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.In my article I want to highlight some aspects of marriages with Arabs based on the experience of my friends and acquaintances. I would like to note right away that we are not talking about dating via the Internet. Why? The fact is that Russian women looking for a husband abroad prefer to find a man of close European-Christian culture living in a developed country. Therefore, it is unlikely that a sane woman will leave Russia somewhere in the Middle East, to a country with different traditions, culture and mentality. It should also be noted that a normal average resident of the Middle East is looking for a wife through relatives, friends, acquaintances or work colleagues. Usually this is a woman from the same sociocultural environment.
A natural question arises: who are those “Muslim princes” writing to our women? These could be: gigolos trying to obtain citizenship of a more developed country (including Russia) by marrying a foreigner; rich residents of the Persian Gulf countries looking for a white, cheap lover for a while; pimps and slave traders who lure our women abroad and sell them to brothels. Türkiye and the UAE are centers of the slave trade, and Russian women are in incredible demand there. I can’t bear to call all these types “Muslims”. Like a Muslim woman. Such scum, I believe, cannot be called people. Perhaps someone found happiness in marriage with an Arab via the Internet, but I personally am not aware of such cases.
Our women meet Arabs in real life, usually at an institute where foreign students study. In my experience, most mixed marriages are from the student environment. Such marriages occur very often, but also often break up. The main reason is the difference in mentalities and cultural traditions. These traditions are usually called “Muslim”, and the bearers of the traditions themselves are called “Muslims”. Is this true?
Let me tell you a little about myself. I converted to Islam about 7 years ago. I didn’t have any thoughts about getting married or leaving. Two more Russian girls came to Islam with me: both were unmarried. I don’t want to explain the reasons for my choice, the path to God is a personal matter, I just want to say that for any believer of any denomination it is necessary to communicate with fellow believers. My friends lived in a dormitory because they were out-of-town students. Arab students lived in the same dormitory. Theoretically, they were my co-religionists, but I would not communicate with most of them, much less get married as a Muslim believer. The fact is that a real Muslim is one who follows the rules of his religion. In our dorm, out of 150 Arabs, there were only three who observed. The rest were drinking and having fun with the girls. These were ethnic Muslims. The fact is that if we ask an ordinary Russian how Orthodox he is, we will hear several options in response: an atheist, sometimes I go to church, I believe in God, but I don’t follow the instructions of the church, and so on. If we ask the same question to a Muslim about his religion, we will hear something different: even the most drunken and depraved Arab will kick himself in the chest with his heel, claiming that he is a Muslim, even if he does not observe anything. And in general, Islam is not like that, don’t look at me, I’m not an example to follow. Such maxims mislead non-Muslims. Especially in the case of the dorm described above, where there was a pitiful bunch of believers: 3 Russians, 3 Arabs and two Tatar grandmothers (the watchmen, we taught them to pray, since under the Soviet regime they had no knowledge about their religion) - there was a contrasting sight in comparison with drunken crowds of Arabs and their drunken girlfriends.
By the way, about girlfriends. Many girls, dating Arabs, hoped for a serious relationship, but I knew that in most cases this was impossible: some already had a bride waiting for them at home, others just had a Russian girlfriend for fun. I had no moral right to interfere in someone else’s personal life and “open the eyes” of our girls. I wore a headscarf, and this already distinguished me: none of the Arabs slept with me, on the contrary, when I walked past, my “brothers” shyly lowered their eyes, hiding vodka in their pants pockets. Our girls couldn’t help but see this when they met Arabs. Usually they simply ignored me, didn’t ask me any questions, didn’t ask for advice: well, there’s some strange girl walking around in strange clothes, so what? In a word, I felt some kind of barrier between me and these girls, although I felt terribly sorry for them. When some of the Arabs left for their homeland, abandoning their lovers, there was smoke in the dorm. The most furious girls almost rushed at me, blaming me, my headscarf and my Islam, saying that they didn’t do this to me, no one used me. Of course, there were few who were particularly aggressive; the majority suffered quietly in solitude: it’s no joke, losing 3-5 years per person would be in vain.
Of course, not everyone is like Masha and Nina. Most unhappy marriages with Arabs are love marriages. Marriages with Europeanized Arabs, supposedly cut off from their roots. In Russia, these guys are no different from Russians, except that they look after them more beautifully, but when they take their wife home, everything changes. A former shirtless guy can grow a beard and suddenly become a “true believer,” demanding the same from his wife: since you love me, obey. Most of these Arabs are childishly naive; they sincerely believe that thanks to love, their wives will also be imbued with the spirit of their traditions and will be “like everyone else.” This is especially true for changing faith. All Muslims are confident in the truth of their faith. (Like Catholic or Orthodox believers). Only Muslim believers understand that faith is an intimate matter, and, believing in the truth of their religion, they do not expect that everyone around them will also adhere to the same views. And a true Muslim believer will marry only a Muslim woman, and he will meet her not at a disco, but through friends or relatives. A believer of any confession will observe his religion everywhere: both at home and abroad, no matter how difficult it may be. Agree, this clearly does not apply to the walking comrades described above. That is why the ex-wives of such Arabs vilify Muslims and Islam, although we clearly have nothing to do with it. It is easier to label and blame creeds and abstract people than to dig into the essence of the problem. But the point is that there is no smell of religion here: the husband has never been a religious person, a change of faith is only a requirement to follow traditions, and the wife did not have the slightest idea about the religion and traditions of her husband’s country. And I didn’t want to know and understand, if I had known, I would have thought a hundred times.
I am more than sure that Russian women, when planning to marry an Arab, were warned more than once by their parents, friends and acquaintances. I'm also sure they've read different stories. But they get married and go to their loved one. What awaits them? A sharp change in lifestyle: long clothes, reverence for elders and husband's relatives, inability to make a career, obedience to husband. What does this all mean?
Firstly, relations with my husband’s in-laws. If they accepted a daughter-in-law, the marriage can already be considered half happy, support and protection are guaranteed, if something doesn’t work out, you can complain to your father-in-law, they will give a message to your son: Arabs obey their father and mother. If the parents-in-law are against such a marriage, it is better to get a divorce. Especially if the husband listens to his relatives.
Secondly, this is the relationship with my husband itself. In Muslim countries, women communicate with women separately from men. It would be normal for a Muslim woman to ask her husband not to go to the market: crowds, pestering traders, heavy bags. Usually men buy provisions for the family. It will also be normal for a Muslim woman to give priority to home and raising children; The husband's task is to provide for the family. An Arab would prefer to live with a woman who is family-oriented rather than career-oriented, but he will never dare to tell his wife that she is sitting on his neck. Of course, there are also working women, but preference is given to working in a purely female team (beauty salons, studios, etc.), or with children: kindergartens, schools. Often women work in the family business of their fathers-in-law and husbands: shops, clinics (if both spouses are doctors). However, in all cases, Muslim men are sure that raising a child and doing housework is also hard work. Muslim women themselves are of the same opinion.
Now a few words about the husband’s character. It usually manifests itself in the first year or two of life together. As a rule, young people spend this time together while living in Russia. The husband may not demand to wear a long one, but he may already begin to show himself. An intelligent woman will immediately notice whether a man is greedy, kind, demanding, strong in character or a wuss. Having arrived home, such husbands are unlikely to change radically: weak-willed men will submit to their relatives, strong and authoritarian men will try to control their wives even more strongly. If a husband beats his wife, then usually he beats her everywhere: both in Russia and abroad. Conclusion: it is necessary to decide whether it is worth living with such a person or not BEFORE leaving Russia. If there are children in the marriage, then they need to obtain Russian citizenship. After leaving for an Arab country, Russian citizenship also cannot be changed: our diplomatic services will only provide assistance to their citizens abroad, Russian legislation does not recognize dual citizenship.
At one time I came across an article “Why do you girls love Syrians.” I don’t remember which newspaper. The point is that these Syrians married Russians, registered as Russians, lived at their expense, and even beat their wives. I just couldn’t understand how you could tolerate a parasite, prescribe him, and even allow yourself to be beaten! Note that this was in Russia, these women could get a divorce, they could not get married at all, but live in a civil marriage. They could just leave - they are all Muscovites, they have jobs and registration. We could have stopped there. However, these women went further: they gave birth to children from their husbands, two at a time. And then, after getting divorced, they made a fuss: the dads took the children to Syria. There was even a TV program where the mufti from the Spiritual Administration of Muslims of Russia publicly said what I am writing about: why was it necessary to give birth to children from them, and in what place are these Syrians Muslims? Personally, I know that an Arab will not abandon his children, but I have also seen various examples of divorces where children remained with both their mother and father - in my experience, it all comes down to the person. If, in the case of these Syrians, it is immediately clear what kind of people they are, one cannot expect good things from them.
In fairness, it should be noted that sometimes the most decent of the Arabs, before talking about marriage, talk about their country and faith. This initially puts potential brides into a state of shock, but once they recover, they look realistically at the prospect of marriage with such a person, and in my experience, marriages can be happy. You can also search for information about your husband’s country on the Internet, read reference books, notes from travelers who have visited these countries, and read some fiction written by Arab authors. It is better to take modern writers; they paint a picture of life in their countries without embellishment and objectively, without avoiding problems and dark sides. I personally really like the Syrian writer Ulfat Ul Idlibi.
Also, in fairness, it should be noted that the majority of happy marriages with Arabs were with Russian Muslim women, Tatars, and residents of the North Caucasus. And the Arabs themselves were believers. In addition to professional education, the women also had religious education and spoke Arabic. Before marriage, the husbands' families already accepted the daughter-in-law in absentia, and the wives' families accepted the son-in-law. Agree, common spiritual values, support from parents on both sides, knowledge of Arabic - all this is a very good foundation for building a relationship. However, these happy couples did not all go to their husbands' home countries. The reasons are different. For example, there is a civil war in Sudan and Algeria. In the UAE, the Russian diploma obtained by their husbands is not valued, and they cannot find work in their specialty. Egypt - low standard of living, poor healthcare and education system. Only a few couples settled in Syria and Morocco, but in this case the fathers-in-law are rich people, which means that you can live in your own home, in a clean and quiet area, and often visit your parents in Russia. The downside is that you can’t scold the ruler out loud, you can go to jail for this: there is no freedom of speech.
Most of my friends, happily married, returned to Russia from Sudan, Algeria and Egypt. It’s also not easy in Russia: those of my Sudanese friends who opened their own business in Russia (a confectionery shop) lost their money during the 1998 financial crisis. Therefore, those who could, left for the USA or Canada. It’s also not sugar: life from scratch with one suitcase. Those who remained in Russia work in their specialty. Usually these are doctors (most Arabs educated in Russia are doctors). How doctors are paid in Russia is not for me to tell you, so wives also work, sometimes in the same hospital, to make ends meet.
You can ask me personally: would I marry an Arab? It is difficult for me to answer this question unambiguously. I would have married a good and believing man, and all my Arab friends didn’t want to go home, they were better off in Russia... I would have gladly married a Russian Muslim, but they were all taken apart. And among those Arabs who wanted to live in Russia, almost all of them drank and did not observe anything. I must say that among these guys there were good people, they helped me with my work and generally helped me in life, but I would not marry them. Moreover, I would not register anyone in my apartment: neither Arab, nor Russian. Only, to obtain Russian citizenship, registration is required, so no matter how wonderful an Arab is, I would not register him.
Again, for the sake of fairness, I must say that among my Algerian friends there were guys who were successful in business. They bought housing with their own money, registered there, and honestly, with their labor, earned Russian citizenship, and then got married, registering their wives in their apartments. But this is an exceptional case.
Everything I wrote about here has one goal: when the next letter arrives from another girl who is in love with an Arab and is going to him for permanent residence, remember my letter too. Believe me: I have seen a huge number of mixed marriages, and for the most part, women with their eyes closed rushed headlong into the pool, not thinking about anything but their love. How many times did I try to talk to these girls - it was useless, they heard nothing but the call of their hearts, and then many cried bitterly.
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The Egyptian authorities are clutching their heads: marriages with foreigners are becoming more and more prestigious among young Egyptians, while their compatriots are sitting as old maids. In order to somehow influence the situation, the country’s authorities have taken a course towards promoting “preservation of the integrity of society, age-old traditions and foundations, as well as the inviolability of the main social unit of society - the family.” The main goal of a campaign with such a broad name is to put
the end of the boom in mixed marriages in the resort towns of the land of the pharaohs.
Are the moral teachings of elders and matchmakers effective? Luxor authorities claim that yes: after several months of the campaign, marriages with foreigners have halved. However, our tourists vacationing in Egypt do not yet feel any difference in the behavior of Egyptians.
Young Arabs, not burdened by marriage, continue to court the European women who arrive to them with their characteristic love of love. Working as guides and animators in hotels, they try with the same zeal to find a wife among their clients, many of them
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which are Russian women, so that with her help they can get to higher levels of the social ladder.
Our compatriots, being frequent guests of hot Egypt, regularly return to the land of the pyramids, no longer as tourists, but as Arab wives. The passion, love pressure and temperament of burning brunettes captivate our romantic ladies. According to the Association for the Protection of the Rights of the Russian-Speaking Population in Egypt, about 4,000 Russian citizens permanently reside in Sharm el-Sheikh alone (figure for 2006), and their number is growing in proportion to the tourist flow - by 15% per year.
Why does an Egyptian need a foreign wife? It is no secret that an Islamic bride costs the groom hundreds of camels or as much gold as she weighs. Another thing is the Russians.
They come to the hot shore - modern and relaxed. They sunbathe topless and come to lunch in short T-shirts that do not cover their navels, which in Egypt looks like complete nudity. They walk around the hotel in thongs, demonstrating what an Egyptian can only imagine in secret erotic fantasies. They agree to go to the Egyptian for a cup of coffee, not suspecting that this is tantamount to admitting to prostitution. They entertain the disco with belly dancing, not realizing that in Egypt a decent woman can perform this dance only in a closed bedroom and only in front of her husband. They believe colors and words and easily agree to sex if they like a hot Egyptian guy.
For the latter, marrying a foreigner is as easy as shelling pears. He does not enter into a real marriage with her, but an ORFI. According to Egyptian customs, this is, rather, an engagement or, roughly speaking, state permission to sleep together. But the main thing is that according to this document, He has a lot of rights, to common children, for example, and She has none! In addition, at any moment he can say: “You are no longer my wife!” – and any court will support him.
What does such a marriage mean for a Russian woman? Wearing a hijab, complete lack of rights, hard work? Or maybe even after the wedding she lives in an oriental fairy tale, remaining her beloved “habibi”, raising children, not knowing troubles and worries? Numerous forums are replete with stories that reveal the behind-the-scenes world of Russian wives of modern Egyptians.
Natalya, 26 years old.“I have been married to an Egyptian for more than three years - I came as a tourist to Sharm el-Sheikh, and stayed that way. Now I regret it. I still love Ibrahim, but I’m already tired of “building” relationships alone. It seems that the difficulties in his family don’t bother him much, he doesn’t even discuss them with me. The main thing is not to fiddle with it, and also to eat on time and tasty.
But it is rare to have a tasty meal - poverty is tormenting. Recently a daughter was born in the family, and the eldest son had to be sent back to Russia to live with her ex-husband - there was no money to send him to first grade. All the Russian books have been read, the films have been watched, telephone conversations with Russia are too expensive, my clothes are worn out, and I haven’t been to the hairdresser for almost two years. I want to get a job in a hotel or travel agency, but my daughter is still too young. It’s good to relax here, but life is completely different.”
Irina, 32 years old.“I experienced all the “delights” of marriage in Egyptian style, it’s good that I didn’t have time to get officially married. The first conflicts between an Arab husband and a Russian wife arise about three years later. Around the time when in Russia a woman finishes babysitting and goes to work. But in a Muslim country there is no work as such for women. Only fifteen percent of women in Egypt work, the rest are home nurses.
Children, cooking, washing, shopping - these are all her interests. For Muslim women this is a completely normal life. For us, this means burying ourselves alive. Boredom is one of the main reasons for divorce in such families.
The second reason is jealousy. A Muslim man is a polygamous person, and one woman is not enough for him. But here's the catch, they all need to be contained. And not every Arab can afford this. So it turns out that officially he has one wife, and the other three are “civilian”. Is it possible to live in such an atmosphere when the husband has not even had time to have dinner at home before, without saying a word, he is in a hurry to leave? Don’t you dare ask him stupid questions - he’s his own boss.”
Tatiana, 28.“Aziz and I met in Egypt, in Sharm. At first I perceived it as a beach romance. Nothing serious. We walked, drank coffee... I came there several times and began to think more and more often... He was not like the boys who cast languid glances at tourists. Higher education, senior restaurant manager. People over 30 rarely have affairs just like that. Moreover, there was no talk of money or close relationships. One day there was a mutual confession. But even then I was still wondering whether it was worth starting an international family. Finally we decided. I set the condition that we would live in Russia.
Difficulties began in Moscow. Aziz was not accepted by my family; it was difficult for him without a language. Several times he was ready to give up everything, but he stayed only for me. Today our son is five months old. He is baptized, and my husband reacted well to this, although he himself is a Muslim. We have a huge, strong feeling, and it has overcome all difficulties. But I don’t advise young people to repeat my experience right away. The percentage of men who can endure all this for the sake of their beloved is negligible.”
“My friend, 46-year-old Vika, met a 25-year-old massage therapist in Hurghada and have since gone crazy. She left her husband, 19-year-old daughter, and visits him constantly. Wants to move permanently. I spent all my savings, bought him a car and an apartment. I took out a loan for 200 thousand rubles. The massage therapist seems to have invested this money in the business, but as soon as he comes to the point of paying her interest, he “gets sick.” The girlfriend believes every word he says. And his mistresses discuss him on websites. They tell how he calls her an “old fool.” But my friend doesn’t want to hear anything, she’s looking young.”
Marina, 27.“While vacationing in one of the hotels in Hurghada, every morning I threw my nightgown on the bed - well, that’s my habit. And every morning the young janitor folded it on the pillow in the most intricate way. When he found out that I was leaving in two days, he laid out the shirt in the shape of a heart, and rolled the towels around it into fantastic birds and covered it all with red petals of local flowers, the names of which few people know. Then they went to my room as if on an excursion - to take pictures against the backdrop of a love masterpiece. What do you think happened next? I became his wife. For six months now we have been living in perfect harmony in the same Hurghada. The only negative is that money is tight.”
One cannot help but recall a story that was widely discussed in the media. The holiday romance ended with a wedding and Elena Lovkova moved to Egypt to join her husband along with her 10-year-old daughter from her first marriage. The newlyweds settled in his native village. There, a young Russian woman converted to Islam and gave birth to her second child. However, the fairy tale quickly dissipated: trying to escape from the constant abuse, the woman several times tried to leave for her homeland. After another such attempt, the husband took her documents and little daughter, demanding 50 thousand dollars for her.
The Russian woman contacted the police, but they decided not to interfere in the intra-family conflict. Local residents began to help Elena - they brought the Russian woman to Cairo, where she was able to meet with employees of the Russian consulate. It turned out to be much easier to arrange a flight to your homeland without documents than to take a child from your Egyptian husband. The dramatic proceedings are still ongoing.
Here's a look from the other side of the barricades. A couple of tourists speak. “We were returning to the hotel in the evening when a handsome guy from the security service blocked our way. Apparently, he was tired of standing alone and decided to talk to us. We were suddenly bombarded with a verbose, heated and confusing story of his love for a mysterious Russian girl.
Why did she leave me? I did everything for her, I carried her in my arms. And I saw: she was happy with me! Why did she go to Russia, where there are always two winters - very cold and not very cold?!
He sincerely wanted to understand and waited for an explanation: why did his Russian wife not like him, his relatives, his country.”
It turns out that, as one might expect, there is no single template according to which an Egyptian marriage is built. A Russian wife is truly a source of pride for an Arab, a sign of high status. But this does not mean that his courtship will necessarily be selfish and calculating. Even after the wedding, many continue to blow away dust and treat their wife with respect, although limiting her freedom in accordance with their religion. But if a woman fails to recognize a professional gigolo or a despot in a handsome black-eyed man, then the consequences, as we see, can be dramatic. But this is not only in Egypt...
The desire of foreigners to marry a Russian woman still does not fade away. In Italy, a book “How to Marry a Russian Woman” was even published, which gives detailed advice on how to ask a Russian woman to marry and live with her after the wedding. So why are foreigners so interested in Russian women?
There are several reasons for this:
- immersion in relationships. Men from foreign countries claim that Russian women do not play with feelings. If they love, then with all their soul they give themselves to the family. Even if the marriage is carried out with calculation, a Russian woman treats her husband as if she were her own, trying to surround him with affection and care, delving into problems and helping along the path of life;
- ready for troubles, risks and problems. Wives from Russia are not afraid of temporary difficulties that arise during the moving process. They persistently endure troubles in the form of lack of funds or lack of stable work. This is most often due to the fact that Russian girls expect more from a future with a foreigner than they could achieve at home;
- take care of themselves. For foreign grooms, it remains important that Russian women try to look good. The beauty of Russian women is recognized all over the world, but for foreigners to win such a woman is a separate reason for pride;
- low demands. Russian wives do not create scandals if the man does not devote a lot of time to them. The very fact that they were chosen by a foreigner already increases their importance in their own eyes. Therefore, the absence of complaints is another plus for choosing a Russian bride;
- liberated. Unlike European women, Russian women are more inclined to experiment with their husbands, including in bed;
- submissive. A Russian woman does not try to shift responsibility for the family onto her shoulders; she will gladly give this function to a man and allow him to feel like the head. Turkish men value this most of all, since matriarchy is rare in their country;
- smart. Girls from Russia have wisdom, so with such a wife, conflicts and misunderstandings in the family are easier. A Russian woman will listen to her husband, give good advice and remain silent in tense situations, thereby smoothing out rough edges.
Let's consider in which countries and why Russian wives are preferred.
Why do foreigners love Russian women?
If we look deeper into the issue, we can note that foreigners do not give preference to brides based on their nationality. They are interested in the girl's personal qualities. To be honest, all the qualities that interest foreign suitors are present in Russian women.
What do non-Russian men want from a woman:
- all foreigners are looking for beautiful, pleasant brides. Only in Russia do girls spend a lot of time on their appearance, even if they are going to throw out the trash. This is a great virtue in the eyes of foreigners;
- grooms are looking for loyal brides. In Russia, girls are pre-conceived that a foreigner has a higher status than a Russian man, so they treat foreigners with such affection;
- Foreign grooms are trying to find a bride of childbearing age. They are interested in women from 20 to 40, although 50-year-old ladies are also often popular.
Foreign men, especially Italians, Serbs, French, and Turks, strive to find a bride who will quickly agree to get married and have children.
In European countries there are difficulties with this - women there are more career-oriented, postponing family ties and having children until a later age. Men don't tend to wait. Russian women happily get married and have children, but the duration of the affair before registration at the registry office can be only a few months.
Why do Turkish men love Russian women?
Russian women seem special and unusual to Turks, since in Turkey it is difficult to find a suitable bride. The main thing that Turks pay attention to is appearance, beauty and sexuality. They often choose women older than themselves, because even in this situation, a Russian woman looks impeccable.
Due to traditions in Turkey, compatriots practically do not pay attention to platonic, sensual relationships. In this regard, men have an excess of sexual interest, which cannot be realized within their own country. Russian women pay great attention to appearance, are ready to experiment, and place sexual relationships at the center of family life.
Important! Russian women also single out Turkish men, which is why holiday romances are so common in popular destinations.
So why do Russian brides attract Turkish grooms:
- beauty and sexuality. No one except Russian women will put on full makeup and do their hair on vacation in order to go down to the sea. Bright outfits, exciting images, sexy presentation, sparkling eyes - Russian women stand out from other visitors to Turkey, which attracts attention to them;
- education and entrepreneurship. There are few women in Turkey who have higher education, work and bring income to the home. Against this background, Russian girls win. Knowledge, high positions, a combination of skills for family and professional life make Russian women attractive to Turks;
- social fitness. Russian women pay great attention to the development of their inner world - they travel, attend events, and gain new knowledge. Unlike their compatriots, they are progressive and Turkish men like this.
Important! There is another side to such popularity. Turks see interest in themselves from Russian girls, so many of them are not afraid to offend Russian women. The Turks are confident that instead of one bride, he will easily get another.
Why do Eastern men love Russian girls?
Eastern mentality is radically different from the European idea of life and family. A slight division can be made here.
Tajiks, Arabs and Uzbeks adore Russian brides. First of all, this is due to the features of appearance. Since women in eastern countries are mostly dark brunettes, white-skinned Russian women with blond hair cause real delight among local men.
Love for Russian women is also determined by the general approach to family life. Eastern women are more capricious and demanding. They need to give a lot of gold, fulfill whims, take care of children and pay all expenses. Against this background, a Russian bride who earns her own money and is ready to sacrifice her interests for the sake of her family and children clearly wins.
Why do Indians love Russian women?
In India, the bride and groom often meet only at the wedding. At the same time, compatriots often do not take care of themselves after marriage, devoting time only to their children. That is why Indians are so interested in Russian brides.
Why do Asians love Russian women?
Asians show interest in the character of Russian wives. The patriarchal system of Asian countries has led to the fact that women there are submissive and fulfill all the wishes of their husbands, which is a disadvantage for the latter.
According to Asian men themselves, Russian girls combine submissiveness to a man, but also independence and emotionality. She will not blindly follow directions, but will try to solve the problem together.
Why do Caucasian men like Russian women?
Russia is a multinational country, and more and more often you can find marriages in which Russian girls are combined with Caucasian men. Why does this happen, for what reason do Azerbaijanis, Armenians, Abkhazians, Lezgins and other representatives of the Caucasus choose women not of their own nation, but Russians?
Several reasons contribute to this situation:
- It's easier with Russian wives. They don’t pretend to be someone they don’t know, they are open to new acquaintances and relationships, which is what makes marriage with a Russian woman so desirable for Caucasians;
- girls from Russia do not try to appear better than they are. They speak honestly about their lives, status and work;
- It’s more fun with Russian women - they know how to relax and feel great in company. At the same time, most Russian girls know their limits and do not cross the line when it comes to drinking and communicating with the opposite sex;
- Russian women try to emphasize and improve the status of their husband. You can rely on them in any situation;
- For Caucasian men, it is important that the Russian wife perceives him as a person, and not as a way to receive expensive gifts. Even if a man does not have a lot of money, a Russian woman will gladly meet him and give him her love;
- For Georgians, a great advantage is that Russian women have a bright appearance, rounded shapes and a soft character. In addition, they are captivated by the emotionality of Russian girls; this is impossible to get from Georgians.
