationship between the desire to pee and being put on the potty. You can put the child on the night vase every 20 minutes.

It is for such painstaking work that at least two adults are needed. There will be a significant workload on them, since each attempt to urinate must be monitored in order for the connection to become firmly established in the mind.

How to potty train very quickly? Be sure to praise your child for every successful attempt.

Moreover, you should not say faceless phrases like “well done,” but specifically explain why you are praising the child: “Good girl for peeing in the potty.”

Failures, on the contrary, must be ignored without paying any attention to them. Moreover, you should not scold or blame the baby so that he does not develop negative associations associated with the potty.

Before going to bed in the evening, you are allowed to put on a diaper. Let the baby get a good night's sleep before the next day.

Second day

Today you can take your child for a walk outside without a diaper. Naturally, it is better not to go far from home, so that in case of an unpleasant “embarrassment” you can quickly return to the apartment. This is especially true in the autumn-winter period.

They go outside after the baby has peed and pooped. In the warm season, you can take things with you for changing clothes and a second potty for performing natural needs. After a successful attempt, be sure to praise the child.

Third day

In the last 24 hours, you should add one more walk so that the baby can control the process of bowel and bladder emptying both at home and outside.

Before any routine activity (walk, nap), it is necessary to place the child on a night vase. The same procedure is repeated upon returning home and after waking up.

If you don’t know how to potty train a 2-year-old child in the shortest possible time, a three-day course will come to the rescue. At the end of the technique, children usually respond well to the potty, often even sitting on it on their own.

It is best to do without clothes, but if the room is cool, you need to choose the right things - without buttons, straps, zippers and other fasteners. Otherwise, the child will not be able to quickly remove the underwear and will do a “wet or dirty thing” directly into the panties.

Potty training in 1 day: is it possible?

This method is used if the baby is already 2 years old, he understands speech addressed to him and can communicate according to his age with his parents. You should also enlist the support of all household members, since the mother will have to be with the child all day.

Potty training in 1 day means being provided with some necessary items, including:

• rubber doll with a hole for demonstrating urination;
• the pot itself;
• children's favorite drinks;
• disposable panties.

The more a child drinks, the more often he has the urge to empty his bladder. Consequently, the sooner parents will be able to teach the baby to use the potty. Therefore, it is necessary to give your child more fluid.

To ensure that nothing distracts your baby from the learning process, you need to be alone in the room with him and limit contact with other household members. Then the baby is shown where the night vase is and taught to pull off and pull on his panties.

Since emptying the bladder involves complete relaxation, in simple words the child is conveyed the idea that he needs to sit quietly on the potty and wait until “the water flows.”

Demonstrate with the example of a rubber doll what you expect from your child. To reinforce instructions, use gestures to show how to sit, relax, and stand up after peeing. Be sure to praise the baby for every successful action, using verbal approval and a hug.

How to properly potty train a child in 1 day? It is important to pay special attention to personal hygiene. After each urination, you need to help the baby pour the contents of the night vase into the toilet and wash your hands with detergent.

Opinions about this technique are mixed. Some mothers recognize its effectiveness, while others note that it is almost impossible to teach a baby to pee and poop in a potty in one day.

Potty training a girl and a boy: are there any differences?

Often, even the gender of the child affects the speed and characteristics of learning neatness skills. Many experts and parents point out that little ladies are more obedient and diligent than boys.

Girls try to imitate their mother in everything, so it is somewhat easier for them to understand the principle of the process. And because of their natural perseverance, many babies spend more time on the potty, which significantly increases the likelihood of a successful completion of the event.

However, some girls are extremely shy - which is why they prefer to endure the urge to empty their bladder, which ultimately leads to wet panties.

Young gentlemen are more active, not as diligent and observant as girls, and are more drawn to their fathers. And since dads spend a lot of time at work, the skill will come to the boys a little later. Mommy won’t be able to show you how to pee standing up.

Experts advise taking into account the gender of the child when purchasing a useful device. For little ones, a product with a round hole is more suitable; for a little boy, you should choose a pot with a special recess and a roller that will prevent splashing.

How to potty train a girl? The baby's training is standard. But the process of training a boy is a little different. The young gentleman should first be taught to use the night vase while sitting, since bowel and bladder emptying occur simultaneously at such a young age.

Only after this do they move on to the “male” version. Let dad show it, and then mom will only have to monitor the accuracy of the baby, who at first will be sure to spray everything around. The problem of how to potty train a boy is best solved in a game. This is the ideal way to learn.

You can understand how to properly accustom your baby to using a night vase if you choose the most suitable hygienic device. Fortunately, children's stores have a variety of potty models.

However, making a choice based solely on the color of the most important accessory is wrong. At such a young age, a child really doesn’t care whether his potty is pink, blue or green.

When purchasing a night vase, parents need to pay attention to several important characteristics:

Of course, every mother thinks that I can buy the best potty model for my beloved baby. However, you should not get too carried away; it is better to take a stable, plastic night vase without additional functions.

Modern manufacturers of hygiene products for children offer to purchase special underpants or diapers to teach neatness skills. Such “training” products are distinguished by a layer that remains wet and leads to noticeable discomfort.

To become dry and clean, the child tries to remove the uncomfortable diaper and relieve himself in the potty. In this case, it becomes somewhat easier to teach the baby.

Unfortunately, teaching children hygiene skills does not always go smoothly. There is both a regression of skill and all sorts of fears of the potty. In addition, some children, due to health problems, are not able to independently learn to write in a night vase.

One step forward - two steps back

Often mothers note paradoxical situations when a child who knows how to use a potty suddenly refuses to sit on it. And if the parents insist, then he throws a real one. There are several possible reasons for this phenomenon:

To cope with the difficulties that have arisen, you need to find out the root cause of the reluctance to relieve yourself in a night vase. Once you get rid of the source of the problem, you can move on to retraining.

Fear of the plastic “friend”

Another common situation is an irrational fear of the potty. In such a situation, parents simply cannot get the baby to sit on it, because the child cries, breaks out, and becomes hysterical at the mere sight of a hygiene accessory.

There are several sources of this behavior:

1. Potty training too early, when the baby is not ready in all respects.
2. Parents are stingy with praise for their child’s successes and harsh punishment for failures.
3. Not a very successful introduction to the night vase. For example, a baby was sat on a cold object, which also turned out to be unstable.
4. Physiological or psychological, in which the baby forms an association: painful sensations when sitting on the potty.
5. Common childhood shyness or reluctance to defecate and urinate in front of loved ones.

To change the situation, you need to leave the child alone for a while, wait until his fears are forgotten. Those mothers who run after a crying baby with a potty at the ready are wrong. Such short-sighted behavior will only strengthen the child's phobia.

Experts recommend playing out a disturbing situation in game stories. Let the baby place baby dolls, robots, and soft toys on the potty. The main task is to evoke positive emotions directly towards the night vase and sitting on it.

Create fairy tales with a therapeutic focus on a potty theme. In such stories, a kind and sad potty waits for its owner to play with it, and then pee and poop in it. The plot is limited only by parental imagination.

The following technique may also work. Eyes and a smiling mouth made of adhesive paper are glued onto the plastic accessory. You can additionally decorate the pot with figurines depicting your baby’s favorite characters.

Sometimes problems with instilling hygiene skills in a child are associated not with psychological, but with medical factors. If daytime and nighttime involuntary urination occurs after five years, it’s time to consult a doctor.

Uncontrolled urination can be caused by several problems:

• congenital pathologies of the genitourinary organs;
• inflammation of the urinary tract;
• imperfection of the nervous system;
• heredity;
• prolonged stressful situations.

The diagnosis and treatment of enuresis is carried out by two specialists: a urologist and a neurologist. First of all, parents should show the child to a urologist, who will conduct an examination of the external genital organs (the girl may additionally be referred to a pediatric gynecologist).

In addition, the urologist can prescribe laboratory and instrumental tests such as a general urinalysis, ultrasound examination of the kidneys and bladder. If a urological anomaly is excluded, the child is sent for a consultation with a neurologist.

A few conclusions

The question of how to toilet train a child is really relevant. At the end of the article, we have collected the most important recommendations and rules that can help adults facilitate and speed up the process of teaching a child hygiene skills:

1. It is necessary to take into account the physiological and psychological readiness of children for learning.
2. The optimal age, according to experts, is from one and a half to two years. Better later than sooner.
3. You need to prepare for inevitable “misfires” when training a child; you should praise him more often and not pay attention to failures.
4. You should not insist on emptying the intestines and bladder, or force the baby to push “as hard as he can.”
5. You can choose either a long-term refusal of diapers or accelerated potty training methods. It all depends on your mood and the characteristics of the child.
6. It is better to purchase a night vase together with your baby. This way you will show the significance of the event and will be able to quickly “make friends” between the potty and the child.
7. If it doesn't work the first time, wait. Put the plastic “buddy” on the mezzanine, forget about the problem for a couple of months, and then again unobtrusively try to give up diapers.
8. If your child is afraid of the potty, wait until the fears have subsided, and only then start getting acquainted with this useful hygiene accessory again.
9. If you experience uncontrolled urination after 5 years, you should definitely consult a neurologist and urologist.

It should be understood that all the terms presented are quite arbitrary, so parents, first of all, should focus not on average data, the opinions of acquaintances and friends, but on the characteristics of their child.

They will be the ones who will answer the question of how and when to potty train. Well, many pediatricians advise remembering that almost all healthy children of 5 years of age are able to go to the bed or toilet. Therefore, you shouldn’t be too zealous trying to prove something to your girlfriends and acquaintances.

How to teach a child to have order so that it does not become torture for him, and he does not perceive cleaning as a punishment.

Often disagreements between children and parents arise due to the disorder in the child’s room and belongings. Parents, seeing the mess and scattered things, shame their child and scold, although this does not bring the desired result.

In fact, children do not notice clutter; the task of adults is to teach them to see a dirty floor, an unmade bed, scattered books or toys and understand that clutter is inconvenient. And maintaining order is convenient, since all things are in their places and are easy to find; order is a necessity, because the teacher will definitely give an excellent grade for neatly completing homework in a notebook; order is nice, because it’s more pleasant to invite friends to a clean room, and it’s more pleasant to communicate with a neat person.

When to start training and how

• For small child - an interesting game.

Toy cleanup can be thought of as a game of toy cleanup. It is important not to discourage your daughter or son from keeping order by making too high demands. You can teach your child to put away toys from the age of two or three, but parents must understand when this action is available to their son or daughter.

Kids love to imitate adults and wash dishes, wipe dust, and put away toys with them. They can do the last activity, but they need to present it in a playful way: that is, put cars in the “garage”, animals in the “farm”, etc. You can prepare boxes in advance for “garages”, “farms”, “bedrooms”. Children need to be praised more often, but they should not be scolded or reprimanded for work done incorrectly; they are still kids.

• Older children: five to eight years old , you can already trust watering flowers and washing dishes.

You need to make a list of things available to your child: he can take out the trash, make his bed. If the parents' goal is to raise a normal, balanced person, and not a pedantic one obsessed with cleanliness, then do not overload him with excessive work. The child should have time for more interesting activities. It is important to assign him tasks that only he and no one else will perform, his specific responsibilities in the family.

• It’s too late to start teaching order at the ages of 9 to 14 years.

This will require much more strength and nerves, tact and restraint of emotions. By resorting to humiliating remarks, parents will achieve a complete refusal to fulfill demands and requests; it is better to simply and specifically indicate what should be done and when. Let cleaning be combined with turning on the TV and listening to music.

Ideal order in the house does not always guarantee that a child will grow up as neat as his parents. Innate neatness is still a rare quality, so you need to make efforts to raise children, be a model for them and start teaching children to be tidy early, and do this constantly.

Start with yourself - the most important principle that works everywhere and always, the best educational factor is the personal example of parents.

From birth, a child must live in cleanliness and order; there is no need to prevent the baby from “helping”, even if he does not understand why it is needed, praise for “help” is required; You always need to take into account the child’s capabilities; tasks that are beyond his/her age will discourage any desire to do cleaning in the future; do not require hospital sterility or absolute order, since the normal activity of the child, his activities, games imply some disorder; it will be enough if intolerance to sloppiness and chaos becomes the norm; Cleaning should never be a punishment for wrongdoing.

Neatness and order are important components in the life of a person and his family, but not the most important.