A man is made by the woman next to him. A woman makes a man
Ancient traditions say that it is a woman who is the creative energy of the Universe, inspiring and filling a man. And a man, receiving this energy, turns it into abundance. A man is given the ability to structure feminine energy, transforming it into material wealth and financial flows.
A woman contributes to the success of her beloved man. With warmth, care and love, acceptance, sex, a woman fills a man with her energy, sets the vector, and the man turns this energy into the energy of prosperity, success and wealth. A woman is destined by nature to BE, LIVE, JOY, LOVE. For a man - ACT, ACHIEVE, WIN.
What exactly should a woman do to inspire a man to succeed:
✔ 1.Accept him as he is. Don't remake it!
By accepting him, you acknowledge his right to be himself. You need to get rid of the idea that you better than men you know something, you understand something, that you are smarter than him. Give him the freedom to be himself. Don't try to perfect it. Acceptance means that you recognize him as a man, just like you, with his own strengths and weaknesses. You understand that he has weaknesses, just like any other man. You accept the whole person with all his valuable qualities and with all his human weaknesses.
✔ 2. Appreciate his best sides, what he does for you.
Appreciating a man means respecting his strengths and being grateful to him for what he is and for what he does for you. Think about what you can value in your man? Character traits, qualities, abilities, interests.
If you can't find anything to appreciate about your husband now, look to past experiences. Remember how you met, why you liked him, what first attracted you to him, some events in your life together that earned your admiration and appreciation, or difficult circumstances that he bravely dealt with.
✔ 3. Admire his masculinity.
Deep in his soul, every man wants to see in a woman admiration for his masculine virtues, namely, the abilities, talents, achievements, ideas, dreams and male body characteristic of men, his masculinity. He needs admiration like he needs bread. Just as a woman needs love, a man needs admiration.
Admiration is very important for men; they have nowhere to get it if those around them do not admire them. Admiration A man is ready to receive it from any source, but admiration from the lips of his beloved woman will be especially valuable.
Trust and confide in him, his leadership. It’s difficult when we, in the position of a mother, know everything better than him and can still tell him what he needs to do. Trust the man that he is able to accept the right decision. His decision and vision will probably coincide with yours, but this does not mean that it is not correct.
✔ 5. Allow him to be a leader, provider, protector.
The role of leader, protector and provider is male role, this is his right and his advantage. When you have 100% confidence inside that a man should feed the family, he will begin to feed it. You just stop doing it. By taking this position, you will not only give the man his role, but also satisfy his need to be needed.
If you begin to increase a man’s masculinity, he automatically begins to move forward, grow, he begins to succeed in everything, he begins to earn good money, and become successful. In order for you to increase a man’s masculinity, you yourself need to increase your femininity.
✔ 6. Let him manage finances.
The husband is responsible for providing for the family. If a man stops earning money and does not want or cannot for a long time Finding a job is an alarming sign that the woman has the responsibility for providing for the family and the leading role. We begin to fuss, help our husband look for work, begin to make decisions for him, nag him until we take on this responsibility ourselves and go to “plow.” What should a woman really do? - “she should have the courage to sit next to her husband and not make any further movements” - accept him with love and believe that he can handle it, trust him, and wait for him to take on this responsibility.
✔ 7. Allow yourself to want and have.
If there is a woman next to a man who is not indifferent to him, and she has desires, then he will try to satisfy her desires. Men are designed that way; they like to make a woman happy. But if a woman herself suppresses her desires or does not allow herself to have what she wants, a man cannot do anything about it. He will only mirror our attitude towards himself. And we will be offended that he is such a miser.
There are no greedy men - there are women with very low self-esteem. There are no monster men, there are wives who have forgotten about themselves.
To the extent that a woman has plans, tasks, intentions and desires that have some kind of potential, they fill a man to the extent that they fill him. This is like the engine of a man's success. When a woman has no desires, she will destroy the success of a man, there is no movement forward. A man needs little; they are ascetic by nature.
✔ 8. Develop feminine qualities in yourself. To be in the female pole.
Condition is important for a woman! this is its value and its strength. When she is in her female state, she is a sorceress. Then, next to her, the man becomes courageous, calm, confident, makes decisions, acts, implements his plans, and takes responsibility.
If there is a woman nearby who always talks about the past, complains all the time, judges someone, is touchy, indecisive, not adapted to anything and does not make herself happy, depressed, then the man next to her becomes irritable, pretentious, aggressive, insecure and unwilling to take responsibility. Therefore, it is important for us:
✔ 9. To be fulfilled and happy - take care of yourself.
When a woman nourishes a man, she gives him energy to realize it in the outside world. A woman is a well from which a man drinks and the quality of this water is very good. important. This is a woman’s work on herself; an unhappy woman who does not love herself cannot make anyone happy, she cannot give what she does not have herself. Women are the foundation of a man's success and family relationships.
The power of a woman is enormous. The problem is that women do not understand their power and the possibilities of their influence on their husbands.
✔ 10. Support his ideas and believe in his capabilities, that he can do it!
If a wife supports her husband’s ideas, even the most “crazy” ones, with trust and faith in him, this is something valuable that a woman can do for a man. The story of Henry Ford, with his idea in the engineering industry, in which few believed. But his wife, believing in her husband, helped him in the garage every evening - she held the lamp when he worked in the garage after a hard day. She supported him and believed in his idea!
Men are not biorobots who should solve all our problems, earn money, buy apartments, give us children and help around the house. Realize our dreams. Men are the same people. And they, just like us, want love. To be loved, not used. To be seen and not sawed. To him inner world was interesting and pleasant to someone.
And then the stingy become generous. The glove holders are starting to restore order. Workaholics pay attention to their loved ones. The insensitive ones show love, while the vulnerable and infantile ones grow up. Only love can bring about such transformations. Only love when you see more. Not only qualities and properties, not only the size of housing and cars. When you see his soul, his personality, his strengths, his potential. You see for yourself - and help him see them.
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A person who successfully achieves his goals, feels this himself and has the recognition of others for this is called a successful person.
He is distinguished from others by a number of abilities, skills and habits. Among them we can list the following: responsibility, self-discipline, self-control, effective thinking, the ability to learn, the habit of developing.
A successful person always demonstrates confident behavior and the ability to be a leader. Be energetic and lead healthy image life is not a way of life, it is habits, like, in fact, setting goals for yourself, and many other traits.
When successful person called a woman is always cool. And yet, a successful man is many times cooler. True, not every representative strong half humanity knows (or wants to admit) that its success, as well as, by the way, health, and even the behavior of children, depend solely on the kind of woman who is next to him, on her condition and her sexuality!
And these are not just words, this is the conclusion that psychologist, coach, personal growth trainer Alexander Palienko came to after many years of studying and researching this issue.
“If you're with a woman who has great acceptance, it makes you move forward without stopping,” he says. “And you begin to be a man who is a dream for any woman, but in fact it’s not you - it’s your woman.”
The psychologist explains this phenomenon simply: because we have a man who is courageous, calm, makes decisions, acts, implements his plans, self-confident, respects himself and respects others in abundance, has a sense of humor, and is rich.
That is, when a man is rich, he is calm, when a man is poor, he is irritable. It's the same as a hungry man and a well-fed man - they are different.
As for the woman, Alexander Palienko continues, she is sexy, charming, feminine, accepting, sensual, driven, forgiving, material (very important material, not spiritual) and loving.
And so that the man is courageous, calm, makes decisions, acts, implements his plans, etc. he needs a woman. After all, whatever a woman puts there will be there. “I emphasize this again,” the psychologist emphasized.
As a result, if a woman has small desires, then a man will have small victories. If a woman has great desires, then the man will have great victories. If a woman has global plans and goals, tasks, but she makes herself happy, works on herself and at the same time watches her figure, goes to the gym, eats right, shops good shampoos, communicates with those people she likes, i.e. she takes care of herself, then she can fill a man. If she just lies there, doesn’t go anywhere and at the same time dreams about everything, there will be no sense in it, because she will give the man a pacifier.
Why, because she herself is not realized, the expert explains.
“Only a Yan woman can make a man. A Yan woman is one who knows what she wants and accepts it all, but at the same time still acts in order to make herself happy,” personal growth coach Alexander Palienko draws the attention of the stronger sex.
Each person by nature has certain talents. But due to certain circumstances, not everyone manages to reveal them. Men know about their potential, but they are in no hurry to realize it. Because they look at life rationally. There is no reason to try for yourself alone - a man is also an ascetic by nature. He needs an incentive (in other words, meaning) to achieve heights in life. The woman next to him becomes such a key to success.
The Chinese are very wise people. It is their doctrines in achieving success in life that are the most correct. Neither men nor women themselves can be self-sufficient individuals if they do not realize themselves for others.
But for this embodiment of its potential to reach its apogee, a person’s actions must be driven by love. A man is ready to “move mountains,” but for the sake of the one to whom he will give his heart.
All inventors, scientists, artists, writers created, if not for the sake of a particular charming woman, then certainly thanks to her. Even wars in the world took place for the sake of women. A striking example of this is the Trojan War or the victories of Napoleon, thrown at the feet of Josephine.
Even the most cowardly man at heart fancies himself a Leo. And the goal of the woman next to him is not to convince him otherwise, but to help him become a real man.
What not to do when doing this
If a woman wants to raise a strong personality next to her, capable of achieving success in life, she should not “pull the blanket” of their relationship. Even if at the first stage of their journey their financial situation depends entirely on her.
In order for a man to feel like a leader, a woman must delicately instill this in him (even if the reality is far the opposite). Morals, scandals, ultimatums and setting rules will not achieve anything in this situation. And a smart woman understands this well.
The educational process requires patience. Therefore, you should not forcefully push a man to take certain actions or urgently make the necessary decisions. And if the woman herself does not want to participate in the long process of re-educating a man, maybe she chose the wrong companion?
Love can work miracles
When a man and a woman begin a certain relationship (or they are just dreaming about it), they are of little interest to each other’s shortcomings. Because they are in love and see only the positive aspects of their personality in their partners.
This only becomes clearer over time, when the rose-colored glasses fall off. And for some who have seen the light, the time of regret comes, while others, in spite of everything, continue to move on hand in hand. Because they are driven by Love.
And when you realize that you want to live your whole life with this man, you begin to put up with his shortcomings. But if you also want to admire your soulmate, then you should help him realize his hidden potential.
What makes a soldier a real general is not so much his diligent service as his life partner, who correctly “had a hand” in her husband’s successes. And all because her goal was not her own well-being, but the opportunity to be proud of the achievements of her beloved husband.
Admire your man all the time!
If a man strives for success, and this is not valued, the spark of desire to achieve something may go out in him. You cannot let a man be disappointed in the correctness of his actions.
If he's doing all this for you, you shouldn't just appreciate him - admire your man. Even the smallest victory in his life. After all, for some men, these are not just achievements - they are sometimes victories over their shortcomings.
You need to appreciate every step, every breath that a man takes for the sake of his woman. And this must be done with admiration, because... it is this that increases the self-esteem of your Leo.
Put a man on a pedestal
Let him know that he is... main man your life. If you chose him as your companion, then he was worth it. And if you realize that you are superior to him in some way, you don’t need to show it to him.
A woman by nature should not rise above a man. On the contrary, the vital energy given to her at birth should be aimed at exalting the role of a man in her destiny.
If a man feels himself on a pedestal erected for him by the woman he loves, he himself will believe in his greatness. Then he will be able to handle everything. The main thing is that the woman constantly believes in his strength and helps maintain this confidence in him.
But how not to become a slave to circumstances?
The above in no way implies that a woman should become a slave to her man, i.e. lose yourself as a person. When exalting a man, you cannot completely dissolve in him.
You need to continue to be an individual who can realize yourself in life. A man will achieve success only for the sake of the woman who deserves it. If he loses interest in her, he will either slow down at this stage of the journey, or find himself another one for whom he will “move” mountains.
The good thing about the educational process is that as the student develops, his teacher also improves. A woman who moves a man to success must improve herself. Only by walking hand in hand will the two of them achieve the desired heights in life.
How not to get bogged down in everyday problems?
So, a woman’s goal is to teach a man to be the head of the family. He must take upon himself the solution of the most difficult everyday problems that are within the control of a man. It is also necessary to allow him to concentrate on the financial side of the issue.
In many families, the woman manages the money. But it is desirable that a man participate in this process. Only in this way will he understand that his main concern is ensuring the well-being of his family.
But the woman will have to provide the rear. A man should always be fed, well-groomed, and caressed. The house to which he returns after another victory (even if it’s just ordinary workdays) should greet him with warmth and comfort.
And if something in life does not quite stick together, you cannot place the entire burden of responsibility for it on a man - he may simply not be able to stand it. Believe me, everyday problems, like a snowball, can crush anyone. And if a man does not feel support from a woman in the fight against “everyday life,” he will simply give up.
Don't let your energy run out
Every year, communication between spouses undergoes life transformations. The former passion of the first “honey” years has subsided. It was replaced by banal everyday peace.
This slightly cooled feelings, and for some families it grew into a simple habit. If you don’t think about it in time, then you can life path lose the incentive that drives progress.
Perhaps some definite success has already been achieved, and we can stop there. This means that feminine energy has exhausted itself, and, consequently, the engine of aspirations in the man has also stalled.
At this stage, the woman just stops taking care of herself. The external unkemptness of the spouses at home discourages both. And no matter how interesting a woman’s inner world is, a man can quickly get bored with it if the outer shell becomes dull.
And to match the domesticated woman will be her husband - an individual lying on the sofa in sweatpants. This is precisely what cannot be allowed. Where relaxation has begun, life turns into stagnation (read - into a swamp).
Become his lover
Based on the above, a woman should make the main conclusion of her life: a man will never lose interest in her if she remains interesting to herself.
You need to constantly monitor your appearance, regularly modifying something in it. If a man has been living with you under the same roof for so many years, this does not mean that he cannot fall in love with you anew every time. It is for the sake of your charm that he strives for success in life. Don't forget this.
But appearance and spiritual interest alone are not enough. From time immemorial the truth has been known: a man is a male by nature. And sex is not worth it for him last place. Just as the leader of the pack brings prey to his she-wolf, so a man will do everything for the one who has given him true pleasure.
Love him truly with both soul and body. Let him feel like God in bed with you - and this will be the most important incentive for which he will not only strive for success, but also live.
But what if all your efforts were in vain?..
If a woman tried everything to achieve her goal, but still did not motivate the man to achieve successful achievements, perhaps she did not try hard enough. Or she approached the issue too rationally. Therefore, it is based vital energy Love was not laid down.
This means that the woman bet on the wrong man. Or the man himself was not so interested in the woman that he could “turn the world upside down” for her sake.
Larisa Bogdanova is sure that the man
is implemented depending on
what a woman is next to him.
Psychologist and vice-president of the Academy of Private Life company Larisa Bogdanova is sure that a man’s fulfillment depends on the kind of woman next to him. And therefore, in order to transform the world, a woman must learn to distinguish between when to be a wonderful muse and when to be a faithful friend. Bogdanova teaches this wisdom both in her “Academy of Private Life” and in the book “Circle feminine power. Elemental energies and the secrets of seduction." We asked Larisa to tell us more about this.
Tell us about the basis of your theory.
A woman must have four states harmoniously present - girl, queen (bitch), mistress and mistress. Once something is lost or ignored, everything falls apart. After all, these conditions correspond to the needs of a man. We give a man energy, he realizes his potential, achieves success. He seeks this energy and reacts to it. If you have it and you direct it correctly, then you attract everything you want.
How did you come to create such a school?
There was a moment in my life when my husband said: “You are already thirty-four, and I’m still forty-one!” This hurt me; I felt like life was over and there was nothing ahead. I started looking. I went to Moscow to a similar school and began to travel around the world in search of knowledge. Now I have the feeling that everything is just beginning and life is in full swing.
What is most important to you in what you teach?
Understanding that the responsibility for what is around you is in you, and everything was created only by you. The belief that the dominant role belongs to women, no matter how much we want to give up this responsibility and hide. The controversial question is whether every man can be made a leader, or whether he must achieve everything himself. But for now I believe that anyone can be inspired, helped and at the same time remain yourself.
That is, you still have to live for yourself?
Men are just a mirror. With a clear understanding of what you want in life, you create the world you need, and a man acts as an equal partner. You strengthen each other.
Why are men now metrosexuals and women careerists?
If a woman stops tracking her conditions, male energy begins to dominate in her - the energy of success. Since we are primary in a relationship with a man, he begins to change. It turns out, instead of soft feminine energy we give him a man's, and strong man either does not see such a woman, or perceives her as a competitor. And if his energy balance is disturbed, then a substitution occurs. How stronger woman, the weaker the man becomes.
Behind every successful man is a successful woman.
How do you assess the current state of society?
The concept of family has collapsed, everyone has gone into business, and we have what we have. There is Disneyland in America. Why was it built? For the sake of strengthening family values. We don't have that. But I think that soon in Russia there will be a return of family values, family is the preservation of the future. In the meantime, this is an attribute, it is not valued at all, people are scattered and rushing about.
Name the most common mistake modern man?
For both men and women, this is a lack of self-respect. Historically, this is how it happened - we have been killing it for too long.
What can save humanity?
Creative attitude towards the world. The world is so diverse that any situation can be regarded as a problem, or as new opportunities. Without the art of compromise, relationships cannot be built. Nothing will be created by itself; a lot needs to be invested in relationships, and first of all, the woman, since behind every successful man there is a successful woman. The most important thing is to perceive every day as a reason for joy, creativity and new perspectives. You need to approach life wisely.
1. When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: “Everything that happened will be in the past!” – and smile at yourself and the world.
2. Promise yourself that in everything that happens to you from now on, you will see only good signs and new opportunities.
3. Compose an “Ode of Praise” in your honor, including at least ten of your most amazing qualities. Do not spare epithets in your honor. Repeat the ode before going to bed while drinking a glass of water.
4. Write down the most unpleasant events on a white sheet of paper. last month and solemnly burn them. While the leaf is burning, take five breaths in and out, repeating as you exhale: “Let the bad go away,” while inhaling: “And the good comes.”
5. Surprise yourself with something pleasant every day. Pamper yourself! Follow these tips for twenty-one days and see your life change for the better.
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Heart of the Fiery World
MALE BEHAVIOR IS A CONSEQUENCE OF FEMALE BEHAVIOR.
Does a woman make a man a man?
You know, somehow it became popular to place all the blame for failed relationships on women. It is convenient to explain drunkenness, betrayal, and aggression by the fact that “male behavior is only a consequence of female behavior.” It's hard to disagree with the fact that we all influence each other in one way or another, especially in close relationships. However, let's not forget that every person has a choice. You can talk and find out what’s wrong, you can change something and try to fix it, you can break up and start looking for another couple, you can not get divorced and have an affair “on the side”... To do or not to do - the person decides for himself.
Those who say that a man will not look for a way to fix the relationship, that the development and preservation of relationships is exclusively a female prerogative, it seems to me, they mean some kind of infantile men. They need to be led, directed, taught, instructed, explained.
Nowadays it is fashionable to attribute to women superpowers in influencing men. It seems that sharing responsibility would be healthier for both sexes. You can only influence what you control personally, what depends directly on you. And only you yourself depend directly on yourself. Because another person is influenced by a lot of other factors: his own will or lack thereof, upbringing in a family, relationships with parents and basic attitude towards the world, character traits, mental health and the presence of complexes, intelligence, in the end. No one can convince, force, compel, inspire a person to do something that he does not want to do.
“A man will not be confident if you do not instill confidence in him. He will not be responsible and purposeful if you are not ready to trust him. He will not be brave and emotionally stable if you doubt him, criticize him for mistakes, make trouble. He will not be the head of the family until you stop fighting for power in the family and “surrender yourself into his strong hands.”
I am sure that a man can be confident, responsible and purposeful, courageous and emotionally stable on his own. Without having a woman in his life. Only this is from the “self-made” category. And this is about adult men.
To become the head of the family - such a need arises in a man not because the woman nearby behaves badly or well. But because he himself wanted it. A woman’s behavior can become a stimulus, but the motive is born inside. When a man loves himself. Then the stimulus is significant and the motive appears.
Is it possible to lead a man astray when he has understood a lot about himself: who he is, why he is, with whom he wants to live and how? What do you think?
I am sure that no external idolization will force a man to change. Let's be honest, every man has his first and greatest love - his mother. And if she with all her strength unconditional love It was not possible to inspire a man to feats; any outside woman is unlikely to succeed. However, change is possible. A man can change. But only when he feels the need for it. What exactly will become his driving force, only he knows. Love, self-esteem, power or something else. Loving woman will always support, praise, be proud of her man. But let’s not delude ourselves: only those who are ready for them can be inspired to change.
It is interesting that, according to some experts, only a weak woman can inspire a man. In order for a man to become strong, one must be weak. Only then will he be able to take a dominant position in an alliance with a woman.
What is strength and what is weakness? Are there clear criteria and clear definitions? Dominance in a family presupposes that one person is better or superior to another person in some way. Otherwise, on what basis does he suddenly have the right to dominate?
If we are talking about physical strength, then it is stupid to discuss it: a man is naturally stronger. Does this give you the right to dominate? If we talk about fortitude, there is a very beautiful expression: “Strong is not the one who does not fall, the strong is the one who rises.” Women master this kind of power perfectly. What about weakness? Can emotionality be considered a weakness? Most likely, no, because the dependence of social success on developed emotional intelligence has been proven. And is the man weak who, at the end of a hard day, puts his head on his beloved’s lap for “pity”?
Dominance presupposes the presence of a superior and a subordinate. And subordinates do not inspire. They are afraid. To stumble, to do something wrong, not to please the boss, not to receive a reward, to receive punishment. But there will also be punishment, as well as a gallant and protective attitude?
I would like marriage to be a union of two unequal biologically, but equally valuable individuals who know how to negotiate, respect each other, and resolve issues within the framework of their competence without regard to who is boss in the house. There can be nothing worse than trying to squeeze your relationship into the “most correct organization” of the family according to the rules written by someone, even if these rules are rooted in ancient history.
P.S. In one interview, Russian actor Georgy Taratorkin, when asked by a journalist: “Why did you move to Moscow for your wife, although you were a famous actor in Leningrad, and didn’t bring her to your place?”, answered: “Because she has the right to the same creative destiny , like me"
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