The best invitations for a date: what makes girls lose their minds. Choosing the right words

For many guys, the very thought of having to agree on a date with a girl already causes jitters. They don’t know how to ask a girl out on a date so that she will absolutely say “yes” without refusal. The purpose of this article is to help guys learn how to correctly and beautifully invite girls on dates.

The basis of the correct and successful invitation to a date is 6 principles: simplicity, purpose, unusualness, trust, sensitivity and care.

• Simplicity: The invitation should be short and simple.
• The goal is to motivate people to take action. To do this, you need to take into account the own interests of the fairer sex.
• Unusuality: try to surprise the lady by inviting her in an unusual way, not like everyone else. This draws her attention to the invitation, distinguishing the guy from the crowd of admirers.
• Confidence: By speaking confidently without stuttering, a guy has a better chance of success.
• Sensitive and caring: This requires good eye contact as well as a smile. It is necessary to make the girl feel that she is cared for. Caring leads to trust, which in turn leads to acceptance of the invitation. Let's look at an example of what this looks like.

“I don’t, but I want to say that you always manage to be an inimitably attractive girl. How do you do it? By the way, I know a quiet Japanese restaurant not far from here that makes the most delicious sushi (ice cream, coffee, cocktails). I'm sure you will like them and appreciate their taste. What if we go there on Friday, after school (work)?

Or “do you like fun adventures? I would like to invite you to ride ATVs (bicycles, horses, carousels) in the park this weekend. By the way, if you don’t know how, I promise you will learn it easily and it will be fun. Where is the best place for me to meet you (where is the best place to pick you up)?

Such invitations sound simple and confident. The goal is immediately visible - to try ice cream or go for a ride, and the guy tried to invite in an unusual way. Finally, they show sensitivity, care (the desire for the girl to like it, learn something + a compliment), as well as a tactful attempt to find out what she might like. Such an invitation gives the impression of a guy as a more caring, attractive, confident person compared to other men.

9 Tips for a Successful, Unobtrusive Invitation

Have right attitude bye. An invitation to a date is not a marriage proposal. The only thing at stake is whether your acquaintance will develop further or not. Moreover, refusing a date should not be interpreted as neglecting the person.

It is better to invite a girl on a date in person, and not via SMS, which is unlikely to show her the seriousness of the guy’s intentions. It's hard to understand whether this SMS means a joke or is it a serious intention? After all, it is impossible to see or determine emotions through a message young man. In addition, on the phone it is easier for young ladies to refuse a meeting and hang up when they cannot see the eyes of the interlocutor.

Never ask a girl out on a date in front of her classmates, friends or work colleagues. Because of this, she may find herself in an awkward situation, so she will definitely refuse the meeting.

Don't use the word "date" itself when arranging a meeting. This word evokes a feeling of some kind of obligation, something official, serious, which can cause a woman’s stiffness and tightness. Think about how to beautifully invite a girl on a date? For example, you can say “I want to invite you to join me for a game of bowling (any event, especially when it is known that the lady likes it). By the way, I know a place where they serve the most delicious ice cream (they cook something cool), how would you like it if I treat you to it after the game?

Some important rules: avoid fussing, abstruse phrases and attempts to impress the girl from the first words. Try to think through the date program in advance: what do you plan to talk about with her?

Try to be specific. As a rule, female representatives more often agree to dates when they have some idea about the program for spending time together. Ambiguity makes women nervous. Therefore, when inviting a girl on a date, be specific.

For example, instead of the phrases “do you want to take a walk somewhere or let’s meet and take a walk somewhere”, say specifically “I know a quiet cafe where they make great coffee, I want to treat you to it. And then I want to ask you to accompany me to play table tennis (any event) or ride horses.” Can you feel the difference?

Warning!

Try not to get hung up on the words or rehearsing a specific dialogue and trying to remember the entire subsequent conversation scenario. Otherwise, if something goes beyond the script or specific plan, your nervousness about it may push the lady away.

Remember to be original. Make a simple assessment of the situation, for example, how many times beautiful girl Over the entire period of time, you were invited to a cafe - 40 times, a restaurant - 45 times, a movie - 70 times? This kind of invitation reminds her of all the guys who tried to be her boyfriend. Naturally this will activate negative emotions in it, which may affect further agreement or disagreement to accept the offer.

It is worth remembering that women are annoyed, even enraged, when a man seeking to be a suitor says “let’s go somewhere someday.” Therefore, you need to invite her on a date in an original way and to a place that other guys have not invited.

Fact: all girls dream of a romantic, happy relationship. Therefore, they will accept the invitation, provided that the guy invited in the right way, at the right time, under the right circumstances.

Many men/guys forget this fact. Their appearance, as well as their behavior when they are trying to make an appointment with a lady, quite clearly tells her “most likely you will refuse me, but still...”. They forget that confidence is an attractive quality, while fear and timidity have the opposite effect.

Try to be confident. Be yourself and throw away all the trainings, techniques, videos that promise to teach you secrets that will make you an “expert” in dating. What will they teach you? To be a programmed robot, afraid to deviate from the rules. This is a complete failure, since the girl is able to see and also feel your tightness and unnaturalness. And all female representatives love confident, decisive guys. (Read the article about ?)

Oh, by the way, before you ask a girl out on a first date, pay attention to your shoes and appearance. If you approach her in saggy sweatpants, a worn T-shirt, or dirty shoes, then there is unlikely to be much chance of success. Surely the lady liked the guy with her beauty, well-groomed appearance, and appearance. Then is it worth thinking that a girl is indifferent to the appearance of the guy inviting her? Besides nice view helps you feel much more confident.

Remember to be flexible. We all have busy life schedules, which is a real obstacle to any kind of dating. Therefore, be flexible and offer an alternative option if the initial option is inconvenient for the lady. If the time is not right or the young lady finds it difficult to answer for now, then say that you will later ask about her answer over another option (which you will offer her).

Some girls refuse the first attempt to ask them out on a date because they don’t want to fall for the pick-up artist’s bait. Therefore, make a second attempt if you are serious about it. This will show the purity of your motives, and the girl will probably agree to accept the invitation.

Avoid insisting on a date after hearing a refusal. Remember, an invitation to a date is not the beginning of a relationship. Rather, on the contrary, it is an attempt to find common language, the interests of two people to get used to each other. Therefore, refusal is not a reason to fall into a depressed state. Treat refusals more easily, because they make you wiser and more experienced.

How to invite a girl on a date in VKontakte

Most likely you already know each other and have been corresponding online for some time. Let's consider two options for inviting her.

When it is known that a girl likes a guy. If you have a lively, interesting conversation online, your communication is filled with humor, and the girl is often the first to initiate the conversation, then it is better to talk directly about the date. For example, say that you’ve already stopped spending time on the Internet, and it’s better to meet in person. Invite her not to do anything and not to plan anything for the next weekend or evening, to meet and walk around the city (embankment, or sit in a cafe).

At the same time, you should not stop communicating with her online until the time of the date. Why a direct invitation - good idea? Due to the fact that between young people there are already established good relationship, the girl is probably interested in a date herself. Therefore, you should not delay a face-to-face meeting.

If there is no particularly close communication online, then how to ask for a date? You need to voice your plans to the girl, inviting her to join them herself. For example, you can say: “This weekend (or evening) I plan to ride a bike (roller skates or have a photo shoot) in the park, if you want, join me, it will be cool. If he can't, be flexible by offering another date.

What is good about this method? Regardless of whether the girl agrees or not, the guy’s plans will not be disrupted. Also remember that in most cases it is better to use the first option. By the way, online you should use not only correspondence, but also voice or video communication. This greatly increases the desire for a further face-to-face meeting.

In this video You can look at a few ideas on how to invite people on a date in an original way.

Conclusion

Of course, there are guys who have no difficulty in negotiating with a girl about spending time together. They hardly have to rack their brains with thoughts of how to ask a girl out on a date? It seems that the words themselves fly out of their mouths and nothing will confuse them. Others consider this a whole “science”, the skills of which, by the way, can be learned by applying the tips from this article.

Don't be afraid to stand out, be a little different, and say something unique. Always pay attention to your emotions to help the lady feel cared for. Try to be simple and confident when asking a girl out on a date, then you will be successful.

Best regards, Andronik Oleg/Anna.

Ideally, most girls will say that they prefer to be asked out in person. If you are so shy that you cannot ask a girl out on a date either in person or over the phone, then the best way to do this is via SMS. Most likely, you can make it more believable so that the girl agrees. It is very important to be extremely respectful and to the point, whether you are asking her out on a date, to a dance, or asking her to be your girlfriend.

Steps

Ask her out on a date

Think of something interesting for a date. If you know this person well enough, then consider her interests when you propose a date. The more attractive the invitation sounds, the greater the likelihood of acceptance. Moreover, if you outline a specific place and time for the meeting, you will be more convincing than if you simply say: Let's spend time together or I don't know what you like. Here are a few ideas you should consider before asking a girl out:

• If you like the same music, then invite her to a concert.
• Invite her to lunch or just ice cream. If you like to cook, then invite her to a home-cooked dinner. But remember that dates don't have to be about food; Take a walk or go bowling together!
• Choose an activity where you will have the opportunity to communicate and get to know each other better. Try not to invite her to the cinema, because there you will sit silently and will not be able to talk. However, if you decide to invite her to the movies, then first have dinner together or go out for ice cream after the movie. This way you will have a chance to get to know each other.

1. Send her the first SMS. Say hello to her first to start a conversation. If you happen to meet her and you're not sure whether she has your number saved in her phone or not, then you probably need to remind her who you are. Tell her something like: Hello. This... [so and so], you and I recently met. If you are sure that she has your phone number, then write her an SMS something like: Hello. How are you? or Hello. How was your day?

   If you have recently seen her, then try to come up with some excuse to start a conversation regarding your last meeting. For example, if you were at a party together, then you can write: Hello. How did you spend the rest of the evening? If you were in class together, try writing something like: Are you ready for the test on Monday?

   • Before you ask her out, wait for her to respond to your first text message. Don't forget that she may be busy and her phone may not be with her. Be patient.

2. Ask her out on a date. Once you've managed to start a conversation, it's time to ask her out. You can first ask what her plans are that day or for the weekend. If she says she's available, then ask her out. Write her an SMS something like: Would you like to do [such and such] with me

   Don't wait too long to ask her out. You don't want the conversation to go in a different direction, and your invitation to a date seems ridiculous or unexpected? There is no need for a long conversation if you write to each other.

   • Be concise. Just ask: Do you want to go to the cinema? or Shall we go bowling on Friday night?
   • Schedule a specific place and time for the meeting. If you just say: Don't you want to watch a movie?, then you won't sound convincing. It is very important that she feels serious about your intentions and understands that you have thought about this.
   • Offer her something different. Maybe she wants to meet you but is terrible at bowling; maybe she wants to have dinner with you, but she was only at the place you suggested yesterday. Make it clear to her that you have a plan, but are open to other suggestions too.

3. React to her response. If she says yes, then discuss the details: decide where and when you will meet and, if necessary, discuss how you will get there. Once you've decided on a date, end the conversation in a normal manner by saying something like, “Great! See you on Saturday!" After that, do not text her so as not to seem annoying. However, if she writes to you again, then you can answer.

   Be sure to let her know that you're looking forward to the date if she says yes. This will make her feel special and she will look forward to it too.

   • If she declines your offer, then let her know you are not offended and end the conversation. Stay calm and end the conversation on a positive note.

Ask her to be your girlfriend

1. Find out if she is interested in you romantically. Before asking a girl if she wants to be your friend or not, you should be on a few dates and be sure that she wants you to be more than just a friend. If you are still young and ask a girl to become your friend without dating, then pay attention to the signs indicating that she likes you; she blushes when talking and is waiting for you after class. Knowing whether she likes you or not will increase your chances of not being rejected.

   If you've never talked to her, don't know her well, or know she's already in a romantic relationship with someone else, then don't ask her out. There are many others around beautiful girls!

2. Start a conversation. First, greet her by saying something like: Hello! How are you? or Hello! What are you doing? This will help start the conversation and prepare her for the question. Let the conversation flow naturally.

   • If you are not 100% sure whether she likes you or not, then pay attention to non-verbal signals and her words the next time you meet. Does she turn to face you, or is she nervous in your presence, or does she look excited when you appear? If yes, then these are very good signs and indicate that she likes you.

3. Start with the introduction. Greet her: Hi, how are you? or How's your day going?. This will help start the conversation and prepare her for the question. Let the conversation flow naturally. There is no need to be clever, it is better to be straightforward and speak to the point; she'll be impressed by your confidence if you don't mumble too much.

   • You can't know her daily routine down to the minute, so try to talk to her when she's not busy. For example, if you know she has soccer practice after school, then talk to her a few hours after that.

4. First, tell her how you feel. Tell her that you enjoy spending time with her, highlight the qualities that make her unique, explain Why you enjoy spending time with her so much. Try saying something like: I really enjoyed the few weeks we spent together., Next to you I feel somehow special or I've never felt as good with anyone as I do with you. Whatever you say, be honest and only say what is true.

   • Wait for her response before asking her to be your girlfriend. Without asking her about it directly, you can already understand from her response to your message whether she is interested in a relationship with you or not.
   • See if she reciprocates your feelings or not. If she says she has the same feelings for you, then go ahead and ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend. If she doesn't answer or just says Thank you without telling you about her feelings, then she's probably not interested in you.
   • Don't shower her with compliments, as this may seem insincere and depressing.

5. Ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend. There are several ways to phrase this question. You can ask her directly by saying something like: Do you want to be my girlfriend?, Can I call you my girlfriend? or Do you want us to officially become a couple? If you wait too long, the sooner you ask the question, the faster you will get the answer.

   • Another option is to ask her a question that requires a detailed answer, for example: What do you think this will lead to? or Are you okay with new relationships? Open-ended questions like these will let her know that you truly care about her wants and needs, and are willing to compromise to make her happy. This will help relieve stress, although you may not get the answer you are looking for.

6. React appropriately. If she wants to be your friend, great! The first thing you can suggest is some fun activity, such as going to a show or bowling. She will understand that you have serious intentions and that you have thought a lot about possible relationships with her.

   • If she's not interested in you, then be nice and thank her for her time. It's better to leave on a good note and feel proud of how well you responded.

Hello friends. Trying to ask a young lady out on a date in an original and beautiful way is like walking through a minefield; you don’t know how she will react to your proposal. Today I will tell you how to invite a girl on a date so that I can share all the secrets. Let's consider all possible options.

How to invite a girl for a walk

Most guys feel afraid when they want to invite a lady they know to a meeting. As a rule, fear arises due to self-doubt, fear of the girl’s refusal to meet. In such cases, only intensive work on yourself and the practice of communicating with the opposite sex will help. Now let's talk about what a guy who wants to properly invite a young lady on a date needs to consider:

1. Confidence.

Try to speak in an even, calm voice; if you stumble or stutter, the girl will simply laugh at you and most likely refuse to meet you. Follow the movement of your body - do not shift from foot to foot, look into the eyes, do not fiddle with clothes.

1. Words.

Do not use the word “date”, this word denotes the seriousness of your action and intentions, perhaps this will scare off the girl - not many people want to go straight down the aisle after a date, etc. Simply say: “I have a free evening today, shall we go to a cafe?” In this case, it is advisable to talk about a specific place; girls do not like ambiguity, like “maybe we’ll go somewhere.”

1. Eye contact.

Women always make eye contact when talking to them, so if you talk and look somewhere to the side or to the side, she will understand that you are not confident and shy. Many psychologists suggest doing this: you can look not into the eyes, but at the bridge of the nose (the place between the eyebrows), this will be easier for you, and the girl will see that you are looking only at her.

1. Alone.

There should be no extra people during such an invitation. The environment always has the ability to influence an individual, so avoid companies near a lady, believe me, she also does not need unnecessary gossip, choose a moment when there are no extra ears next to her.

1. Venue.

This needs to be taken care of in advance. Choose several options for spending time at once: cafe, cinema, theater, exhibition. If possible, you can ask the beauty: what she likes, where she goes, what she likes. This way you will have a better chance of hitting the mark, and many backup options.

1. Get yourself in order.

This has already been reminded many times: the better you look, the more chances the beauty will like you. It is not necessary to wear a suit, tie, patent leather shoes - it is enough that you are clean, combed, shaved and in unwrinkled clean clothes.

1. Don't be afraid of rejection.

Yes, it happens that a lady refuses. For various reasons: maybe she doesn't like you, maybe she doesn't like the meeting place, or maybe she doesn't have time. In any case, there is no need to impose yourself, constantly terrorize her with questions, wait, perhaps she will agree another time. In the end, you can invite someone else whom you also have designs on.

How to ask a stranger out on a date

It's the hardest thing to invite a stranger. The young man knows nothing about her: whether there is a boyfriend, what her character is and much more. Therefore, in order not to be refused, you need to show imagination, intelligence, and ingenuity. The action plan is:

Approach her with a questioning look and say: “Girl, do you know where the most delicious coffee is made here? If you could show me, I’ll treat you too.” At the same time, stay at arm's length - this way the lady will be able to see you clearly, and you will not violate her personal space.

Look at the reaction. Here you need to pay attention to body language: how she sits or stands - if her arms are apart or at her sides, her face is directed at you, her eyes are open - she listens carefully and acts situationally (she decides yes or no on the spot). If she stands and moves her feet, smiles, lowers her eyes, she is embarrassed by you. If she keeps her hands locked, legs crossed or crossed, with an appraising look - in this case she can make an excuse, for example: “I have a boyfriend” or “I’m waiting for a young man.”

Act according to the situation: if she agrees, offer a place to take a walk or sit (park, cafe). You don’t need to immediately invite a girl to a restaurant, even if your finances allow it. Firstly, by doing this you will initially spoil her - she will wait longer with each date. beautiful place, secondly, she will decide that you have serious intentions, but you are not yet sure of it. For the first time, you can invite someone to take a walk around the city, sit in a cafe, in a park, in a coffee shop.

If the lady refuses, apologize, leave and quickly forget about it, so as not to breed self-doubt. It happens that a stranger leaves her phone number - you can call and invite her on a date by phone (we'll talk about this later).

How to ask a girl on a date over the phone

This is the easiest way of invitation, here the girl does not see your insecurity, your ridiculous appearance and much more. Only your voice, intonation, and words appear here. At telephone conversation the beauty does not have time to think, which increases the chances of a positive answer. You need to pay attention to the following:

• the voice should not be too loud;
• speak directly, without beating around the bush;
• speak politely without familiarity;
• address her by name;
• check if she knows how to get there (if you have a car, offer a ride).

Here is a list of sample phrases for invitations by phone:

"Hello. I'm Gena, we met last week. Let’s go to the new cafe on (street name), they say they make delicious pizza.”

“(Name), what are you doing tomorrow night? I bought myself roller skates, but I don’t know how to skate, can you help me?”

If you live in an area with a large river, where you can go on a boat or steamship in the summer, offer: “Will you join me on a river walk?”

"Hello. A new film was released today, shall we go together?”

“What is a beautiful stranger doing in the world today? Can I interfere with your plans? Will you go bowling with me today?

Important! Regardless of how you invite a lady: be flexible. Representatives of the fair sex are busy even on weekends important matters, so adapt to her plans, change yours.

How to invite a beauty on VKONTAKTE

Social networks are the favorite option of most guys. Many people even meet girls there and set up dates. The advantages of Internet communication are that the chosen one does not see or hear you, but judges your attitude towards her by SMS. Therefore, special attention should be paid to them:

• use multimedia: emoticons, graffiti, photos, videos;
• write poetry, maybe your own;
• ask about her affairs, more about her, less about you;
• write in full words (without any “ok, ok, please, norms”, etc.);
• do not use obscene language.

As a rule, when communication began in contact and has been actively going on for some time, you can safely invite her to meet in person. You can discuss the place with the beauty - take into account her tastes and preferences. Here the probability of refusal is reduced to zero - if you constantly communicate online, it means that the lady is interested in meeting you.

If you hardly communicate online - for example, you work together, you can invite her to join you on the weekend:

“I’m going rollerblading this weekend, want to come with me?”

“My neighbors left me a pug, I have no idea what to do with him, can you help me?”

“What are you doing on the weekend? Can I join you?"

How to choose a meeting place

Here, too, you need to show imagination and ingenuity. Women are tired of monotonous trips to the cinema, theater, restaurant - they have already been through all this, except for those who have never been to romantic date. Think about what your person might like, ask her about her hobbies, dreams, and focus on this. If there is no option, you can add a little twist to a simple option. For example: you are going to invite her to a cafe, you can do this:

1. Book a table.
2. Decorate the table with flowers or rose petals.
   Wait for the girl to arrive and she will be shown to the table.
3. Wait for her to place an order.
4. Agree with the waiter and change into his uniform.
5. Bring her her order and stay with her.

The girl will be pleasantly surprised and will definitely agree to a second and subsequent dates.

Original date invitation

This question concerns all young people and men. “How to invite a young lady so that she doesn’t get offended and doesn’t think anything unnecessary or bad about me?” Very simple, let's look at it phrases that ruin everything in the world:

"Hello. Can I take you on a date?”

"Hello. What are you doing today, come with me to the river.”

"Hello. What will you do today? Aren't you very busy? Could you go to the cinema with me? This won’t last long, I still need to pick up my mother from work.”

“(Name), you’ll go to see Stas Mikhailov with me tomorrow, keep in mind that if you’re late, I won’t follow you.”

“When will you call me for tea? I can’t wait.”

What to say:

"Hello. Today I am free from all activities, and you? Join me for company, I want to check out the coffee shop, they say the cakes are delicious.”

“I’m going for a run tomorrow morning, are you with me? Just don’t overtake.”

“Help me, please, I need to buy a shirt, but I don’t know how to choose them, I need your professional opinion.”

These simple phrases will help you invite her on a date with you, but first of all, a guy needs to focus on his chosen one - her tastes, preferences, daily schedule. When the first date was successful, it won’t be difficult to invite you to a second date; you can drag out the time a little - make her worry a little, perhaps she will invite you first. Be sure to include humor:

“For some reason I didn’t see you well last time, shall we meet again?”

“You know, I liked going on dates with you, let’s make it a tradition?”

Do you like a man and really want to ask him out on a date? Today we will tell you how to do this unobtrusively so that he does not refuse. Here you will find a list of suitable phrases and methods of invitation. We will also discuss the topic: is it possible for a girl to invite a guy to a meeting first? In addition, you will learn how to hint him on a date, what to say and write.

The first step on the part of a woman is appropriate if:

• the guy has liked her for a long time;
• the couple has known each other for several days;
• a man is characterized by increased modesty or isolation;
• the girl is head over heels in love, and she doesn’t care how it looks from the outside.

Need to check in advance marital status guy, so as not to end up asking a married man out on a date.

Women's initiative is not as scary as it seems. But if a man is indifferent, you should not be active - there is a high risk of being rejected. It is undesirable to invite him even when it will negatively affect the woman’s reputation (a boss invites a subordinate).

Invitation methods

If a lady nevertheless decides to make such a gesture, she needs to present the proposal correctly. It can be done as follows:

• via SMS - this can be convenient if a woman is afraid of rejection;
• through social networks;
• directly, in personal communication;
• under an indirect pretext in real communication (there is an extra ticket to the cinema, theater, concert).

In real communication, you should find out what the guy is interested in, and only then invite him somewhere. Otherwise, for a football fan, going to a classical music concert may not seem tempting.

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Phrases for making a date

Excessive ranting is not encouraged here, so the following phrases will do:

• I have an extra movie/theater ticket, would you like to go with me?
• I have an exhibition/performance coming up soon and I would love to see you at the event.
• We have so much in common! Would you like to continue chatting over a glass of wine in a restaurant tomorrow?
• I would be interested in continuing this conversation with you tomorrow in an informal setting.
• My friend has a wedding/birthday this weekend, let's go together.
• I'm looking for a company for a trip out of town for the weekend, are you free?

Phrases should be unobtrusive and short.

Usually girls are embarrassed to invite men somewhere directly and are afraid that they may be refused, so they look for a suitable reason. This could be a friends wedding, a trip to the cinema, or even a broken laptop that urgently needs to be fixed. The girl’s task is to offer the man some leisure time that can smoothly flow into interesting communication.

The listed phrases can also be used for invitations via SMS. They are quite short, but still effective.

For the next meeting to take place, it is necessary. How to prepare for it, how to behave, what you can say, how to dress - another material has all the answers.

We have prepared instructions for you. These tips will help you get rid of fear, choose suitable clothing, prepare phrases for conversation, think through your behavior.

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How to hint a guy on a date

The initiative on the part of the woman does not have to be direct; you can simply hint at a date and make him call for it first. Here's how to do it:

• The girl should emphasize that she will spend the next weekend alone, and this upsets her.
• If a man mentions an event, such as a concert, you can talk about your desire to go too.
• The lady should establish tactile contact: accidentally take the man’s hand, hug him.
• When communicating, you should be cheerful, laugh at men’s jokes, so that he wants to continue the conversation in an informal setting.

The main thing in such a situation is to focus on the man. Lady by all accessible ways should emphasize how interesting she is in the company of a guy, how much they have in common. Common interests will become an incentive to continue communication at a concert of your favorite band or while watching a new movie.

Useful video on the topic:

Modern men rarely show courage in communicating with ladies, so a woman’s initiative can result in quick personal happiness.

In our society, it is so customary that taking the first step in a love relationship is the prerogative of men. Therefore, poor women often suffer and shed tears into their pillows, since the object of their sympathy does not take the first step, and the ladies themselves are embarrassed to take the initiative. But should you be embarrassed? Big question. After all, sometimes such uncertainty can become the biggest disappointment in life.

So is it worth waiting for weather by the sea? Probably not. After all, every day women all over the world try to prove their equality with men. The fair half of humanity actively drives cars, holds high positions and sometimes earns much more than men, so why not join the fight for your own happiness? It's time! So let's talk today about how to ask a man on a date.

Let's start preparing

So, you seem to be ripe to invite a guy on a first date, to take a step forward.

What should you be afraid of in this situation? Of course, the young man’s refusal. None of us are ready to be rejected, but we should not forget about this turn of events. And even if you hear “no” from a handsome man, you don’t need to become hysterical and start insulting him, accept the refusal with dignity.

Many girls on preparatory stage are tormented by the question of where to invite a man on a date. It’s better to choose a place that would be interesting for both you and the guy you invited. Agree, if a young man loves to ride a bike, and you don’t know how to ride one, then the date will most likely be a failure.

You will experience nothing but disappointment.

In addition, it is better to give preference to places that are not very noisy and crowded, so that you have the opportunity to communicate with a young man. For example, visiting a cinema is a very good idea, but only if after watching it you plan to go to a cozy cafe, otherwise you won’t be able to have a normal conversation.

If you have figured out where to go on a date with a guy, then it’s time to extend an invitation to him. The best option is to talk in a familiar environment, without witnesses; spectators are not needed in such a matter, they may be embarrassed by both you and the object of your sympathy.

Let's go on the offensive

So, if a place for a meeting has been chosen, and you are determined to invite a guy, then you should not put it off for a long time. Gather your strength and move forward.

And so that a man cannot refuse you, adhere to the following recommendations:

• Try to look perfect. For many girls, impeccable appearance adds self-confidence. Therefore, on day “X”, try to look your best, choose beautiful image, do neat hairstyle and makeup. If you have a lucky blouse, then you should dress up in it. Such little tricks will allow you to overcome fear and gain confidence in your own abilities;
• Tune in to the conversation. If you have already decided to invite a man first, then tune in to the conversation. It is very important to look the young man in the eyes and smile when inviting him. Eye contact favors the interlocutor and this is a fact. When speaking, construct your sentences clearly and do not mumble. If you cannot immediately go on the offensive, then first ask about something minor, but do not drag out the conversation;
• If you haven’t shown much interest in a young man before, then it’s time to start establishing contact with him; a little flirting won’t hurt at all: a slight half-smile, a glance directed in his direction, all this will have a positive effect. At the same time, try not to be too intrusive, since active actions, started abruptly and suddenly, can scare away the guy. Everything should be in moderation, flirting is an easy game, not fighting, don't forget about it;
• Remember that there is no magic phrase to ask a man out on a date. Therefore, there is no point in memorizing any text. Moreover, from excitement you may forget memorized phrases and fall into a stupor; it is better to behave naturally, speak from the heart, sincerity is always appreciated. Even the most trivial question will do: “Hi, if you’re not busy today, maybe we can go to a cafe/cinema, etc.?”. Clearly, simply, from the heart - this is the key to success.

Some more useful information on how to be the first to ask a man out on a date

If you can’t muster up the courage to directly ask a cute guy out on a date, then you can try a roundabout route.

To do this, buy two tickets, for example, to a concert of his favorite band, to a movie, to an interesting performance, in general, anywhere where the object of your sympathy will be interested.

After this, in a conversation with the man, mention that you have two tickets to the event, but your friend (sister, mother, grandmother, etc.) will not be able to go.

Invite the young man to join you. Such an invitation will look easy and relaxed and will not scare away a guy if he is shy by nature.

If you and a young man you like are communicating in the same company, then it is quite possible to arrange not a private date, but a meeting of friends. True, you don’t need to invite a huge crowd of people, but 1-2 pairs of lovers. In such an environment, you can easily and without pressure communicate with a handsome young man and have a great time. By the way, this option is suitable for girls who don’t know how to invite a male colleague on a date. For example, after a working day, invite your colleagues to drink coffee together, the main thing is that the guy you like takes the bait, and there are no other girls in the company vying for his attention.

It’s worth saying right away that by inviting a colleague you like somewhere, there is a risk of ruining not only friendly, but also business relations with him. If something goes wrong on a date and you don’t find a common language, it will be very difficult to work together in the future.

If you are one of the very shy girls, you can invite a young man to a meeting by writing a note. True, this option is not suitable for everyone; here you need to build on the guy’s character. For example, romantics will definitely appreciate such an invitation.

Some girls wonder how to invite a man on a date via SMS?

In principle, just like using a regular note, only to use communication tools you will need to get hold of the man’s phone number. If you have a contact, then maybe it’s better to call not via SMS, but just call? Although, here every beauty decides for herself.