Why do we need lovers and mistresses? Do you need a lover? Why are lovers needed?
Looking longingly at your husband sitting in front of the TV on the sofa in sweatpants, you are thinking about having a lover, or what? Let's think about whether a woman needs a lover?
Why does a woman need a lover?
Remember the old joke - “If a woman’s head is proudly raised up, the woman has a lover. If a woman lowers her head thoughtfully, then she has a lover. If a woman has a head on her shoulders, then she has a lover”? Everything, of course, is not so simple, but almost each of us has thought about responding to the obvious advances of some Yakov Petrovich from the sales department, who showers you with compliments, treats you to coffee and gives you cute bouquets on occasion.
In fact, no one will be jealous of his wife's friend. A friend “takes away” a lot of problems from a person: he accompanies his interlocutor to go shopping, allows him to talk, trust, scare, do short things with her that people generally do not like to do. If you have sexuality and passion, there are no problems at all. Everything reminds one of the idea of a sexually active and inquisitive woman who is transgressive to a degree that allows her to experience without causing much damage.
A relationship with a woman is a “betrayal”, a betrayal that a person manages very easily, since he does not even consider it a real betrayal. Considering that the comparison is not equal because the rival is a woman, what are the mechanisms of active competition in humans? I would say no one, absolutely no one, and that is the key and big difference. And if, other than betrayal, one gets to the end of the report, what are the reactions one can expect from one's husband or companion ever? If homosexual relationships between women are to turn into lovingly stable relationships, then take other mechanisms: there is disappointment, the end of the story, a sense of betrayal, but it is not physical, but ideological.
Lover for sex
Perhaps your husband is too used to you, has stopped noticing your advantages, and sex has become routine and rare. He even stopped kissing you just like that, but this is vital for female body! After numerous hints, initiative in bed, you go and look for a lover solely for sex.
You betrayed a promise, word from If you decide to report betrayal or the end of a relationship because you invaded a woman, what is it best way do this? There is no best universal way. It depends on the relationship and the partner. It seems absurd, but in these cases, "I wasn't happy anymore, we didn't give it enough or didn't give me what I needed" is fine. Author's opinion How did the idea for this book come about? If desired, tell the woman that it was a container of a thousand women. And this is not a budget for 40 years, but an “analysis”.
She rediscovers a woman beyond her roles, in addition to her daily struggles. a woman creates her own personality, hates and learns to love her, and she makes manly questions and gives answers that seem convenient, but true and false in every morality, a figure in which many men have been eventually found. Why did you choose the theme of love between two women? I have an idea that loving women in any form is a special love. A woman knows what a woman wants. Because it's normal and common to fall in love and love with eyes closed, leather leather.
Pros
There are lovers for sex everywhere - what kind of man would refuse an easy affair? It can be beautiful and exciting, champagne, flowers, everything unfamiliar and passionate.
Cons
Very soon you may find that your orgasm does not tend to come regularly during sex with this delightful man. Well, at least because he doesn’t understand what exactly you need, and it’s somehow strange to explain. Or maybe you just lack love, which is not at all included in your plans with this particular person. Well, how can you fall in love with the storekeeper Sergei, who has a beautiful body, but the intelligence of a grasshopper and three children?
Who was inspired to tell the story of Nina and Eva? For the protagonist, living this love with Eva is something of a doubling from her daily life with her husband and children, an erotic and sentimental escape, but in the end she confesses to Michele, her companion forever, precisely because she was confused by her reality, believing that many women will live in everyday life just like telling Nina’s truth to her husband the truth? Eva is an escape, a little suitcase to escape where you just need to stay with her.
Nina won't admit it, but she says she's different and she's convinced, she tells her husband to bring her to her in his business, Michelle represents the glue between Nina and the children, which she never questions. Women who confess are those who wash their guilt or those who decided to go. Nina does not feel guilty or wants to leave the family. Nina's husband, before his wife's betrayal, says that it is even more difficult to have a woman rival. Why is this from his point of view? And how did he explain this in his novel? Because when they are betrayed, they look for explanations.
Chat
Okay, your legal in once again ran off to go fishing, giggling stupidly, confirming your suspicions that intelligence is not his strong point. And you, in addition to cooking, washing and children, need to talk to someone. About Kusturica, about karma, about the influence of the northern lights on the afterlife of insects. And then an old acquaintance turns up with whom you can discuss all this.
But if the other is different, there is no comparison. What is the secret of love among women? What do they say that they share? What does it mean to make love among women? Her husband doesn't know and can't even imagine it. In this we measure the distance and diversity between a man and a woman. In the novel, Michele is the one who eventually finds the explanation: there is no comparison, there is no competition, and there is no way to erase this experience of the totalizing meaning that his wife makes, and he realizes that he does not need to fix it, that he does not need to fill empty place, but he needs to learn to live with this other woman.
Pros
Why do you need a lover? By by and large, physical relationships are not even needed here, you get an intellectual orgasm. Life is again playing with bright colors, because even scientists confirm that relationships in which a man and a woman are the same in terms of intelligence are much more durable and interesting.
Cons
Michelle leaves space for Nina to clear things up for Eva. will the husband be involved in real life to his wife's betrayal with "another woman"? Michele has two options: throw her out of the house or renew her with all of Eva in her head. He chooses this second path not because he is a coward, but because he recognizes his wife's freedom to love beyond his boundaries. Let him explain to Eva, Michel is no longer afraid, so he is no longer afraid of this love and does not live with a ghost. Michele is convinced that love did not take him away, but gave him another Nina, perhaps a more complete one.
Acceptance is not difficult, complexity does not refute it. However, starting a new path is a sign of the greatness of being and a person who respects the freedom of others. Happiness does not go hand in hand with business married man. At first everything may look good, even great. You tend to turn a blind eye to the fact that the person you are dating is married. However, he is acting incredible and everything is so good between you two. You don't yet see the dark side of things and you will be endlessly disappointed.
You may fall in love, and he may fall in love with you. And then an easy relationship will turn into a nightmare with divorce. And it’s not a fact that living with this person will be as comfortable as living with your fishing enthusiast. He, despite his narrow-mindedness, knows how to hold everything on his shoulders, but whether a wonderful intellectual can do all this is a big question.
Do you need a virtual lover?
Ideal option, don't you think? Well, it’s true, few of us could resist the temptation to start a virtual romance. Letters, SMS, messages on social networks...Romance!
Why do women get married? We often hear the phrase that everything good people already busy. Therefore, when this mistress is married, he is really good. However, what woman would take her if something was wrong? If you can see your wife and it looks good, that's definitely another big plus for him. You feel flattered that, despite his beautiful wife, you are interested in him. If a man turns out to be a caring father, he completely disarms most women.
What women are looking for from married man- gender or love? Sometimes, although rarely, women are also afraid of tying. They admire other people who have happy relationships and even secretly envy them. When they encounter someone who already has a family, they are much more likely to fall in love. The man is already taken, which suits them.
Pros
It's not like it's cheating. You've never seen him, and light flirting only increases your feeling self-esteem and inner attractiveness. Dear, this is not at all what you think, but only the exchange of photos, emoticons with kisses and no sex!
Cons
Never meet him in person. 90% that it will turn out to be completely different from what you imagined. Well, not like that at all. Many people write much better than they speak...
Or, even worse, he will turn out to be exactly as you imagined him - subtle, sensual, beautiful and smart, who will immediately understand that you are exactly the same as he thought. And he has a wife, mother-in-law, children and a guinea pig, Vanessa. And you have your own trunk with a mortgage behind you. And how to live with this now?
Other times it is “forbidden fruit.” Women's logic is that everyone deserves happiness, but most of all they deserve happiness. It doesn't matter at what cost. What matters is that they feel good about themselves and will get what they want, regardless of the fact that they are prohibited.
A woman can be attracted to a man for many reasons - from the most stupid to the most significant. The simplest explanation is sometimes that women are attracted to men they can't have. Women want what controls them and they will do anything to get it.
Who is to blame - a woman or a man? Most people blame the woman who interferes and threatens to destroy the family. It is true that she has no place, it is superfluous. On the other hand, however, no one can be forced to do anything to force, right? Usually men are the ones who take action because they are always ready for a quick flirt and more.
To have a lover or not is, of course, a personal matter for each of us. Maybe it’s just that at this moment your family is going through a difficult period and you need to help it, and not run away from the problem into the arms of someone else’s man? After all, your own husband can be the object of someone’s desires? Take a closer look, he’s basically nothing at all!
Every woman wants to love and be loved. However, even married women often complain that they do not see enough attention, love, affection, and sex from their partner.
When a man is having an affair outside of marriage, he is not looking for a woman to take care of. He is looking for a woman he likes and something to offer. In fact, some women like it, it's interesting to be the “other woman.” They don't want to be wives - do housework, look after children, have a family. Some women have a lot of freedom, and a relationship with a married man is ideal for them.
Finally, whatever the hopes and expectations of this relationship, it all ends. And very often the end is accompanied by pain, disappointment and suffering. It's very difficult to read your message. You men don't pay attention to these problems, but they are important. Writing is a way of communication, and if you do not understand well in writing, it means you don't understand yourself or you're saying something that's bad for the relationship. Communication is absolutely essential to a relationship.
Some people try to survive this situation within themselves, while others begin to think about their lover.
A woman needs love to be a woman.
Married women take lovers based on two
goals - sex (due to dissatisfaction with sex with her husband) and money (persons of a purely mercantile nature). True, there is also, in my opinion, a third category - those who go for it because of stupidity/cockroaches in their heads.
You said that most women are materialistic. If you don't, you won't even get it. You want the woman to raise money with her. Be sure that she earns less than you, because if she earns more, she will not look at you. The victory must be dramatic in many parts. She has to support her body because otherwise you wouldn't want her and much more.
Why are lovers needed?
A woman needs a lot more than a man, and it costs a lot. That is, to ensure the functionality of the relationship, the woman was and is the main pawn in teaching and raising children. Nowadays, much has not changed, even if women have liberated themselves. The man is still responsible to offer material security, to be generous and attentive to her, to show her that he is true, that he is dedicated to their relationship, because to win his love, respect and attention. But if you have pretensions to spend side by side with you, it is not good.
In the life of almost every woman there comes a time “H” when she realizes that she needs to fall in love. “I want to have a lover!” - many women think, but not everyone decides to fulfill what they want. Meanwhile, the best way to get rid of temptation is to give in to it. After all, you can have, raise, and leave a lover on time without any consequences
for the family hearth.
So as not to throw a cart of bored people in the middle of the road family life, a woman needs gentle stroking, powerful
strong touch male hands And kind words, whispered in your ear. And, tired, falling asleep, she whispers to herself: “That’s it. I can't do this anymore. I just need to fall in love. To fall seriously in love, to die from the desire to simply breathe the same air as a person, to have butterflies in your stomach, yes, yes, butterflies, and also to feel
two hot circles of blood circulation.”
A friend answered me about this: “If everything is fine with my husband, then why have a lover?
Maybe people just don’t have enough adrenaline, and there’s always a danger that you’ll get caught, it spurs you on and all that... I’m not talking about myself now, I just don’t rule out such a reason. And I, thank God, have a normal husband, I feel good with him, and I don’t want to look for someone else at all. Besides, I would be disgusted to lie all the time, to invent something..." But I think on the contrary, that it is necessary if you don’t get enough attention and sex from your husband, and it’s useless to talk to him about it. Unfortunately, we My husband went through such a period. As soon as he realized that he could lose me,
became very interested in me again. I didn’t directly talk about betrayal, but he guesses, I think... How right
choose a lover and, most importantly, how to leave him correctly so that it doesn’t hurt excruciatingly?
To have a lover is to take a secret journey, a very short one that concerns only you. It should not have any consequences for family life. It's like life in parentheses. A tired wife suddenly turns into a charming, enthusiastic woman. Breaking away from everyday worries, she floats in a small corner of paradise, feeding on wonderful illusions.
Psychologically, any woman is ready for betrayal if her marriage is not going well. At the same time, she is not at all looking for connections on the side, as is commonly thought. She only fills the “gap” of love.
A woman is always waiting ideal lover. But this is not necessarily a superman in bed. It is enough for a man to be soft, delicate and able to empathize. These are the ones many, even the most super active women, will prefer to desperate Don Juans.
For most women, cheating is a “step of despair.” And men should realize this.
But before a woman decides to move from words to deeds, her soul will be subjected to her own moral torture. Two angels - white and black - will cross swords, trying to win the mistress to their side.
The good girl inside a woman will categorically declare: “A lover is evil, this is a violation of the law on the husband’s copyright on his wife as his property.” The mischievous girl will balk: “I’m not his property!”
The white angel will smile sadly and wisely say: “A lover is the second disappointment of a married woman.” Black will sarcastically remark: “Your lover only needs one thing from you, but give your husband the first, the second, and the compote.”
But no matter what they tell you, let it win common sense and women's intuition. Let a one-night adventure, a holiday or office romance happen to you, or maybe even a long road in the dunes. A lover should be neither better nor worse than husband. He just has to be different! This is the most important thing. He must compensate for the woman everything that she lacks in the family. And for every representative of beauty
gender needs its own unique puzzle in the mosaic of relationships, but at the same time, all lovers should still have common features.
One American psychoanalyst said that women outside of marriage are not looking for sex, but for emotional support, but for
they are forced to pay for this emotional support with their bodies. Because which man will provide emotional support to a woman without taking her to bed?
If a lady does take a lover, then he becomes for her not only and not so much a bed partner,
how much a friend, a loved one and a vest in which you can cry.
When does a woman’s path to adultery? There is also a clear opinion of specialists on this matter. family relations- long before marriage. Most women join
into marriage between twenty and twenty-six years. And they get their first lover after thirty. The time interval is decent to fully enjoy the delights of marriage.
Woman is different from woman. One is active, loves sports, travel, arguments with friends and frequent sex. The other is “middle-class”: she can go out with a friend, or maybe sit at home. There are, and there are quite a few of them, cute home hens. Sex, and not yet with a husband, is for such people
almost unthinkable. And no super feelings will force such a woman to betray her home. And that's probably great!
Happy is the man who chose a "bush" as his wife. These are the most faithful.
Unless one out of a hundred decides to change. So some calculation when choosing a wife will not hurt. If, of course, you value the future of your family.
It’s curious: if a “middle peasant” or an inactive woman married for love, then the pattern of their infidelities unfolds in approximately the same spiral as that of active, calculating women. Except these ones are more careful. For a chance connection with an unfamiliar man they won't go. But they will willingly start an affair with a friend or work colleague of their husband. The secret of choice is simple: such ladies try to assert themselves in this way. For
The main thing for them is to feel (especially if the husband’s love has cooled) that they are loved. Dearly loved!
Well, what about those representatives of the fairer sex who entered into their marriage because “it’s the right thing to do”? The situation is completely different here. Such ladies hardly belong to the category of active women, ready to “take life by the throat” at any moment. Rather, it is a female “moderate type”. There is a possibility that such a woman will cheat on her husband and take a lover. But it's not that big. And their lovers, as a rule, are men whom they... invented for themselves. Well, in general, they are completely different from their husbands.
And that's why the majority married women“leftist” novels are still novels, and not one-time “fucking.” Of course, no one knows in advance what will come of it, but the woman is tuning in specifically for an emotional connection, for a long-term relationship. And, as a rule, if you manage to keep a secret, such relationships can last for years. And sometimes they lead to
divorce - it is a rare woman who is able to “work on two fronts.”
Moreover, it is not at all necessary that she will leave for her lover. Statistics show that during a divorce, in a triangle situation, men, as a rule, leave for a new passion, and a woman more often simply leaves her husband: to nowhere. Not to
to whom, and - from whom.
WHY SHE CHEATS
1 FROM BOREDOM. Her husband is constantly on a business trip or at work, and she simply has nothing to do with herself.
2 FROM DISSATISFACTION. Over the years sex life in the family
often happens less and less, so women make up for this
shortage on the side.
3 FROM EXCESSIVE ATTENTION. Women do not like losers - even if they themselves are the winner.
4 OUT OF CURIOSITY. Sometimes ladies go to the left just for the sake of
make sure that their husband is better than other representatives of the stronger sex.
5 BECAUSE OF MONEY. Often women whose husbands earn little decide to cheat for financial reasons.
6 FOR THE LOVE OF ROMANCE. She was tired of endless cooking, ironing
and washing - I so want sighs under the moon and beautiful confessions, and the husband
perceives her desires solely as a stupid whim.
OUT OF RESULT. If a woman feels that her husband pays little attention to her and does not
appreciates her, she asserts herself through connections on the side.
8 FROM DESPAIR. When a woman sees that her husband has lost interest in her, but cannot do anything about it.
9FROM WEAKNESS. There are such experienced seducers that almost no lady can resist.
10 BECAUSE I fell out of love. This, unfortunately, is the most common reason female infidelities, and it is impossible to protect yourself from it.