What should an ideal lover be like?
First of all, she is a sensual woman who receives pleasure from intimacy, since this also contributes to men’s own emancipation. Tell a man that you want him, do not hide your sexual desires, and you will see how exciting it will affect him! The ideal lover knows how to talk sexually (no, not necessarily about “the same thing” between a man and a woman, although about that same thing too) play with words, intonation, voice timbre, pauses, smile. She knows how to emphasize her sex appeal with her underwear, clothes and gait. She will never deny her loved one intimacy. Even if he offers her, instead of a bed with white sheets, a chair in his office or a clearing in the forest. She is affectionate, gentle, does not accept rudeness and, and if she is capricious, then just a little. And often you yourself initiate intimacy. But this is an incomplete “set” of qualities of an ideal lover. According to men, the woman of their dreams should not, under any circumstances, interfere in their personal lives and should not restrict their freedom. In a categorical manner, try to find out when you will meet her. Call for no reason on the phone, especially in cases where the man is married, hint at gifts and even more so demand them in a categorical form, do not be capricious and do not blackmail the man (if you don’t do this, then I will...). Do not talk left and right about your relationship and even... be ready to part “without a scene” if necessary. And besides, the ideal lover “is a smart woman.” (History, by the way, has brought to us such a curious case. Napoleon, asking his adjutant to find him a lady for the night, especially emphasized that she should be smart. “For mercy, sir, why “A woman has a lot of intelligence in bed?” he was perplexed. “And who will I talk to in between..” was the answer.) And, of course, they said that the ideal mistress should love her partner. However, as many men as there are, there are so many opinions on this matter, and people are mostly imperfect. Therefore, perhaps, it would be a good idea to intrusively ask your loved one what line of behavior he expects from you, what qualities suit him in women, and which ones do not. . And then, perhaps, you will be able to become for him that very missing half, in search of which people sometimes spend their whole lives. Each woman has her own criteria for an ideal lover. And if a particular lover suits one woman, it is not at all necessary that he will suit everyone else. Because the ideal lover is the one who satisfies exactly your needs.
For a woman who is married or not planning to get married, a comfortable lover is a married man. ikaseru personally interviewed 17 women aged 21 to 30 years, who determined the criteria for a comfortable lover:
– Lack of jealousy, much less possessive ambitions. It’s logical - where to put them and implement them? And why?
– Thoroughness, confidence and experience. Indeed, if a man has a wife, then we can assume that he is aware of what should be done with female body. At least in general terms, and then it adapts.
– Talent for flexible scheduling. We are talking about an adequate and well-married person. This kind of person won’t call in the night and drag you out of bed because he’s impatient, but stopping by before work and creating a working mood or adding some piquant charm to the lunch break is his element.
– Preliminary certification. Simple and elementary - his wife. With the modern level of development of social networks, you can easily find his page, and then his wife’s page. And even write “he’s so cool” if you’re an idiot.
– Well-mannered man will never compare his mistress with his wife, speak poorly about his wife, or generally try to belittle her in any way. And in general there will be no mention of her, unless the mistress herself asks about her.
From me: a wife does not guarantee anything at all, it is difficult to judge her husband by her, they can be completely different people and they can only be connected by material interests or children. As for flexible schedules, this is generally a utopia. Usually a married man cannot plan anything, he wants the woman to adjust and run, losing her slippers, if he suddenly has free time, for example, a wife went with a friend to a concert or is taking an exam at a university. And it’s even more convenient for him to meet during lunch break. I probably agree about the lack of jealousy and a sense of ownership, but this is only if there are no feelings for your mistress.
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Each woman has her own criteria for an ideal lover. And if a particular lover suits one woman, it is not at all necessary that he will suit everyone else. Because the ideal lover is the one who satisfies exactly your needs. For a woman who is married or not collecting...
"/>Very often among representatives of the male sex, and also females, however, we talk about such a concept as an ideal lover. Who is the ideal lover, what qualities should she have, what secrets of female charm should she know.
How do men see their ideal lovers? First of all, for the male part of the population, the ideal lover is a sensual woman who herself enjoys an intimate relationship with a man. “What does it have to do with “she gets pleasure”, but we are talking about a man, which means he should have fun,” many ladies will think. This is not entirely true. The fact is that when a man sees that a woman herself enjoys communication or an intimate act, he feels his worth as a man, his strength, and most importantly, the confidence that he can cope with the obligations assigned to him by nature.
Many women will also think that men only need “sex machines” as ideal lovers, but this is another mistake. Yes, men need sex, but it is not the main quality of an ideal lover. Men like to be with women who understand sex, but not everyone likes it when women are depraved and want sex as much as they do. The ideal lover is a woman who combines both the sexual and moral principles.
Although many people consider men to be lustful males who need sex, many representatives of the stronger sex prefer women with whom there is something to talk about. The ability to conduct a conversation, be pleasant and most importantly - interesting to a man, this is one of the qualities of an ideal lover. However, moderation must be observed here, and even if a woman is in many ways superior to a man in intelligence, it is better not to show this - it can affect his pride.
In addition to what a woman says, how she says it is also important. An ideal lover should have a pleasant voice, be able to play with intonations, timbre, pauses, in simple words– talk sexually, because men don’t fewer women“they love with their ears.”
However, conversations alone are not enough, because men also want to see their lovers, and not just hear. That's why The ideal lover is a well-groomed woman who takes care of herself. Not a single man will look at a woman who does not take care of herself, is not clean, and does not look after her body and face. But men immediately pay attention to a woman who may not be very beautiful in appearance, but who is well-groomed and “clean.”
A woman who knows how to highlight her natural beauty underwear and clothes will also gain success with men. Yes, many will say that the “wrapper” is not the main thing, what’s important is what’s inside, but believe me, the “gray mice” who wear robes and gray clothes, few people watch. A woman should be bright, memorable, she shouldn’t be ashamed to go out with her, and her beauty can be emphasized with clothes.
As for personal qualities, the ideal lover should be gentle, affectionate, moderately pliable, slightly capricious, and most importantly, not interfere in a man’s life and not restrict his freedom. Men, by nature, love freedom, and when a woman interferes with this freedom and “interfere” in a man’s personal life, she immediately loses her rating in his eyes. You should not be too interested in his work, friends, personal affairs, men love trust, and when they feel that they are trusted, they will tell everything themselves.
This is approximately the portrait of an ideal lover for most men. However, it is necessary to emphasize one more quality that is very important for men, sometimes even no less than the appearance of a lady. This is mutual understanding. When there is mutual understanding between a man and a woman in all areas of its manifestation, then the man is sure that he has found the ideal lover. Hence our advice to the fair sex: try to understand your men, because, despite the fact that they are the stronger sex, they need understanding no less than you.
One more and, perhaps, final point that characterizes an ideal lover is that she must love her man. For men, no less than for women, feelings are very important, so the love shown by a woman greatly influences her rating in the eyes of a man.
Now we know what an ideal lover looks like, and what secrets of female charm attract men most. If you have such qualities, dear ladies, then you can rightfully consider yourself an ideal lover! If not, we work on ourselves and our characteristics. Good luck!
Do you remember this song, popular during the perestroika period: “So that you don’t drink, don’t smoke, so that you always give flowers...”? The lyrics of the song contained a list of qualities that an ideal chosen one should have. There weren't that many of them there, actually. Requests were apparently not as steep then as they are now. Obviously, the current song about the qualities that distinguish a real prince would be longer.What if we narrow the area of “ideal” to bed? What qualities should you have? perfect lover? If you analyze them carefully, there will be many of them.
Many of these qualities can be seen already on the first “sexual date”.
Clean. He always showers before making love and shaves the three-day stubble off his cheeks. Doesn't apply to these simple actions as a variable option.
Thin. He always gives due place to foreplay, perceiving it as the most important part of sexual intercourse. And it is not limited to fussy and rude careless “pawling”.
Insightful. He doesn't ask questions like: "Are you finished?" Because he will understand this without question. In addition, he is able to predict in advance at least part of his partner’s desires.
Responsible. He thinks about contraception. And he doesn’t hope for chance.
Does not suffer from excessive curiosity. That is, he doesn’t ask questions in bed like: “Who am I in your account?” Or: “How do you rate me compared to previous partners?”
Patient. He doesn’t stop until his partner reaches the peak of pleasure, and will achieve this in every possible way. Even if by chance it turned out that he reached his peak of pleasure earlier (in general, the rule “only after the lady” is relevant). And he won’t throw up his hands sadly and helplessly: “Well, it didn’t work out today.”
Eloquent. He knows how to say something beautiful and tender during THIS. And he will not stubbornly and concentratedly remain silent during the entire time the act lasts.
But at the same time he is not too talkative. That is, he doesn’t mutter throughout sex: “Do you like it this way? What if you try it this way? Why are you silent? By the way, you know...” And even more so, he doesn’t talk all the time about extraneous topics like the loss of the Russian national team at the next football match.
Unhurried. Does everything smoothly and gracefully. And he doesn’t ask every minute: “Have you finished yet?” And at the end of the act, he doesn’t gallop to the monitor of his favorite computer.
Not "drowsy". In the sense that instantly turning to the wall and “asking the ratchet” immediately after sex is not his element.
Aged. He knows the right time and place for the first time. And he doesn’t invite his partner to make love for the first time in the back seat of his car. Any extreme “dislocation” experiments are appropriate after your sexual relationship has developed in one form or another.
And restrained. That is, he does not attack the lady of his heart as soon as she crosses the threshold of his home.
Focused. Only on your partner. And is not distracted during the process by cell phone calls or extraneous thoughts and words.
Gentle. You can leave this without comment, but I would like to say that “the passionate rudeness of a wild bison” is not always a pleasant thing.
And at the same time passionate. And not sluggish and boring, like an amoeba.
Has a good imagination. And does not get hung up on one, well-studied position and other sexual rituals.
Understanding. And if he sees that something is wrong, he immediately replays it. And does not ignore the signs that specific actions turned out to be “not fun” for his partner.
Not intrusive. And she doesn’t insist on sex when the girl really doesn’t want it (but this also happens).
Non-smoker. It is not at all necessary that he be such in life. But in bed - preferably. Moreover, if the partner does not smoke herself.
Aesthetic. That is, he does not allow any slangy, rude vernacular in his speeches related to sexual topics.
Polite. One important sign of sexual politeness is calling your partner the day after your first sex.
Is it easy to find an ideal sexual partner? Let's put it this way - it is desirable that it corresponds to at least 80-90 percent of the listed characteristics.
The rest can be, if necessary... further educated
It’s worth noting right away that we’re not talking about a life partner or a permanent girlfriend, but about a mistress to whom a man makes special demands. Of course, these requirements do not include the ability to cook and serve dinner for numerous relatives, give smart advice, give birth and raise children, patiently wait for a husband and serve the proverbial glass of water in old age.
You don’t need to introduce your mistress to friends or worry about whether her mother will like her. And all because the main task of a mistress is to be sexually attractive and alluring to a man. By the way, scientists claim that they have drawn up a portrait of an ideal lover: in dry scientific language they were able to describe what a real “fatal” woman should be like, who can turn the head of any man and make him think only about himself.
The main thing for an ideal lover, according to academics, is to be... a Woman with a capital W! Namely, to be as different from a man as possible. A man is initially proud of his strength - a woman must demonstrate weakness, or better yet, helplessness. It was for this purpose that Chinese girls’ legs were tightly bandaged, making them disabled, but with small feet, that is, bringing them closer to the ideal of beauty. Today, representatives of the fair sex make other sacrifices for beauty and femininity: they stand on breathtakingly high stilettos, extend their nails and wear bold minis. Anorexia, which is “promoted” by top models and pop stars from the covers of magazines, is from the same opera. Oddly enough, even the attitude towards a woman driving is also a continuation of the opinion about the helplessness of Eva’s daughters - a girl driver will always be weaker than a man, of course, in the latter’s opinion!
Do not forget about secondary sexual characteristics: a lush bust, lack of hair on the body, as opposed to a man, and a cascade long hair... The image of a sexy beauty will be complemented by carefully selected (and, by the way, quite expensive!) cosmetics, clothes and perfume. Men always celebrate well-groomed women who skillfully “invest” in their own appearance.
But the fact that gentlemen prefer blondes, because they are supposedly more fertile and capable of producing more offspring, still belongs to the category of myths. Indeed, men’s gaze often lingers on blond beauties, but mainly because modern representatives of the stronger sex understand how much work it takes for a girl to be blonde! It is no coincidence to repaint light color It’s more difficult, and also more expensive, than anything else, and constant hair care costs a pretty penny. So being a blonde is, in the literal sense of the word, expensive.
Undoubtedly, the ideal lover should not quote philosophers and talk a lot , the main thing is that she gets real pleasure from contact with a man. She really knows a lot about sex and is always ready for it, and she literally gets turned on by the sight of a man unbuttoning his shirt, completely not noticing his beer belly and not making snide comments about the need to lose weight or take care of himself.
By the way, ideas about a good lover undergo dramatic changes over time: and if in Victorian era in Foggy Albion, a woman had to “be silent and think about England” during love pleasures, and even in the Middle Ages, the mistress was only required to lie without moving, but today such “ Snow Queen"is unlikely to win the hearts of men.
If we summarize all of the above, we can give Women are advised to be mysteriously silent and incredibly attractive.
To do this, use the entire arsenal of feminine tricks: lace, stiletto heels, depilation, slits and cutouts... The main thing is in the fight for conquest men's hearts and kindling the ardor of love, do not forget about your own personality. And remember that there is no need to achieve an invented ideal, because perfection, brought to the absolute, often turns out to be its opposite.