SMS that will support you in difficult times. How to support a person in a difficult situation: advice from psychologists Wishes to a friend in difficult times
Words of support are not just sympathy, thanks to them you express your involvement in the problems, troubles and grief of another person. Of course, there are no standard phrases that will be correct in a certain situation, suitable for a man or a woman, a grandmother or a young man. It is very important that the words come from the heart and are permeated with your feelings, but you should not forget about some human factors either.
For example, be prepared that a person who is worried about something may react differently to your words than usual, be more hot-tempered, not make compromises, etc. In addition, words that will calm a woman’s nervous system may not be correctly perceived by a man and vice versa. Therefore, it is necessary to observe not only tolerance, correctness and subordination, but also take into account the peculiarities of the given situation.
Your significant other should always feel your support, because you are a support for her in a difficult situation, a vest in grief and a person with whom they share happiness. You definitely need to say again about your feelings, repeat that there are two of you, and it’s easier to overcome any difficulties together.
Be sure to express your feelings:
- "It hurts me to see you upset"
- "I'm just as worried as you are."
This formulation brings you closer, makes the conversation more frank and creates a trusting atmosphere. And if you can’t find the right words or see that words are unnecessary now, just stay nearby. Sometimes no words can replace the presence of a loved one.
Words to a man in difficult times
Men react much more sharply to life's troubles, believing that responsibility for everything lies with them, because they are taught this way from childhood. But in fact, there are situations when the man is not to blame for what happened, but he still reproaches himself. In this case, we need to as gently as possible, not persistently and not aggressively (after all, we remember that upset people are prone to unexpected reactions to any of our words), convince the man that he does not need to blame himself.
Suitable phrases:
- “It’s not your fault in this case,”
- “This is a confluence of circumstances independent of you,” etc.
It is important to help a man stop beating himself up and start looking for a solution to the problem.
Never express your sympathy through the adjectives “poor”, “unfortunate”, do not say that you feel so sorry for him. On the contrary, you need to encourage him with phrases about how strong he is in spirit, that his vital energy is enough to cope with more difficult tasks. If you say that a man is very smart and will find a way out of this situation, then his ambitions simply will not allow him to sit in one place with a sad expression on his face. To confirm your words, the man will begin to act.
For a woman - support in your own words
On the contrary, a woman needs to be calmed down first, perhaps later she won’t have to search for solutions to problems, everything can go away with hysterics. Finding words of support is very important in such a situation. For example, if the reason for her bad mood is a breakup with a man, then compliment her on her attractive appearance, say that she is a good housewife and is still quite young.
It’s good if the situation allows you to get distracted and do other things, a walk, entertainment, cooking new dishes - all this can distract a woman from sad thoughts.
Words to a girl in difficult times
Young girls in stressful situations can commit extremely rash actions. Therefore, it is important not only to calm them down and distract them from the problem, but also to isolate them as much as possible from important matters and tasks. Try to immerse the young lady in a sea of positive emotions, avoid standard phrases: “Everything will be fine,” “Everything will pass,” “I sympathize,” etc. They will only aggravate the situation.
Be sure to try to talk to the girl about how she feels, help her release all her negative emotions, and then put her in a positive mood or help her find a way out of a difficult problem for her.
To a friend who found herself in a difficult situation
Who, if not her best friend, will a girl turn to in a difficult situation? Of course, initially you need to listen to your friend, especially if you see that the person wants to speak out. Statement of the problem lightens the soul and helps to look at the problem from the outside. Words of consolation and advice are what the girl will clearly want to hear in response, so do not hesitate to express your constructive thought, just remember that in this situation you need to present your position gently and not persistently.
SMS to a person in difficult times
If you suddenly find out about the problem of a loved one you just know, and it is not possible to be with him, then you can always send a short message with words of support. There is no need for long epithets about your sympathy.
Sometimes it’s enough just to write an SMS:
- “I know what happened. You can always count on my help."
These two sentences are quite short, but their meaning will be clear immediately. Don’t expect an immediate answer; a person may need some time to decide to ask you for support or just talk about their problem. But when your loved one knows that you are ready to share the burden of the situation with him, the world will immediately seem a little brighter to him.
Words of support in prose
Even if you send a message with words of support on a social network or by phone, it would be better if they were in prose. This way, you will express your words sincerely and clearly. Otherwise, the recipient may get the impression that instead of a call or a personal visit, you searched for a poem on the Internet, and then simply copied it and sent it. This will ruin the impression of even the most sincere empathy.
Be close to your loved one during his joy and share the burden of troubles with him. After all, together you are stronger! And find for him exactly those words that convey your real feelings.
Don't cling to the past
Don't live on grudges
Remember the good things
Don't envy anyone.
Everything that heaven has sent you,
Take it for granted
Everything that has been done is for the better.
No matter how difficult it is,
Don't complain about fate,
Be happy every moment
And don't judge others
For their weaknesses are frequent.
Fight for your loved ones
God given powers,
Don't skimp on your words,
Be gentle with the ones you love.
How easy it is to live joyfully!
Admire the sunsets
And fall in love with all your passion
To your striped life...
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I love positive people in life.
They have their own special glow
And no matter how many dark days there were in their lives,
Only light has influence there.
They know how to radiate goodness
With their warmth they warm part of the World.
Alas, not each of us is given this,
But under their warmth, our souls melt.
I really want each of us to
Got a small grain of happiness,
So that instead of bitter and cold phrases,
Smiles have settled on our faces!
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My grandmother taught me:
“No, water does not flow under a stone,
But you can’t light a fire in the stove,
Kohl is not filled with firewood.
And if you want to sleep sweetly,
Don't trust in God's mercy
The straw must be laid
Yes, and make sure it doesn’t go astray.
Don't you dare - don't take someone else's!
Keep yours. As much as you can.
And dry your tears, don’t cry,
Self-pity makes you weaker.
Don't ask God for much
But believe that the edge will come and it will help.
Extinguish unreasonable anger,
And don’t be angry with fate, it’s no good.
Don't wait for someone to bring you
Come and take it, your legs will hold you up.
And if there is trouble, who will save you?
At least do something yourself first.
Even if it’s scary, even if it’s out of hand,
Others can - you try.
Fear's eyes are big -
But everything will work out - try.
And don’t hold onto grudges -
Forgive them... If only I knew..."
Grandmother taught, but life
Her science confirmed it.
Anna Oparina
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Save me, God save me
From buns, jam, sweets,
From fried chicken too,
From gingerbread, cakes, biscuits.
From noodle soup, kulebyaki,
Cheesecakes, dumplings, cutlets.
Let the potatoes be bad for me,
And I’ll shout to the pancakes - NO!
I'd rather be a sheep
And I’ll just pluck the grass,
I pray to you endlessly
Let your hands forget to grab,
And my nose is always in the refrigerator,
To smell something and eat it.
Oh God! Bless on Monday
I have to go on an evil diet.
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Do you want me to give you happiness?
I'll measure out as much as you need.
I give it away by the handful,
I am glad to pour you happiness!
Take more in reserve.
There won't be too much of it.
May it protect you from grief
And the sun shines on your way.
And you will share with your relatives
Give it all away - right down to the crumbs!
And going around the entire globe,
It will return to your palms!
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I want to become a complete fool,
To not be able to write or read,
To lie around around the clock...
To laugh at stupid jokes...
To get rid of pink clothes,
So that friends are nothing but idiots,
So that there is perfume and chewing gum in the handbag,
To make Petrosyan laugh out loud....ki.
For a computer to be a big calculator,
To write "ginirator" with ashipkay,
To Dom2 - "bad transmission",
A bunch of lovers and richer ones.
So that in headphones - “Hairpins” with Bilan,
For underpants - only "Dolce Gabana"
So that "cybernetics" is a terrible word,
So that “politics is not cool.”
In general, I want to be stuffed like a fool,
Take not with your mind, but with your face and figure,
Achieve everything by baring your knees...
I wish I could become like this... And kill the wall
. . . .
If you become like this, you will go crazy with boredom!
There will be not girlfriends around, but bitches.
All men will be bastards and misers,
Rest will be enough to make you want to vomit.
There will be not walls in the apartment - dungeons.
Knees will miss each other.
So don't bat your eyelashes stupidly.
Look at the monitor and work, work!!!
found on the Internet
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Oh, Great Sage, I have fallen more than once,
I broke my knees again, all my hands... and not only...
And the Sage answered: “Even though there are tears from the eyes...
The point is not that you fell, the point is how long did you get up?!”
Oh, Great Sage, they hit me on the cheek.
He replied: “Substitute another one... and not only...
And drown all your grievances in the river -
The point is not that you cried, the point is - how many of them have you forgiven?!
Oh, Great Sage, I was wrong again,
I caused pain to my family, I will say... and not only...
The Sage answered again that you couldn’t know everything,
The whole point is not the mistakes, the point is how many of them were corrected?!
Tatiana Naumenko
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When a tear drips from pain...
When your heart beats with fear...
When the soul hides from the light...
When life is torn apart from grief...
You sit quietly in silence...
Close your eyes, and realizing that you are tired...
Tell yourself in private...
I'll be happy! Through thick and thin!!!
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I give you a piece of happiness!
I share with you the thrill of my soul!
Let bad weather pass by!
Let your cherished dreams come true!
And let the birds sing with a beautiful pipe!
Let the smell of lilac envelop you!
And let the gentle wind whisper to you with caress!
And may God bless you all!
Let the cuckoo crow many, many times!
Let the land be fertile!
Let the Angels paint a rainbow in the sky!
And may the sun always be in our hearts!
Let adversity and sorrow go away!
Let the pain disappear forever, forever!
Let lovers know no partings,
And they will be happy for many years!
I give you a piece of happiness!
Let the light into your souls!
Don't kill the fairy tale in your heart!
I wish you only happiness and victories!
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If you were suddenly pushed in the back,
They betrayed me and planted a mine in my heart,
The main thing is not to fall... Stay on your feet
And just take a closer look at your problems...
There's no turning back! If life pushed
This means she just clearly hinted,
That you can’t give up and stand still.
You go forward, singing songs...
If in a difficult hour suddenly friends run away,
So these people were just bluffing...
And you shouldn’t cry over such a loss...
A friend in times of need and in good times will not slam the door...
Fate always gives us hints,
Bares souls and tears off masks...
Stupid mistakes are the result of stress.
Every frog wants to be a princess...
Only a princess can become a frog,
If the treasured prince runs away with his girlfriend...
You don't build castles on someone else's misfortune...
Both males and females are predatory...
If clouds suddenly hang over a family,
The time has come to get closer and better.
Grief will not break, the wind will not destroy
What kindred souls created...
Write with chalk early in the morning
On the asphalt the line “I will become happy...”
An angel writes our thoughts on a piece of paper...
So avoid negative lines...
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A collection of texts with words of gratitude to a friend for her friendship, written in prose (not poetry). As they say - in your own words. These warm, sincere, beautiful words will be useful both on a holiday (for example, on a friend’s birthday, on the anniversary of friendship, etc.), and for support in difficult times and for decorating the most ordinary ordinary day. You can also use them to sign a postcard, a gift (a box of perfume, for example), or a card for a bouquet.
Adding words of love to the text will help you.
All names in the texts are mentioned only for convenience of presentation, do not forget to change them to the name of your friend.
Tanya, I am happy that you are my friend. I envy myself and am proud of our friendship. You are real, bright, fresh as a breath of air and alive. I adore you and thank fate that we met. Thank you for always supporting me in difficult times and sharing joyful moments with me.
Katenka, I hope that life will one day give me the opportunity to truly thank you for your friendship, support and joy, which you generously share with me. With such a friend, living in the world is not scary, joyful and interesting. I am proud of you, my bright man. I hope that we will carry our friendship throughout our lives. I wish that nothing destroys it (friendship), that no one stains our relationship... that she lives forever. Thank you, dear, for everything.
Svetlanka, until I met you, believed that female friendship did not exist. And I'm glad I was wrong. Now I know for sure that it (friendship) not only exists, but can also be one of the most beautiful things in the world. Thank you for being my friend. I will never stop thanking life that I met you and that our friendship is still alive.
I have already told you “thank you” for a lot of things, my friend. And I’ll probably say a lot more. But today I want to thank you simply for being always there and for existing. I am very happy about this and only dream that you remain my friend forever. I have never met such sunny people and every time I am surprised - how did I get so lucky? I wish you to always remain with the same pure heart and bright soul. And may life protect you from any evil.
Dear friend! I have been preparing the words for today’s event for a long time. I want to tell you so much and I am grateful to you for so much that I would have to read my speech for several hours. So I’ll just tell you: I’m grateful to you for being with me. I remember every minute I spent with you and they were all happy, joyful, interesting and unique. I didn’t think that such friendship was possible between girls (women, girls) and I never tire of being amazed by it.
I thank life for such a gift (friendship), I appreciate it, I enjoy it, I cherish it as the greatest treasure and I hope for your reciprocity.
Olenka, I want to tell you that our friendship is the best thing I have. And I want to thank you for it. She brings into my life only joy, warmth, pride and support under my feet. I wish you to always remain as beautiful, joyful, bright, interesting and “not like everyone else.” I love everything connected with our friendship and don’t want to lose you.
Girlfriend, thank you for your friendship. For a pure heart that never lies (lies). For a clear look. For lack of self-interest. For not being jealous. Because you forgive. For supporting me in difficult times. For the joy that you share with me and for the difficult moments in which you never turned your back on me. I love you for this, and even if our friendship ever ceases to exist, I will still never be able to say that the time spent with you was a mistake, that it was unhappy, or that I wasted it. Because such a bright time cannot be called empty. It will forever remain for me - valuable, warm and sincere. Thank you for being with me.
Ksyusha! I want to say a huge “thank you” to you for your friendship! If all people had friends like you, there would be many more lucky people in this world. Because you are an unearthly, unreal, reliable, smartest, most talented, kindest and brightest girl and simply a fabulous person. I am never bored, sad, empty or bad with you. Whatever, I wouldn’t be apart from you 24/7. I drink light, warmth and kindness from you, as from a holy spring, and I can’t get enough of it. Thank you for sharing our friendship and generously sharing with me the brightest things that are in you. I will never stop admiring you and the life that gave you to me.
Today I want to thank my friend (insert name) for her friendship and for her amazing human and feminine qualities that strengthen, help and develop this friendship:
- For sensitivity and tact - a natural talent that is not taught anywhere;
- For the ability to listen and hear - a rare skill these days;
- For the absence of egoism - thanks to this quality, friendship (and not only ours) is real;
- For the hellish patience with which she is able to listen to my cries in difficult times and cries of joy in moments of happiness;
- For the wisdom that helps her give me the best advice for any life situation and make amazing decisions;
- For the kindness that does not dry up in her and which she so generously shares with those around her (and most importantly, with me);
- Because she is able to forgive and not be petty when something went wrong between us;
- For the dexterity and ingenuity with which she knows how to dodge troubles and pull me out of them;
But most importantly, I want to thank her for the rarest talent for a woman in our time - the ability to be friends with another woman. Be happy dear, don't leave me. I promise that I will always be the same friend to you as you have become to me.
I want to thank you for your friendship, my precious, and tell you that I dream of seeing you always happy and joyful. So that you always just smile. So that all troubles will bypass you (otherwise they will have to deal with me). May the sun never leave your life. So that all your dreams come true and your plans come true. So that you always have reliable helpers - it’s easier to live with them. In general, I want nothing to ever overshadow our friendship and I promise you that I will always be there to ward off any adversity, support and please.
Lena, every day I bless the one who invented friendship. And now I want to thank you for it. You create a miracle every day, probably without even knowing it. And I want to wish you to live a long, long time so that the miracle does not end. And so that the sunshine does not disappear from my life. You are very dear to me, I appreciate every minute spent with you - be happy and let those who are dear to you be happy.
Today, Lyudochka, I have prepared a special present for you. I give you this medal (certificate, souvenir, memorable gift, etc.) for friendship. Please accept it along with my sincere words of gratitude.
I thank you for being amazing. Because I can be silent with you endlessly and chat incessantly. Because I am sure that you are not capable of betraying on the sly. Because it’s always a pleasure to be with you, even when you’re going through the most unpleasant moments in your life. Because it’s not scary to go with you not only on reconnaissance, but also to generally rush to the ends of the world without a return ticket. For the fact that there is always something to be proud of next to you. I think such people are almost never found; they are only written about in books and films made. I am happy that I met such a person and even happier that I managed to make friends with him.
Mashenka, I am sure, no matter what difficult times friendship goes through, it will forever remain in our hearts as the brightest time of life. I will always remember you and the time we spent together. And even if someday we find ourselves far from each other, know that I remember you, I keep you in my heart and I will help you in any way I can if you call. Thank you for your friendship and I hope that I don’t disappoint you either.
Thank you, best friend, that your smile and laughter brighten my life. That you lend a hand when I need it. Thank you for your congratulations on all the holidays and even for giving me a kick when I stop, not knowing how and where to go next. For inviting me to visit, and for always waiting for me. Because I can see you whenever I want. Thank you, my precious one, you are a battery in my little world, you don’t let it stand still and you warm me.
My dear friend, thank you for the fact that I can chat with you about trifles and be absolutely happy at such moments. For your concern about me and for your care. Thank you for feeling my soul as if it were your own. For your endless, same question in messages: “Where are you, my friend?”
For everything, for everything, I thank you, and most importantly: I thank you for being my friend, girlfriend, loved one and soul mate.
My beloved friend, I want to tell you why I appreciate you, cherish you and will not tire of thanking you... I appreciate you for keeping my secrets and not regretting revealing yours. I adore you for your sharp tongue and excellent sense of humor. It warms me when you worry about me. I’m not angry that you dump your troubles on my head suddenly and without warning (it’s so tonic). It invigorates me when you don’t leave me alone with my thoughts.
I am glad that you share my successes with me, because it is very difficult to carry them alone. I'm happy when you rejoice at our luck and swear at our bad luck. In general, my friend, I live with you! A full life. And for this I sincerely thank you.
Looking into your radiant eyes in the photographs, girlfriend, I warm up from your warmth and am charged with the joy that they radiate. And when I touch your hand, I regain vitality. Remembering our nightly gatherings, I am filled with joy from the fact that you exist in the world. I thank you for your friendship, my dear... even after years and distance, it helps me, supports me, and does not let me get lost. Thank you and be happy, friend.
I can’t imagine my life without you, friend, and I thank you for you. And because you are my friend. You are my closest person, my world without you is simply impossible and incapable of existing. Well, can a stranger laugh so loudly when I stumble and yell: “you clumsy cow, watch your step!”
How can someone other than a true friend extend his hand when I fall into a puddle, cheerfully saying: “come on, come on, get up, you fat creature, why did you lie down... don’t think you’re at a resort.”
And who else, besides a friend, can eat all the food in the refrigerator and, without thanking or apologizing, fly away in an unknown direction for an indefinite period? And after that, show up again as if nothing had happened, and, as if nothing had happened, demand more?
But can a stranger and cold person enter my home by opening the door with his foot and outside of school hours?
In general, my dear, I am grateful to you for always toning me up, not letting me relax and stimulating my nervous system.
There is a legend circulating on the Internet that supposedly in one of the cities there was a unique telephone booth, to which a line of people stood in need of support from another person. After the coin was dropped into the slot, a beautiful, pleasant female voice sounded in the handset and uttered necessary and very important words for any person - pleasant words of support.
That everything will be fine, that they love him, that they believe in him and that he will cope with everything. People came out of the phone booth with happy, slightly confused faces. But they really needed these words. Probably, among their loved ones and relatives there were no those who could say such words at that very moment. And it was at this moment that words of support were so needed.
In Ozhegov’s dictionary, the word “support” means help, assistance. It is not necessary to wait for difficult life situations to help another person. Remember how we use words to support our children as they take their first steps. We don't tell them how clumsy they are and how they still can't walk. On the contrary, we encourage them, tell them an incredible number of times how great they are, and our kids, happy with the praise, try their best.
We all know very well what happens later when children grow up. As children grow up, they hear less and less often from us the words of support they need in various situations.
Recently, my friend’s adult daughter participated in an oriental dance competition for the first time. After she took first place and amazed everyone with her stunning rise to the podium, the daughter asked her mother what place she thought she could take. “Well, fifth, sixth...” said the mother, knowing about her daughter’s talents, but considering that this was her first big competition. “Eh, mom, you think badly of me.” - her daughter answered.
It is important for any of us to know and understand that they believe in you and support your endeavors. It is especially important when we change something in our lives and at this stage doubts arise. Here, more than ever, any word of encouragement from loved ones is valuable. Understanding another person's dreams, hopes, and aspirations is not that difficult. But it is only possible when you love.
Sometimes it happens that you need support. They just said a few words: “You will succeed. You are the best. You are great! Well done! This is important to me!”
I don’t know about anyone, but words like these make me grow wings. And the obstacles that stood in the way seem very small and insignificant. Energy doubles, good mood increases... In general, sheer positivity!
Despite the abundance of daily tasks facing company leaders, I have great respect for those who, in front of the entire team, appreciate the work of their employees. For example, in many network companies, the “Recognition” factor comes first, inspiring partners to further exploits and achievements.
How to support?
There are many universal encouraging words to be found. When you don’t know how to support and encourage another person, ask yourself what words would you like to hear in such a situation? Say it like that. Just speak sincerely, and everything will definitely work out.
How much does a person need? It happens that you can support a person without words. A smile and a friendly pat on the shoulder can lift a low mood. Sincere congratulations in moments of joy will be an excellent start for further achievements.
We all know very well that with a good mood, things get done faster and more fun. It is possible that an anecdote or someone’s story told on the topic will be an excellent “mood lifter”, which will undoubtedly increase efficiency and productivity.
Good mood service “You are Super!”
With this service you can remind your loved ones, family and friends how awesome they are! " With the help of the project “You are super!” a real person will call your loved ones, friends and acquaintances to say simple but pleasant things in a positive and cheerful voice: they are cool and awesome! Or he’ll say whatever you want!”
The service is paid, but it’s not a lot of money for such a great cause, believe me. You can listen to voice samples on the site itself, and you will hear how much surprise a person experiences from surprise and encouraging words from a stranger. After all, real and real people are calling.
Here we could discuss the topic from whom we would like to hear words of support, from people we know or do not know... But the idea is so good - to earn money honestly, while giving a lot of positive emotions and charge for the whole day, that those who want to discuss, I think, It's unlikely that there will be any.
Think about which of your loved ones needs words of encouragement today? It is quite possible that pleasant and unexpected calls will add variety and become an excellent motivator.
The main thing is that we do not stop believing in ourselves and our own strengths. Make an effort, try, don’t stop there, and believe in yourself and the success of your business. Work on your feelings and relationships towards yourself and other people, and everything will definitely work out for you. I very sincerely wish this for you, dear readers.
You are Super! You are the best!
And everything is in your hands!
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Various events happen in our lives - joyful or tragic. If people didn't help each other through them, it would be much harder to come out of such a deep emotional experience. We may not always be able to find the right words to express our sympathy or compassion, but we can simply be there. And this presence will say more than any prepared phrases.
Words of support to a friend or friend in difficult times are very important. Everyone knows them - “I’m sorry”, “I sympathize”, “everything will be fine”, “with time the pain will pass”, “time heals”, etc. You just need to remember that no words themselves can help or calm a person. It is important that words of sympathy and support are supported by your sincere participation.
If grief happens
If you are unable to support the person in person, do it over the phone. Just call and express words of support and sympathy. This is always very important. The main thing is to speak sincerely, ask if you can help with anything? Try to speak clearly but calmly. A person in an emotionally depressed state, experiencing grief, cannot always adequately assess reality.
Remember that it is not the words themselves that are important to a person, but your sincere willingness to come to his aid. Even just being with a person in difficult times is very important. If you want to somehow console a person, think about what would help you personally? What words of sympathy and consolation would help you in such a situation?
Well, for example, if a woman who was married for 20 years was left alone because her husband left for someone else, she needs not just words of support, she needs a concrete plan for a decent way out of the current life situation. The words “You need to calm down, everything will be forgotten, everything will pass” are unlikely to help here.
It is better to tell her that she is an attractive, quite young woman. That you need not to give up, but to put yourself in order, continue to live, build new relationships, create a new family. After all, at 45, life is just beginning, the children have grown up and you can finally devote time to yourself. Offer her a shopping trip together, make an appointment with a cosmetologist together.
If the family of your friend or girlfriend is experiencing grief, one of his relatives or people close to him has died, stay close as long as possible, help with organizing funeral events. If a person experiences deep despair and cannot adequately perceive reality, pose to him a number of questions regarding the organization of mourning events that need to be urgently resolved. Tell him that his loved ones need him, they also need his help.
Words of support in difficult times are very important. But you don't have to wait for something bad to happen. Just tell your friend that you will always stay with him no matter what happens. These simple words will remain in your memory and strengthen your friendship.
How to support a loved one if failures follow?
As you know, life is a complex thing, it consists not only of victories and joys, but also of disappointments. Therefore, if your loved one is going through a period of bad luck, you need to support him and help him get through this difficult period of life. The main thing is not to get confused. But finding the right words is not always easy.
What to do in such a situation - sympathize, find encouraging words, or just sit silently next to him? After all, people in a difficult, emotionally tense situation may react differently to your participation. If this also applies to men, it is better to immediately refuse to show pity.
Pity poisons relationships
Of course, you really want to feel sorry for the person. But you need to understand that pity is destructive, especially when it comes to the stronger sex. Pity degrades dignity. And with large portions, it can relax a person and not encourage him to act. He stops looking for a way out of the current situation and struggling with the negative circumstances that have arisen. It’s better to tell him that everything that happened is not a problem, that you can cope with everything together. Tell him that you believe in him, his capabilities and you know for sure that he will definitely succeed.
Don't give up, but take action
In order to bring your loved one out of a negative state, so that he does not give up, but begins to act, you yourself must believe what you say. Believing in his strength, you will be able to bring your loved one out of his stupor without long phrases or explanations and push him to take active action.
Tell him that if the problem that has arisen is large-scale, multi-stage, in order to develop the desired solution, it is better to break it down into small parts, and then solve each one sequentially, gradually eliminating it all.
And also, never do anything for him. He must believe in himself and decide everything himself. You can easily guide him with advice. You should not relax a man; it is better to help him show his masculine qualities, ingenuity, will, and strength. Don't take the burden of his problems on your shoulders. Otherwise, each time this load will become heavier. By solving his problems for him or offering to passively wait out difficult times, you yourself will gradually turn your beloved into a loser, for which he will hate you when he sees that he missed some opportunities.
If grief or some sad event occurs in the life of your loved one, just be with him. Sometimes, no words are needed. Your mere presence next to him, a kiss, a hug, can work better than any comforting words.