How to ask a guy out on a date: methods for determined girls

Greetings, dear readers! The times when only a man had to take the first step have long since sunk into oblivion. And today ladies themselves decide with whom, when and where to go on dates. True, not all young ladies have learned to be so brave and decisive.

Many people still don’t know how to ask a guy out on a date without damaging their overly vulnerable girlish pride. And I’m ready to make you happy - there are corresponding methods and they are extremely simple!

The most obvious option is to simply invite the young man you like to a romantic meeting. This can be done through direct communication or through correspondence on a social network, on some Viber or via SMS. Without any pretexts, excuses, hints - just call her to some fashionable place or just for a walk. But if you started reading this article, you are probably expecting some more tricky solutions. And I have them.

Call for help

Girls often need help from the stronger sex. So why not invite your friend to a meeting under the pretext that you need his male participation in some economic issue.

Of course, there is no need to ask him to do repairs or dig potatoes at the dacha. For the first time it will be too much, but you can ask for something simple.

Well, for example, you need to pick up a bag of provisions that your mother gave to her student daughter living in another city. Or, let’s say, your grandmother really asked you to eliminate the weeds on her property, but you alone just can’t cope with this thicket.

Help may not be physical, but of an advisory nature. For example, you can ask a young man to help you choose a gift for your brother who is interested in fishing.

And if you have a vehicle, then there can be just a million excuses to meet a guy: “Listen to what’s knocking on my right,” “Look what’s creaking on my left,” “I urgently need to buy tires, I don’t know, with what tread pattern to choose”, “Help, there’s condensation in my carburetor!” etc.

The date will turn out to be very conditional, because... you will be busy with something. But at least you can communicate and get a little closer. After this, asking a guy on a real date will be much easier.

Extra ticket

It seems to me a completely logical and never shameful situation when a girl invites a guy on a date to a concert of a fashionable group, because... she has a free ticket, obtained through great connections.

Let's say your dad was given two tickets at work, which he gave to his daughter. And, as luck would have it, you have absolutely no one to go with. And then you very successfully meet Vasya, and the idea comes to your mind to invite him with you.

It is clear that you can actually buy tickets at the box office, and specifically watch for Vasya under the audience, where he is every Friday at 15.00. But that’s not the point, is it? The fact is that you will get a great opportunity to invite a young man you like to a meeting without revealing your feelings for him.

Instead of a concert, there may be some kind of show, a premiere in a movie or theater, or an exhibition. Whatever! And so that Vasya is guaranteed not to refuse, it is better to find out his preferences in advance and buy a ticket to the event that will suit his taste.

Cheerful company

Are you embarrassed to invite a young man to a one-on-one meeting? How do you like the option of relaxing in a fun company? For example, say that you have a girlfriend who just can’t find a good guy.

Ask your friend to find a worthy candidate among his friends. To make your friend and her potential boyfriend feel more comfortable on the first date, suggest that the four of you go for a walk.

Or you can come up with a slightly different story. Let's say you're going out with your girlfriend, but she decides to take her boyfriend with her. You don’t want to be a third wheel, so you would also like to go with a young man. Perhaps your friend will not refuse to pair you up.

If you have mutual friends, then there is no need to invent any stories at all. Tell him that you have nothing to do this coming weekend and ask him to help organize a small party with mutual friends.

A little about the nuances

Whatever option you choose, one way or another you will have to be the first to approach him and be the first to speak. And this task for overly modest natures may seem extremely difficult. To somehow make your life easier, pay attention to the following points:

• It is better to choose a place and time for conversation so that nothing (and no one) can disturb you. Ideally, if the beloved is alone. But if he finds himself in the company of comrades, then it is better to call him aside. If you are completely afraid to approach alone, then ask your friends to loom somewhere on the horizon. This will give you moral support.
• You can start a conversation first on an abstract topic. Did you meet him in the store? Then you can say: “Oh, hi! Have you also decided to go out for some bread? Have you tried those buns yet? I bought it yesterday, it was very tasty.” And then you can, as if by chance, move on to the issue that concerns you. “Listen, it’s good that I met you. If you're not busy this weekend, maybe you can help me. I need to help my grandmother a little with her garden. I’ll be fiddling around there alone for a long time, but with such a strong assistant as you, we could handle it in a couple of hours. What do you say?
• If the guy is busy on a particular day, then politely offer to reschedule the event to another date. If he refuses again, then I think there is no point in imposing. It's probably worth looking for some other object of sympathy.

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See you again and all the best to you! Yours, Yuri Okunev.